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  • A few years ago, I came across someone who was adamant that people should stick by their blood, no matter how hard things get. Her underlying belief was you should never turn your back on family, even when they do.⁣
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In another conversation with her more recently, I described a situation and asked her for advice. I told her about a young girl who was struggling with severe mental health issues because she was repeatedly getting abused by her father. Before I finished the story, she interrupted me in anger and said that the girl needed to seek help and escape her father, with urgency.⁣
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The mind is like a sponge that absorbs what it is exposed to. Often, the simplest solution to improving mental health is to filter what you consume. This includes distancing yourself from emotionally triggering people – even if it is family.⁣
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A lot of people do not talk about their mental health issues. Many of them feel like they have to put on a brave face and pretend everything's okay. So we never realize the extent of their suffering. Therefore, when they choose to part ways from certain individuals, they're called selfish, weak or given a hard time. Sometimes, we don't realize that it's life or death for them. That's not always in a physical sense; you can still be alive in someone's presence and feel dead inside.⁣
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Nevertheless, you can evolve to a place where these people do not emotionally trigger you in the same way, and still recognize that they're unhealthy to be around. You can love them from a distance and want what's best for them, without keeping them active in your life. Not everyone is meant for a permanent place in our journey. A part of growth is being aware of energy that doesn't align with yours, without absorbing it.⁣
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P.S. Prioritize your own wounds so you can be a genuine source of healing, but remember, you aren't going to be everyone's saviour.⁣
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#VexKing
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    A few years ago, I came across someone who was adamant that people should stick by their blood, no matter how hard things get. Her underlying belief was you should never turn your back on family, even when they do.⁣

    In another conversation with her more recently, I described a situation and asked her for advice. I told her about a young girl who was struggling with severe mental health issues because she was repeatedly getting abused by her father. Before I finished the story, she interrupted me in anger and said that the girl needed to seek help and escape her father, with urgency.⁣

    The mind is like a sponge that absorbs what it is exposed to. Often, the simplest solution to improving mental health is to filter what you consume. This includes distancing yourself from emotionally triggering people – even if it is family.⁣

    A lot of people do not talk about their mental health issues. Many of them feel like they have to put on a brave face and pretend everything's okay. So we never realize the extent of their suffering. Therefore, when they choose to part ways from certain individuals, they're called selfish, weak or given a hard time. Sometimes, we don't realize that it's life or death for them. That's not always in a physical sense; you can still be alive in someone's presence and feel dead inside.⁣

    Nevertheless, you can evolve to a place where these people do not emotionally trigger you in the same way, and still recognize that they're unhealthy to be around. You can love them from a distance and want what's best for them, without keeping them active in your life. Not everyone is meant for a permanent place in our journey. A part of growth is being aware of energy that doesn't align with yours, without absorbing it.⁣

    P.S. Prioritize your own wounds so you can be a genuine source of healing, but remember, you aren't going to be everyone's saviour.⁣

    #VexKing

  •  10,930  0  6 hours ago
  • Trying to satisfy everyone ends up with no one being satisfied – including yourself. Ultimately, when you refrain from pleasing people, you lose them. However, I find that when you try to please everyone around you, you lose yourself even more – and you still lose people.
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Social media is making it clear that we are heading towards a world that requires more validation. A lot of us seek social approval through likes, comments, shares, followers, or whatever else you may use to measure your likability and worth. As an online influencer, it may be even harder because your content’s engagement may be critical to the endorsements you receive – and therefore, how you live. For this reason, you may be trained to care what others think of everything you post, obsessively.⁣
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It’s easy to accept other people’s opinions and behaviours towards you, as a reflection of your own identity. In our rational minds, it’s obvious. If you get no likes, no one likes you. If someone DM’s you saying you’re beautiful, you must be attractive. If people are sharing your work, your work must be decent. Right? No, and you already know why.
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Even if it’s passive, we tend to let other people control our lives. For this reason, we allow them to control our happiness. Acceptance at any given moment is vital to happiness, yet some of us never seem to accept ourselves and our lives, unless others do.⁣
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No text back? No swipes on Tinder? No likes on your video? No problem. As much as this world is developing to encourage us to look for validation externally, you must remember that only you can validate yourself. Furthermore, if you believe in a Creator, do you think they are going to label you “ugly” because no one is liking your selfies or showing interest in you? Do you think your existence developed with the label “ugly” in mind? Don’t forget your worth. Ever.
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    Trying to satisfy everyone ends up with no one being satisfied – including yourself. Ultimately, when you refrain from pleasing people, you lose them. However, I find that when you try to please everyone around you, you lose yourself even more – and you still lose people.
⁣
    Social media is making it clear that we are heading towards a world that requires more validation. A lot of us seek social approval through likes, comments, shares, followers, or whatever else you may use to measure your likability and worth. As an online influencer, it may be even harder because your content’s engagement may be critical to the endorsements you receive – and therefore, how you live. For this reason, you may be trained to care what others think of everything you post, obsessively.⁣

    It’s easy to accept other people’s opinions and behaviours towards you, as a reflection of your own identity. In our rational minds, it’s obvious. If you get no likes, no one likes you. If someone DM’s you saying you’re beautiful, you must be attractive. If people are sharing your work, your work must be decent. Right? No, and you already know why.
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    Even if it’s passive, we tend to let other people control our lives. For this reason, we allow them to control our happiness. Acceptance at any given moment is vital to happiness, yet some of us never seem to accept ourselves and our lives, unless others do.⁣

    No text back? No swipes on Tinder? No likes on your video? No problem. As much as this world is developing to encourage us to look for validation externally, you must remember that only you can validate yourself. Furthermore, if you believe in a Creator, do you think they are going to label you “ugly” because no one is liking your selfies or showing interest in you? Do you think your existence developed with the label “ugly” in mind? Don’t forget your worth. Ever.
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    #VexKing

  •  12,583  0  20 October, 2019
  • Physical attraction isn’t everything. Someone who comes across as rude will lose their appeal very quickly – and that’s why it’s safe to say that beauty is more than what meets the eye. Here are some factors which I personally attribute to beauty, beyond looks.⁣
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LIGHTHEARTEDNESS:⁣
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Taking yourself seriously, but not taking life too seriously. Having that connection to your inner child, without being childlike. Having fun, laughing and enjoying life. Living carefree without being careless.⁣
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GOOD MORAL VALUES:⁣
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While this can be subjective, good moral values are beliefs that encourage more love and unity in the world. I think this is the best way to discern between right and wrong.⁣
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:⁣
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Having the ability to understand, manage and express your emotions, as well as being aware of other people’s emotional states.⁣
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A KIND AND GRATEFUL HEART:⁣
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Showing, spreading and embracing love. This is about humility and purpose; giving to others without expectation and making a difference. Also, it’s about recognizing and appreciating your needs too. A grateful heart will identify and value the goodness in life and others – even amongst the darkness.⁣
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AUTHENTICITY AND HONESTY:⁣
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Being yourself and accepting who you are, while telling the truth – without being rude or hurtful.⁣
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A DESIRE TO DO AND BE BETTER:⁣
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Ambition to be the best person you can be so you can lead a greater life and make the world a better place. This includes dedicating yourself to the elevation of your mind, body and spirit. Which leads me to my final point...⁣
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COMMITMENT AND CONSISTENCY:⁣
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When someone shows commitment to a goal or person, they are expressing how important they are to them. This drives consistency too – where constructive actions are carried out regularly, even through discomfort. This has everything to do with effort. A lot of the time, it shows emotional stability and maturity –  like when someone treats you the same today, as they did yesterday, and the day before that.⁣
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It’s important to realize that no one is perfect and has it all figured out. We must also know what we bring to the table and where we have the potential to grow.⁣
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    Physical attraction isn’t everything. Someone who comes across as rude will lose their appeal very quickly – and that’s why it’s safe to say that beauty is more than what meets the eye. Here are some factors which I personally attribute to beauty, beyond looks.⁣

    LIGHTHEARTEDNESS:⁣

    Taking yourself seriously, but not taking life too seriously. Having that connection to your inner child, without being childlike. Having fun, laughing and enjoying life. Living carefree without being careless.⁣

    GOOD MORAL VALUES:⁣

    While this can be subjective, good moral values are beliefs that encourage more love and unity in the world. I think this is the best way to discern between right and wrong.⁣

    EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:⁣

    Having the ability to understand, manage and express your emotions, as well as being aware of other people’s emotional states.⁣

    A KIND AND GRATEFUL HEART:⁣

    Showing, spreading and embracing love. This is about humility and purpose; giving to others without expectation and making a difference. Also, it’s about recognizing and appreciating your needs too. A grateful heart will identify and value the goodness in life and others – even amongst the darkness.⁣

    AUTHENTICITY AND HONESTY:⁣

    Being yourself and accepting who you are, while telling the truth – without being rude or hurtful.⁣

    A DESIRE TO DO AND BE BETTER:⁣

    Ambition to be the best person you can be so you can lead a greater life and make the world a better place. This includes dedicating yourself to the elevation of your mind, body and spirit. Which leads me to my final point...⁣

    COMMITMENT AND CONSISTENCY:⁣

    When someone shows commitment to a goal or person, they are expressing how important they are to them. This drives consistency too – where constructive actions are carried out regularly, even through discomfort. This has everything to do with effort. A lot of the time, it shows emotional stability and maturity – like when someone treats you the same today, as they did yesterday, and the day before that.⁣

    It’s important to realize that no one is perfect and has it all figured out. We must also know what we bring to the table and where we have the potential to grow.⁣

    #VexKing

  •  16,531  0  18 October, 2019
  • A girl described “good guys” as boring because they didn’t provide excitement and suspense. Whereas, the instability of “bad boys” provided thrills and rushes.⁣
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Delving deeper, she said peace made her feel uneasy because she was raised in an unstable environment. She found it easier to function in chaos – and accept it. In fact, calmness drove her crazy as she would be waiting for something to go wrong. And if it didn't, she would instigate the drama herself.⁣
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Psychology has shown that our childhoods shape us. Even just the way we express love and pick our partners stem from behaviour patterns formed at a young age; parenting plays a massive role. For example, those who grow up in disorderly homes with dominant and violent parents can end up with controlling life-partners who mirror the same behaviours. As a result, they find peaceful situations uncomfortable (as they are unfamiliar), and people often take advantage of them.⁣
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With clarity, you can identify how harmful this is, and how these individuals might suffer from low self-esteem and use compliance to survive. It is also common for these individuals to go on to struggle with anxiety and depression. As you can see, we can quickly end up with an unhealthy partner just out of an initial temporary comfort that stems from a deeply-rooted fear. We unconsciously encourage the same patterns we lived through, instead of breaking these cycles by living consciously and questioning our choices. We give them continuity for generations to come.⁣
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This is why so many people experience the same types of “bad” relationships and even end up going back to the same narcissistic partners. They fail to put a stop to these patterns and switch things up; usually because it requires a more forced, uncomfortable and conscious approach.⁣
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I believe that when we lack conscious awareness when making relationship choices, we end up with a fear-driven love that’s based on an unhealthy attachment style – and this has long-term implications. While every relationship faces troubles, these relationships fail to flow. They promote more heartache than joy while feeling like imprisonment rather than liberation.⁣
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#VexKing
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    A girl described “good guys” as boring because they didn’t provide excitement and suspense. Whereas, the instability of “bad boys” provided thrills and rushes.⁣

    Delving deeper, she said peace made her feel uneasy because she was raised in an unstable environment. She found it easier to function in chaos – and accept it. In fact, calmness drove her crazy as she would be waiting for something to go wrong. And if it didn't, she would instigate the drama herself.⁣

    Psychology has shown that our childhoods shape us. Even just the way we express love and pick our partners stem from behaviour patterns formed at a young age; parenting plays a massive role. For example, those who grow up in disorderly homes with dominant and violent parents can end up with controlling life-partners who mirror the same behaviours. As a result, they find peaceful situations uncomfortable (as they are unfamiliar), and people often take advantage of them.⁣

    With clarity, you can identify how harmful this is, and how these individuals might suffer from low self-esteem and use compliance to survive. It is also common for these individuals to go on to struggle with anxiety and depression. As you can see, we can quickly end up with an unhealthy partner just out of an initial temporary comfort that stems from a deeply-rooted fear. We unconsciously encourage the same patterns we lived through, instead of breaking these cycles by living consciously and questioning our choices. We give them continuity for generations to come.⁣

    This is why so many people experience the same types of “bad” relationships and even end up going back to the same narcissistic partners. They fail to put a stop to these patterns and switch things up; usually because it requires a more forced, uncomfortable and conscious approach.⁣

    I believe that when we lack conscious awareness when making relationship choices, we end up with a fear-driven love that’s based on an unhealthy attachment style – and this has long-term implications. While every relationship faces troubles, these relationships fail to flow. They promote more heartache than joy while feeling like imprisonment rather than liberation.⁣

    #VexKing

  •  13,788  0  15 October, 2019
  • When I told my mum that I was going to mention some of our hardships in my book, she turned around and said, “No don’t put them in, they’re embarrassing.” To which I replied, “Nothing was embarrassing by the way we lived. It’s a part of our story, and they may inspire someone.”⁣
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However, at the time, I also felt embarrassed. I felt ashamed about being homeless and not having money, amongst many other things. Sometimes, it’s easier to focus on what you lack than what you have because you compare yourself to those who are perceived to be doing better than you.⁣
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The truth is, I should never have felt embarrassed. I am who I am today because of my past. A lot of the embarrassment was the result of being self-conscious of how others would view or judge me. And, even though some people did mock me for not being in a great place, I’ve learned that those judgements won’t stop when you’re at a more desirable place.⁣
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For example, you can be broke and say something about injustice in the world, and people will applaud you. You can then raise your finances through your hard-earned dreams and create a platform for yourself to talk about the same injustices in the world, and people will ridicule you by saying you don’t understand or you’re a hypocrite. Just a note here, without inner-peace and appreciation, you can still feel broke, despite how great your finances look.⁣
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Some people expect you to remain in a situation and place your whole life there. They’re happy watching you struggle and complain, but not with you doing well. They can even make you feel guilty for your progress. They may have supported you during your come up, but will then try to be responsible for your downfall, even though you haven’t changed as a person, only your lifestyle has. ⁣
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You could also be the richest person in the world and then give away all your wealth to charity, and people will have criticism to share about both circumstances.⁣
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Not everyone will support your growth and progress. But don’t let that stop you from accepting your struggle and appreciating the things you’ve worked hard for. Every part of your journey is beautiful.⁣
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#VexKing #Hardships
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    When I told my mum that I was going to mention some of our hardships in my book, she turned around and said, “No don’t put them in, they’re embarrassing.” To which I replied, “Nothing was embarrassing by the way we lived. It’s a part of our story, and they may inspire someone.”⁣

    However, at the time, I also felt embarrassed. I felt ashamed about being homeless and not having money, amongst many other things. Sometimes, it’s easier to focus on what you lack than what you have because you compare yourself to those who are perceived to be doing better than you.⁣

    The truth is, I should never have felt embarrassed. I am who I am today because of my past. A lot of the embarrassment was the result of being self-conscious of how others would view or judge me. And, even though some people did mock me for not being in a great place, I’ve learned that those judgements won’t stop when you’re at a more desirable place.⁣

    For example, you can be broke and say something about injustice in the world, and people will applaud you. You can then raise your finances through your hard-earned dreams and create a platform for yourself to talk about the same injustices in the world, and people will ridicule you by saying you don’t understand or you’re a hypocrite. Just a note here, without inner-peace and appreciation, you can still feel broke, despite how great your finances look.⁣

    Some people expect you to remain in a situation and place your whole life there. They’re happy watching you struggle and complain, but not with you doing well. They can even make you feel guilty for your progress. They may have supported you during your come up, but will then try to be responsible for your downfall, even though you haven’t changed as a person, only your lifestyle has. ⁣

    You could also be the richest person in the world and then give away all your wealth to charity, and people will have criticism to share about both circumstances.⁣

    Not everyone will support your growth and progress. But don’t let that stop you from accepting your struggle and appreciating the things you’ve worked hard for. Every part of your journey is beautiful.⁣

    #VexKing #Hardships

  •  15,666  0  14 October, 2019
  • Tag someone to inspire and motivate. ✨🙏🏽✨
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When we talk about Good Vibes Only, we're talking about keeping your vibration as high as you can so that you can encourage more pleasant experiences to come your way. Positive energy brings about positive changes. These steps here will help you protect your vibe from being lowered. When we vibe at a lower frequency, we bring about undesirable changes. This is why we must do our best to protect our energy. For more information on this idea, please read my book. You’ll also get an extension of this list and see how it all relates to self-love.
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Number 8 may get misinterpreted so let me try to explain this point. Every person in the world has their own set of goals, perceptions and opinions – we cannot control these things. The sooner you accept that you cannot please everyone, the sooner you’ll own your life and feel better about the decisions you make. Too often say “no” to ourselves when we say “yes” to others. We try to fulfil other people’s expectations while our spirit feels empty. We must live in line with our truths, take care of our needs and remain full of love, before trying to serve others. Otherwise, no one will be satisfied.
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P.S. This is one of my old posts that I’ve remade. It’s done its rounds on the Internet – many people have posted it and taken my name tag out. I originally made it before my book.
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#VexKing #RaiseYourVibe
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    @vexking

    Tag someone to inspire and motivate. ✨🙏🏽✨
    .
    When we talk about Good Vibes Only, we're talking about keeping your vibration as high as you can so that you can encourage more pleasant experiences to come your way. Positive energy brings about positive changes. These steps here will help you protect your vibe from being lowered. When we vibe at a lower frequency, we bring about undesirable changes. This is why we must do our best to protect our energy. For more information on this idea, please read my book. You’ll also get an extension of this list and see how it all relates to self-love.
    .
    Number 8 may get misinterpreted so let me try to explain this point. Every person in the world has their own set of goals, perceptions and opinions – we cannot control these things. The sooner you accept that you cannot please everyone, the sooner you’ll own your life and feel better about the decisions you make. Too often say “no” to ourselves when we say “yes” to others. We try to fulfil other people’s expectations while our spirit feels empty. We must live in line with our truths, take care of our needs and remain full of love, before trying to serve others. Otherwise, no one will be satisfied.
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    P.S. This is one of my old posts that I’ve remade. It’s done its rounds on the Internet – many people have posted it and taken my name tag out. I originally made it before my book.
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    #VexKing #RaiseYourVibe

  •  18,523  0  13 October, 2019
  • It’s #WorldMentalHealthDay so I thought I’d share this list with you 💙 Please tag anyone that can benefit from it. 👇🏽
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Here are some points to keep in mind:
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It’s okay not to be okay all the time. We have all suffered from poor mental health – you’re not weak for being like the rest of us.
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Don’t be afraid to reach out to people and to consider some form of therapy – it’s now the norm and one of the best investments you can make.
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The key words in this post specifically are “improve” and “mental health” (not illness).
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Everything is easier said than done, but we can always make an effort.
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I’m only sharing what’s worked positively for me and others in the past having been extremely low – but it’s often not one-size-fits-all.
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Start small and build momentum – for example, if you’re struggling to take big actions, take small ones first like making your bed (like point 16 suggests).
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Make changes across your whole life – consistency matters.
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Check out my book for more understanding and clarity behind this list.
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I strongly recommend that you check out research by Johan Hari if you want to learn specifically about depression. His work shows that seven out of the nine causes of depression stem from disconnection.
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I’ve only shared this to help you and because I believe you can get through whatever it is that you’re facing.
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The long-term solution to any mental health issue is understanding the reasons behind the feelings equating to sadness and then finding a solution, but we can’t always do this alone. If you can offer your help or space for people to stay connected, please do. Thank you to all the caregivers and individuals who are out there supporting people with mental health difficulties. I know it’s not always easy, and I know you’re doing your best.
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#VexKing
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    @vexking

    It’s  #WorldMentalHealthDay so I thought I’d share this list with you 💙 Please tag anyone that can benefit from it. 👇🏽
    .
    Here are some points to keep in mind:
    .
    It’s okay not to be okay all the time. We have all suffered from poor mental health – you’re not weak for being like the rest of us.
    .
    Don’t be afraid to reach out to people and to consider some form of therapy – it’s now the norm and one of the best investments you can make.
    .
    The key words in this post specifically are “improve” and “mental health” (not illness).
    .
    Everything is easier said than done, but we can always make an effort.
    .
    I’m only sharing what’s worked positively for me and others in the past having been extremely low – but it’s often not one-size-fits-all.
    .
    Start small and build momentum – for example, if you’re struggling to take big actions, take small ones first like making your bed (like point 16 suggests).
    .
    Make changes across your whole life – consistency matters.
    .
    Check out my book for more understanding and clarity behind this list.
    .
    I strongly recommend that you check out research by Johan Hari if you want to learn specifically about depression. His work shows that seven out of the nine causes of depression stem from disconnection.
    .
    I’ve only shared this to help you and because I believe you can get through whatever it is that you’re facing.
    .
    The long-term solution to any mental health issue is understanding the reasons behind the feelings equating to sadness and then finding a solution, but we can’t always do this alone. If you can offer your help or space for people to stay connected, please do. Thank you to all the caregivers and individuals who are out there supporting people with mental health difficulties. I know it’s not always easy, and I know you’re doing your best.
    .
    #VexKing

  •  17,827  0  10 October, 2019
  • The idea of desire in ancient religious texts is often very misunderstood. Many believe that reaching a state of self-realization involves the extinction of desires. However, desire is the fuel for life – without it, nothing can be attained, including enlightenment. The ideal that is set for humans at higher states of consciousness is to work without selfish desire.
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In the past, I've spoken about how important my relationship has been to my growth, and this is one of the reasons why: I've been encouraged to become more aware of my selfish desires. I have no problem admitting that I came into this relationship believing that I was THE MAN in every sense of what we've been made to believe over centuries of our existence. I entered this relationship as many men do, with power and domination at my forefront, to cover up the fragility at the base of my ego.
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I was quick to learn that to make this relationship work, I had to be willing to understand my partner and work with her, rather than against her. Everything she expressed, was an act of courage. Everything she felt was real. All her insecurities and actions stemmed from something else. I had to dismiss my pride and come to the awareness that my reactions to her were not a reflection of her, but a representation of me.
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The only way forward was to take every single thing that went wrong as an opportunity to learn something about us as individuals, and then figure out how we can continue building. I had to think of our relationship as a home we were constructing together, where our existence was also in each brick that we used. This relationship had a soul as much as we did; it was ours in union. Therefore, I could no longer think of this as Me vs Her, or You and I, it was US – and so, selflessness had to replace selfishness.
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It is our ego, our social mask, which promotes selfish desires and creates a divide in the world; including in our personal relationships. If you genuinely believe that you're meant to be with someone, both individuals must be willing to grow and act selflessly in the relationship. After all, you're a team.
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#VexKing #TwinFlameUnion
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    The idea of desire in ancient religious texts is often very misunderstood. Many believe that reaching a state of self-realization involves the extinction of desires. However, desire is the fuel for life – without it, nothing can be attained, including enlightenment. The ideal that is set for humans at higher states of consciousness is to work without selfish desire.
    .
    In the past, I've spoken about how important my relationship has been to my growth, and this is one of the reasons why: I've been encouraged to become more aware of my selfish desires. I have no problem admitting that I came into this relationship believing that I was THE MAN in every sense of what we've been made to believe over centuries of our existence. I entered this relationship as many men do, with power and domination at my forefront, to cover up the fragility at the base of my ego.
    .
    I was quick to learn that to make this relationship work, I had to be willing to understand my partner and work with her, rather than against her. Everything she expressed, was an act of courage. Everything she felt was real. All her insecurities and actions stemmed from something else. I had to dismiss my pride and come to the awareness that my reactions to her were not a reflection of her, but a representation of me.
    .
    The only way forward was to take every single thing that went wrong as an opportunity to learn something about us as individuals, and then figure out how we can continue building. I had to think of our relationship as a home we were constructing together, where our existence was also in each brick that we used. This relationship had a soul as much as we did; it was ours in union. Therefore, I could no longer think of this as Me vs Her, or You and I, it was US – and so, selflessness had to replace selfishness.
    .
    It is our ego, our social mask, which promotes selfish desires and creates a divide in the world; including in our personal relationships. If you genuinely believe that you're meant to be with someone, both individuals must be willing to grow and act selflessly in the relationship. After all, you're a team.
    .
    #VexKing #TwinFlameUnion

  •  16,347  0  7 October, 2019
  • To live in such a way that you are aware of “problems” but you do not react in ways that create more “problems,” is truly special.
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In our subconscious mind, we hold thought patterns and behavioural tendencies which are based on past actions. When a person or event triggers these into play, new actions are inspired to take place. If the pattern that’s playing is unfavourable (“negative”/disempowering), and we do not interrupt it, our new resonating actions will create a deeper groove in our subconscious mind. In other words, we will fuel the pattern; allowing it to impact us more not just in the present, but in the future. Consequently, these unhelpful patterns will encourage us to take unhelpful actions, which then gives continuity to the cycle of reacting and acting in the same way.
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You see, we are in fact creatures of habit. And, most of us are conditioned to act in ways that do not align with the life we want to create. Life keeps triggering the unconscious patterns inside of us, and we keep reacting, without conscious awareness. These patterns then become so deeply ingrained in us that they’re hard to change. Some of us restrain from any reaction. However, to grow spiritually, a response is needed. We must seek understanding and transformation.
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Sometimes, the idea of karma can seem like nothing but cosmic fantasy. We feel like we need to take control, and therefore, we try to direct what’s happening outside of us. People do us wrong, and we demand their respect, their understanding, an apology or an explanation. Often, we wish to see them suffer in the same way we might have when they hurt us.
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However, these things do not create inner peace. It begins with INNER because it starts with you. Also, remember, just because someone apologises or suffers, it does not mean they will respect you or love you. It does not mean they will be any better off. We cannot control things outside of us.
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Choose calmness amongst chaos – begin with your response, and you will find that peace pervades your mind. Our actions have great significance over our future. Choose ones that support the change you’re trying to create.
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#VexKing #KarmaQuotes
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    To live in such a way that you are aware of “problems” but you do not react in ways that create more “problems,” is truly special.
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    In our subconscious mind, we hold thought patterns and behavioural tendencies which are based on past actions. When a person or event triggers these into play, new actions are inspired to take place. If the pattern that’s playing is unfavourable (“negative”/disempowering), and we do not interrupt it, our new resonating actions will create a deeper groove in our subconscious mind. In other words, we will fuel the pattern; allowing it to impact us more not just in the present, but in the future. Consequently, these unhelpful patterns will encourage us to take unhelpful actions, which then gives continuity to the cycle of reacting and acting in the same way.
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    You see, we are in fact creatures of habit. And, most of us are conditioned to act in ways that do not align with the life we want to create. Life keeps triggering the unconscious patterns inside of us, and we keep reacting, without conscious awareness. These patterns then become so deeply ingrained in us that they’re hard to change. Some of us restrain from any reaction. However, to grow spiritually, a response is needed. We must seek understanding and transformation.
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    Sometimes, the idea of karma can seem like nothing but cosmic fantasy. We feel like we need to take control, and therefore, we try to direct what’s happening outside of us. People do us wrong, and we demand their respect, their understanding, an apology or an explanation. Often, we wish to see them suffer in the same way we might have when they hurt us.
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    However, these things do not create inner peace. It begins with INNER because it starts with you. Also, remember, just because someone apologises or suffers, it does not mean they will respect you or love you. It does not mean they will be any better off. We cannot control things outside of us.
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    Choose calmness amongst chaos – begin with your response, and you will find that peace pervades your mind. Our actions have great significance over our future. Choose ones that support the change you’re trying to create.
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    #VexKing #KarmaQuotes

  •  20,300  0  6 October, 2019
  • Although I’m not a parent, here’s a piece of advice that I think is useful when raising a child. When they do something wrong, don’t just tell them to say sorry, but make sure they understand why they’re apologizing. Allow them to demonstrate it: “I’m sorry for [action] because I understand that by doing it [reason why it’s wrong].”
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There’s a big difference between apologizing for a mistake and learning from a mistake. If you do not understand the consequences of your actions, you are likely to repeat them. As adults, when we make a mistake, we must not only be aware of what we did, but we must recognize its implications; how our actions might be hurtful or harmful. That’s why when you say sorry, you must clearly outline what you’re saying sorry for.
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Remember, start with the word “sorry” and avoid using the word “but” straight after. Trying to justify your wrongdoings can make your apology seem less sincere and like you don’t care that you hurt the person you’re apologizing to.
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How do you make up for a mistake? You change your behaviour – you do better. It doesn’t matter if they accept your apology or not. Those who clearly see that their behaviour was wrong will then feel inspired to change their ways. If you genuinely identify a problem with your actions, you will facilitate your own change. You will acknowledge how unhealthy it is to remain the same.
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#VexKing #ForgivenessQuotes
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    Although I’m not a parent, here’s a piece of advice that I think is useful when raising a child. When they do something wrong, don’t just tell them to say sorry, but make sure they understand why they’re apologizing. Allow them to demonstrate it: “I’m sorry for [action] because I understand that by doing it [reason why it’s wrong].”
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    There’s a big difference between apologizing for a mistake and learning from a mistake. If you do not understand the consequences of your actions, you are likely to repeat them. As adults, when we make a mistake, we must not only be aware of what we did, but we must recognize its implications; how our actions might be hurtful or harmful. That’s why when you say sorry, you must clearly outline what you’re saying sorry for.
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    Remember, start with the word “sorry” and avoid using the word “but” straight after. Trying to justify your wrongdoings can make your apology seem less sincere and like you don’t care that you hurt the person you’re apologizing to.
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    How do you make up for a mistake? You change your behaviour – you do better. It doesn’t matter if they accept your apology or not. Those who clearly see that their behaviour was wrong will then feel inspired to change their ways. If you genuinely identify a problem with your actions, you will facilitate your own change. You will acknowledge how unhealthy it is to remain the same.
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    #VexKing #ForgivenessQuotes

  •  15,075  0  4 October, 2019
  • Type 'OCTOBER IS MY MONTH 🧡' if you're ready to receive👇🏽
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Decide this is your month. Right now. Put it out there so the Universe can begin shifting and working in your favour. The path is not as important as the goal. So, don't try to figure out how you will manifest your desires; you just need to believe in the magic of the Universe. Focusing on the path creates limitations and often breeds fear & doubt; which creates resistance by lowering your vibration.
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As long as you are continuing to feed your faith & beliefs, and keep raising your energy through your thoughts, words, actions and emotions, it will all work out. Allowance is key. The Universe will take the path of least resistance. So, try not to overthink it.
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Think only of what you desire. Speak it into existence. Act with courage. Feel the presence of that which you want; don’t stay stuck on its absence. You are the source of all greatness in your life. Your mind is the limit. Nothing and no one can stop you. Your manifesting skills are impeccable. Don’t forget all the things you have gotten, which were once merely desired.
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Do not give up during challenges ­– take any failures as feedback. Adapt any actions which clearly aren’t working so you can bring in new results. Guard your energy so you can stay above water and keep rising. Let go of anything that isn’t within your control. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and forgive those who were not able to treat you with the respect you deserve. And remember, your perception is your power.
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They say that where attention goes, energy flows, and where energy flows, things grow. What will be your focus? Will you continue to create a future from the lens of the past? Or will you make a change?
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The previous pages to your story do not matter if you take control of the pen and choose to write better pages ahead. This month is yours – if you want it to be!
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#VexKing #NewMonthGoals
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    Type 'OCTOBER IS MY MONTH 🧡' if you're ready to receive👇🏽
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    Decide this is your month. Right now. Put it out there so the Universe can begin shifting and working in your favour. The path is not as important as the goal. So, don't try to figure out how you will manifest your desires; you just need to believe in the magic of the Universe. Focusing on the path creates limitations and often breeds fear & doubt; which creates resistance by lowering your vibration.
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    As long as you are continuing to feed your faith & beliefs, and keep raising your energy through your thoughts, words, actions and emotions, it will all work out. Allowance is key. The Universe will take the path of least resistance. So, try not to overthink it.
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    Think only of what you desire. Speak it into existence. Act with courage. Feel the presence of that which you want; don’t stay stuck on its absence. You are the source of all greatness in your life. Your mind is the limit. Nothing and no one can stop you. Your manifesting skills are impeccable. Don’t forget all the things you have gotten, which were once merely desired.
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    Do not give up during challenges ­– take any failures as feedback. Adapt any actions which clearly aren’t working so you can bring in new results. Guard your energy so you can stay above water and keep rising. Let go of anything that isn’t within your control. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and forgive those who were not able to treat you with the respect you deserve. And remember, your perception is your power.
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    They say that where attention goes, energy flows, and where energy flows, things grow. What will be your focus? Will you continue to create a future from the lens of the past? Or will you make a change?
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    The previous pages to your story do not matter if you take control of the pen and choose to write better pages ahead. This month is yours – if you want it to be!
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    #VexKing #NewMonthGoals

  •  16,589  0  1 October, 2019
  • I have written several posts on boundaries that you may want to refer to for more information. However, here’s a quick definition of a boundary: it is a limit that teaches people how to treat you and what is acceptable. Overstepping the boundary can have repercussions, and these should be established at the time of setting the boundary.
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Boundaries allow us to protect our energy and emotions. They are particularly useful when dealing with people that we want to keep in our lives, without losing our sanity. Let’s face it, often it is those closest to us who are the most overwhelming. Their behaviour towards us can hinder the way we love ourselves, and the way we love them, and those around us.
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For example, if you live under the same roof as your mother-in-law, she may regularly trigger negative emotional responses when you are in her presence. As a result, you may feel unhappy with yourself and anger towards her. The longer we maintain the relationship without boundaries, the more difficult it becomes to bear. As a result, we may destroy our relationship with them and our wellbeing. They might also feel emotional pain, especially if our reactions to them are harmful.
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Boundaries are respectful, assertive statements that can make people more aware of their actions towards you. They can encourage accountability and strengthen relationships. Without them, we may involuntarily condone and provide continuity to disrespectful behaviours and attitudes.
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But, understand this: their reaction to your boundary is not your responsibility or problem. It says more about them than you. If they are unwilling to cooperate, or they continue to disrespect you, it is enough to tell you that they no longer deserve an active role in your life.
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#VexKing #HealthyBoundaries
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    @vexking

    I have written several posts on boundaries that you may want to refer to for more information. However, here’s a quick definition of a boundary: it is a limit that teaches people how to treat you and what is acceptable. Overstepping the boundary can have repercussions, and these should be established at the time of setting the boundary.
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    Boundaries allow us to protect our energy and emotions. They are particularly useful when dealing with people that we want to keep in our lives, without losing our sanity. Let’s face it, often it is those closest to us who are the most overwhelming. Their behaviour towards us can hinder the way we love ourselves, and the way we love them, and those around us.
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    For example, if you live under the same roof as your mother-in-law, she may regularly trigger negative emotional responses when you are in her presence. As a result, you may feel unhappy with yourself and anger towards her. The longer we maintain the relationship without boundaries, the more difficult it becomes to bear. As a result, we may destroy our relationship with them and our wellbeing. They might also feel emotional pain, especially if our reactions to them are harmful.
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    Boundaries are respectful, assertive statements that can make people more aware of their actions towards you. They can encourage accountability and strengthen relationships. Without them, we may involuntarily condone and provide continuity to disrespectful behaviours and attitudes.
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    But, understand this: their reaction to your boundary is not your responsibility or problem. It says more about them than you. If they are unwilling to cooperate, or they continue to disrespect you, it is enough to tell you that they no longer deserve an active role in your life.
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    #VexKing #HealthyBoundaries

  •  19,465  0  30 September, 2019