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VEX KING | Writer & Mind Coach

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  • Why would you listen to negative remarks that are said about you, without shutting those people up? When you undergo conscious expansion, your understanding broadens.
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Firstly, instead of listening to their words, you become attentive to their energy. Once you understand that negative remarks cannot come from a place of love and happiness, you’ll realise that the essence of their words can only stem from unhealed wounds. Their words don't necessarily announce any truths about you. They only express that which arises from perception, and therefore, determines how one feels. With this understanding, you're more likely to embrace compassion over anger and sadness.
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Secondly, you understand that by reacting with hatred, you cannot achieve peace; you can only destroy it. This reaction would feel like success to those who seek to kill your vibe; giving them false satisfaction. Consciously aware individuals like to remain in power. They don't like to give it up. They understand that the aim is always to be happy and no one should let you forget that.
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Thirdly, you know that if someone steals your joy, they steal your productive energy, leaving you to reside on a destructive frequency. We create our reality based on our vibration. If you’re not feeling good, you’re not creating anything good either. Why let others harm your future?
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Finally, you understand that when you react with rage, you lose control of your mind. Anger is the act of making yourself feel unpleasant based on what’s uncomfortable around you. This is the opposite of what we want to achieve. When we lose conscious control, we become a slave to our emotions.
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When people confront you, it’s difficult to remain peaceful. Usually, our unconscious reaction is to say something harsh back. We perceive the situation in a negative light and put ourselves in a state of anger. That anger poisons your system and gives you false hope that someone else will die from it. As it remains in your system, the only person that it harms is you.
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Always remember to focus on your life, growth and happiness. With this in mind, you can never go wrong.
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Artwork: @broken_isnt_bad
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#VexKing #ConsciousCommunity
  • Why would you listen to negative remarks that are said about you, without shutting those people up? When you undergo conscious expansion, your understanding broadens.
    .
    Firstly, instead of listening to their words, you become attentive to their energy. Once you understand that negative remarks cannot come from a place of love and happiness, you’ll realise that the essence of their words can only stem from unhealed wounds. Their words don't necessarily announce any truths about you. They only express that which arises from perception, and therefore, determines how one feels. With this understanding, you're more likely to embrace compassion over anger and sadness.
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    Secondly, you understand that by reacting with hatred, you cannot achieve peace; you can only destroy it. This reaction would feel like success to those who seek to kill your vibe; giving them false satisfaction. Consciously aware individuals like to remain in power. They don't like to give it up. They understand that the aim is always to be happy and no one should let you forget that.
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    Thirdly, you know that if someone steals your joy, they steal your productive energy, leaving you to reside on a destructive frequency. We create our reality based on our vibration. If you’re not feeling good, you’re not creating anything good either. Why let others harm your future?
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    Finally, you understand that when you react with rage, you lose control of your mind. Anger is the act of making yourself feel unpleasant based on what’s uncomfortable around you. This is the opposite of what we want to achieve. When we lose conscious control, we become a slave to our emotions.
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    When people confront you, it’s difficult to remain peaceful. Usually, our unconscious reaction is to say something harsh back. We perceive the situation in a negative light and put ourselves in a state of anger. That anger poisons your system and gives you false hope that someone else will die from it. As it remains in your system, the only person that it harms is you.
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    Always remember to focus on your life, growth and happiness. With this in mind, you can never go wrong.
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    Artwork: @broken_isnt_bad
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    #VexKing #ConsciousCommunity
  •  11,061  304  3 hours ago

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  • I've noticed that I cannot enjoy a luxury possession without emotional stability. This is because my mind will keep wandering and I will undoubtedly experience dissatisfaction. You can get what you wished for and still feel like it's not enough or not right – even within moments that you receive it. You can take a look at your own life for proof. Find something that you once really wanted and ask yourself if it has ever brought you disappointment. Perhaps it was when someone didn't acknowledge your achievement the way you wanted them to. Or, maybe you compared it to something which you perceived to be greater, and it instantly made you feel unaccomplished or induced a feeling of lack.
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A lot of the time, we want luxuries, such as a fancy car, partly for the experience and partly for validation. When we get what we want, sometimes, our mind fleets into a new space of desire, even while the initial object of desire is in front of us. In other words, it's not enough. Our desires grow and become impersonal – they are no longer about our joy and sense of achievement. Now there may be a desire to earn a reaction from people when they see what we have attained. Here, the true luxury becomes the freedom from desire, so our mind can become stable and hold on to its peace regardless of the external world. Lack of control always creates stress.
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Sometimes, it takes a very honest conversation with yourself to discover that a lot of your pursuits are about what other people think of you. You have to begin to question if you want to manifest something purely for yourself or for others; not in the sense of their wellbeing, but for acknowledgement and validation of a job well done. If it is more for the latter, you forfeit control, and your joy will be under threat.
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The more we become self-aware and grow towards unconditional love and eternal bliss, the more we treasure inner peace – moments of mental stability and calmness. We yearn for a mind that doesn't overthink or overanalyse; one that is not easily triggered by external factors. We seek liberation. The ultimate luxury becomes inner peace.
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Artwork: @miaohki
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#VexKing #SpiritualPath
  • I've noticed that I cannot enjoy a luxury possession without emotional stability. This is because my mind will keep wandering and I will undoubtedly experience dissatisfaction. You can get what you wished for and still feel like it's not enough or not right – even within moments that you receive it. You can take a look at your own life for proof. Find something that you once really wanted and ask yourself if it has ever brought you disappointment. Perhaps it was when someone didn't acknowledge your achievement the way you wanted them to. Or, maybe you compared it to something which you perceived to be greater, and it instantly made you feel unaccomplished or induced a feeling of lack.
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    A lot of the time, we want luxuries, such as a fancy car, partly for the experience and partly for validation. When we get what we want, sometimes, our mind fleets into a new space of desire, even while the initial object of desire is in front of us. In other words, it's not enough. Our desires grow and become impersonal – they are no longer about our joy and sense of achievement. Now there may be a desire to earn a reaction from people when they see what we have attained. Here, the true luxury becomes the freedom from desire, so our mind can become stable and hold on to its peace regardless of the external world. Lack of control always creates stress.
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    Sometimes, it takes a very honest conversation with yourself to discover that a lot of your pursuits are about what other people think of you. You have to begin to question if you want to manifest something purely for yourself or for others; not in the sense of their wellbeing, but for acknowledgement and validation of a job well done. If it is more for the latter, you forfeit control, and your joy will be under threat.
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    The more we become self-aware and grow towards unconditional love and eternal bliss, the more we treasure inner peace – moments of mental stability and calmness. We yearn for a mind that doesn't overthink or overanalyse; one that is not easily triggered by external factors. We seek liberation. The ultimate luxury becomes inner peace.
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    Artwork: @miaohki
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    #VexKing #SpiritualPath
  •  18,282  306  18 March, 2019
  • Here are five crucial lessons on manifestation and happiness. Without awareness and understanding, they can seem quite confusing, so pay attention. The lessons are important to acknowledge if you want to maintain a healthy balance across your life. It's possible to pursue your desires, while growing spiritually. Use the power you have been gifted to harness more peace and pleasure, in the healthiest way.
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1. NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

Don’t aim to remove negative thoughts, try to change your response to them; so that you are left empowered. No human being is free from negative thoughts, 100% of the time, unless they remain detached from the illusion of self with a one-pointedness of mind.
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2. NEGATIVE FEELINGS

Pushing negative feelings aside, only temporarily keeps them out the way, until they return. Invest in long-term results by addressing, understanding and transforming your ill feelings. The key is introspection, self-inquiry and reframing. Positive feelings are essential to manifesting a good life because the Universe returns them to their rightful owner.
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3. FLOW

While you can undoubtedly hone your manifestation skills to bring a result to fruition, accept the flow of life, and that everything serves a higher purpose. Lessons will always present themselves to you so you can evolve. Lessons will repeat themselves until you have proven your new found wisdom. Not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise. Feeding doubt and resistance will invite more of the same, and therefore, postpone blessings.
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4. SUFFERING

Ultimately, we only suffer because of our attachment to outcomes. Expectations only disappoint you because you believe that life must follow a particular path – and when it doesn’t, it hurts. An individual that lives purely for results and not to enjoy the process will dislike the majority of their life.
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5. HAPPINESS

Lasting happiness is never found in sense-objects because everything, including your desires, is subject to change. Your perception at any given moment is your only chance of holding on to happiness forever – with gratitude playing an integral role.
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Artwork: @ellehell
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#VexKing #Manifesting #TrustTheUniverse @sonamkapoor
  • Here are five crucial lessons on manifestation and happiness. Without awareness and understanding, they can seem quite confusing, so pay attention. The lessons are important to acknowledge if you want to maintain a healthy balance across your life. It's possible to pursue your desires, while growing spiritually. Use the power you have been gifted to harness more peace and pleasure, in the healthiest way.
    .
    1. NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

    Don’t aim to remove negative thoughts, try to change your response to them; so that you are left empowered. No human being is free from negative thoughts, 100% of the time, unless they remain detached from the illusion of self with a one-pointedness of mind.
    .
    2. NEGATIVE FEELINGS

    Pushing negative feelings aside, only temporarily keeps them out the way, until they return. Invest in long-term results by addressing, understanding and transforming your ill feelings. The key is introspection, self-inquiry and reframing. Positive feelings are essential to manifesting a good life because the Universe returns them to their rightful owner.
    .
    3. FLOW

    While you can undoubtedly hone your manifestation skills to bring a result to fruition, accept the flow of life, and that everything serves a higher purpose. Lessons will always present themselves to you so you can evolve. Lessons will repeat themselves until you have proven your new found wisdom. Not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise. Feeding doubt and resistance will invite more of the same, and therefore, postpone blessings.
    .
    4. SUFFERING

    Ultimately, we only suffer because of our attachment to outcomes. Expectations only disappoint you because you believe that life must follow a particular path – and when it doesn’t, it hurts. An individual that lives purely for results and not to enjoy the process will dislike the majority of their life.
    .
    5. HAPPINESS

    Lasting happiness is never found in sense-objects because everything, including your desires, is subject to change. Your perception at any given moment is your only chance of holding on to happiness forever – with gratitude playing an integral role.
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    Artwork: @ellehell
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    #VexKing #Manifesting #TrustTheUniverse @sonamkapoor
  •  15,192  350  17 March, 2019

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  • LESSONS IN LOVE:
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1. Nearly all of us go through unpleasant relationships. Some of these include those where villains play the roles of victims and keep us captive to their harmful ways.
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2. Removing yourself from such a relationship takes great strength and courage. Saying goodbye to them, no matter how unhealthy the relationship, can feel like you're saying bye to your identity and joy.
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3. When people learn you are single, they may be quick to join a queue for your attention and win you over. Some may be doing it purely for physical reasons. No matter what, take time to heal after a relationship. Attend to any deep emotional wounds, fears and insecurities that have resurfaced.
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4. It's normal to feel broken after a relationship. Be patient and keep working on yourself. If you jump right back into a relationship with someone else to compensate for a self-love deficit, you will only end up cutting your new partner (and yourself). That love needs to come from you and go to yourself.
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5. Healing takes as long as it does for you to accept what happened and break any attachments; give it time and energy. Your heart never physically breaks – you can place your hand over your chest to hear it beat; it's just your thoughts about your heart shattering which exists. This is along with disempowering thoughts about how you're not worthy or something is wrong with you. In other words, real healing comes from your mindset; even if your process is facilitated, it ultimately comes down to you.
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6. With patience and great care, every troubling relationship will encourage more acceptance of yourself and others. You will no longer require someone else to validate your existence.
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7. Ultimately, you will create space for someone to match your new energy. Someone more worthy to accommodate your heart – even if that means an evolved version of the person you initially lost. And in that relationship, you will distinguish the difference between unconditional love and attachments – allowing you to feel liberated while being committed.
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Artwork: @sinashagrai
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#VexKing #HeartbreakQuotes #EnergyHealer
  • LESSONS IN LOVE:
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    1. Nearly all of us go through unpleasant relationships. Some of these include those where villains play the roles of victims and keep us captive to their harmful ways.
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    2. Removing yourself from such a relationship takes great strength and courage. Saying goodbye to them, no matter how unhealthy the relationship, can feel like you're saying bye to your identity and joy.
    .
    3. When people learn you are single, they may be quick to join a queue for your attention and win you over. Some may be doing it purely for physical reasons. No matter what, take time to heal after a relationship. Attend to any deep emotional wounds, fears and insecurities that have resurfaced.
    .
    4. It's normal to feel broken after a relationship. Be patient and keep working on yourself. If you jump right back into a relationship with someone else to compensate for a self-love deficit, you will only end up cutting your new partner (and yourself). That love needs to come from you and go to yourself.
    .
    5. Healing takes as long as it does for you to accept what happened and break any attachments; give it time and energy. Your heart never physically breaks – you can place your hand over your chest to hear it beat; it's just your thoughts about your heart shattering which exists. This is along with disempowering thoughts about how you're not worthy or something is wrong with you. In other words, real healing comes from your mindset; even if your process is facilitated, it ultimately comes down to you.
    .
    6. With patience and great care, every troubling relationship will encourage more acceptance of yourself and others. You will no longer require someone else to validate your existence.
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    7. Ultimately, you will create space for someone to match your new energy. Someone more worthy to accommodate your heart – even if that means an evolved version of the person you initially lost. And in that relationship, you will distinguish the difference between unconditional love and attachments – allowing you to feel liberated while being committed.
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    Artwork: @sinashagrai
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    #VexKing #HeartbreakQuotes #EnergyHealer
  •  14,067  335  12 March, 2019
  • One thing you will realise when reading my book is that everything you engage in has the potential to alter your vibration (vibe) – and your vibration determines what you kind of life you experience. Self-love can be considered to be the practice of keeping your vibration high, so more good vibes flow to you. Let's explain it in more simpler terms: when you love yourself, life will give you more things to love. Of course, my book explains this in greater detail and tells you how you can achieve this.
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I find that when people truly begin to practice self-love, they also find that more people love them. Now, don't get me wrong, chasing external validation is a fast route to unhappiness. Wanting others to love you will create attachments. You will also find that no matter how great you perceive yourself to be, there will always be naysayers. However, when you emit love and joy from your being, you glow – and many will recognise it. Almost like when you leave your windows open in the evening and moths uninvitingly head straight to the light, people become drawn to you.
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Just think about this, when you experience love and joy, you laugh a little louder, your smile becomes bigger, and your actions become kinder – you are great to be around. People want to be in your company because we love having our spirits lifted. You exude positivity despite what may be challenging you or the "flaws" you might possess. You glow because we see that you have chosen to grow.
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You also attract those who are on a similar frequency to you and repel those that aren't, which can help your love and joy multiply. Furthermore, you now manifest greater things which create more good vibes; blessings increase. Life looks and feels so much better.  This flow of prosperity and abundance begins from the simple act of honouring your vibration – making a conscious effort to raise it by having high regard for your wellbeing.
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External transformations happen when we create them in our internal world. I'm such an advocate of true self-love that I wrote a whole book about it. Try loving yourself and see how magically your life begins to transform.
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Artwork: @broken_isnt_bad
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#VexKing #LoveYoSelf
  • One thing you will realise when reading my book is that everything you engage in has the potential to alter your vibration (vibe) – and your vibration determines what you kind of life you experience. Self-love can be considered to be the practice of keeping your vibration high, so more good vibes flow to you. Let's explain it in more simpler terms: when you love yourself, life will give you more things to love. Of course, my book explains this in greater detail and tells you how you can achieve this.
    .
    I find that when people truly begin to practice self-love, they also find that more people love them. Now, don't get me wrong, chasing external validation is a fast route to unhappiness. Wanting others to love you will create attachments. You will also find that no matter how great you perceive yourself to be, there will always be naysayers. However, when you emit love and joy from your being, you glow – and many will recognise it. Almost like when you leave your windows open in the evening and moths uninvitingly head straight to the light, people become drawn to you.
    .
    Just think about this, when you experience love and joy, you laugh a little louder, your smile becomes bigger, and your actions become kinder – you are great to be around. People want to be in your company because we love having our spirits lifted. You exude positivity despite what may be challenging you or the "flaws" you might possess. You glow because we see that you have chosen to grow.
    .
    You also attract those who are on a similar frequency to you and repel those that aren't, which can help your love and joy multiply. Furthermore, you now manifest greater things which create more good vibes; blessings increase. Life looks and feels so much better. This flow of prosperity and abundance begins from the simple act of honouring your vibration – making a conscious effort to raise it by having high regard for your wellbeing.
    .
    External transformations happen when we create them in our internal world. I'm such an advocate of true self-love that I wrote a whole book about it. Try loving yourself and see how magically your life begins to transform.
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    Artwork: @broken_isnt_bad
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    #VexKing #LoveYoSelf
  •  16,169  276  11 March, 2019
  • Tag anyone that could do with this message right now 💫🙏🏽
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Positive change manifests once we become a vibrational match to our desires. Feeling good is the essence of creating good – but I understand that on some days it can be tough. It's not always easy to vibrate at a higher frequency, especially during the hard times. For those who feel a little low right now, I hope you can find some inspiration in this short message.
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Of course, I hope my book serves as a more detailed guide for aligning yourself to the magic of the Universe so you can experience miracles in your life. You can find links to it in my bio. When I had no direction from anyone, no one to turn to, all I could rely on was quotes and books; they got me by. I just needed an ounce of faith so I could keep going and eventually, move to higher vibrational states. Therefore, I really do hope it helps and gives you what books and words have given to me.
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Just on a side note, it's been quite a few years now since I started the Good Vibes Only (GVO) movement to encourage positivity online. I’m overjoyed seeing so many of you use your platforms to help others. If you ever spot any followers ask me an unanswered question in my comments, please feel free to help them out. I'd be most grateful. I like to think of this page as a community where we can all help each other elevate.
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Artwork: @obrazkovani
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#VexKing #FaithQuotes #HighVibes #UniverseHasYourBack
  • Tag anyone that could do with this message right now 💫🙏🏽
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    Positive change manifests once we become a vibrational match to our desires. Feeling good is the essence of creating good – but I understand that on some days it can be tough. It's not always easy to vibrate at a higher frequency, especially during the hard times. For those who feel a little low right now, I hope you can find some inspiration in this short message.
    .
    Of course, I hope my book serves as a more detailed guide for aligning yourself to the magic of the Universe so you can experience miracles in your life. You can find links to it in my bio. When I had no direction from anyone, no one to turn to, all I could rely on was quotes and books; they got me by. I just needed an ounce of faith so I could keep going and eventually, move to higher vibrational states. Therefore, I really do hope it helps and gives you what books and words have given to me.
    .
    Just on a side note, it's been quite a few years now since I started the Good Vibes Only (GVO) movement to encourage positivity online. I’m overjoyed seeing so many of you use your platforms to help others. If you ever spot any followers ask me an unanswered question in my comments, please feel free to help them out. I'd be most grateful. I like to think of this page as a community where we can all help each other elevate.
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    Artwork: @obrazkovani
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    #VexKing #FaithQuotes #HighVibes #UniverseHasYourBack
  •  18,039  591  10 March, 2019

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  • Tag great women that come to mind while reading this! ❤️
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This piece is about the awakening woman from a male perspective. It is worth the read, whether you're male or female – scroll across and absorb slowly. This will resonate deeply with some, while others may not get it at all. That's okay. Read with an open mind. Please also only take note of what I am saying, not what I am not saying. Try not to read into more than there is.
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This is a particularly important message for heterosexual men who often shy away or don't quite get the New Age of women who seek liberation. This is a great opportunity for men to step up. Sometimes, we believe that we are alpha males by having a view that suggests women are inferior to us — but a fragile Ego often constructs this ideology.
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In the community I was raised in there has been a lot of emphasis on preparing women to become good wives, but very little focus on developing men to become good husbands. As an advocate of greatness and equality, while recognising the differences in masculine and female energies, I believe that we all need to step up.
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This post only talks about the awakening woman who is, fortunately, becoming more common nowadays. She is not perfect, but she is aware — which is the first step towards spiritual growth. There are still many that are asleep and remain comfortable in their self-righteous ways – an awakening man will be begin to avoid these characters.
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By the way, this is one of my favourite posts that I've written for the gram. While I don't have as much time these days to consistently write for Instagram to this level, just know, whenever I do get the opportunity, I will try my best.
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Artwork: @t.radz
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#InternationalWomensDay #VexKing
  • Tag great women that come to mind while reading this! ❤️
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    This piece is about the awakening woman from a male perspective. It is worth the read, whether you're male or female – scroll across and absorb slowly. This will resonate deeply with some, while others may not get it at all. That's okay. Read with an open mind. Please also only take note of what I am saying, not what I am not saying. Try not to read into more than there is.
    .
    This is a particularly important message for heterosexual men who often shy away or don't quite get the New Age of women who seek liberation. This is a great opportunity for men to step up. Sometimes, we believe that we are alpha males by having a view that suggests women are inferior to us — but a fragile Ego often constructs this ideology.
    .
    In the community I was raised in there has been a lot of emphasis on preparing women to become good wives, but very little focus on developing men to become good husbands. As an advocate of greatness and equality, while recognising the differences in masculine and female energies, I believe that we all need to step up.
    .
    This post only talks about the awakening woman who is, fortunately, becoming more common nowadays. She is not perfect, but she is aware — which is the first step towards spiritual growth. There are still many that are asleep and remain comfortable in their self-righteous ways – an awakening man will be begin to avoid these characters.
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    By the way, this is one of my favourite posts that I've written for the gram. While I don't have as much time these days to consistently write for Instagram to this level, just know, whenever I do get the opportunity, I will try my best.
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    Artwork: @t.radz
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    #InternationalWomensDay #VexKing
  •  24,189  978  8 March, 2019
  • One of the biggest blessings in life my has not only been finding my soulmate but also the challenge in growing with her. She has helped me evolve much quicker than I might have if I had not met her. Ultimately, I have changed for myself but because of her love – if anything, I have become more authentic. Our connection has forced expansion while confronting anything that has stood in the way. Since meeting her, I have shifted to an entirely new frequency that breaks away from old destructive energies.
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But like I said, the process has not been comfortable. I created her in my dreams long ago, but once she entered my physical reality, I realised that I never dreamt about how testing she would prove to be. She didn't arrive peacefully. She came with overpacked luggage, containing ideas, questions, reservations and desires, ready to occupy my life. She came to shake up my world and knock down the buildings that were home to me as a boy so that I could rebuild as a man.
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Till this day, she strips off the attire on my emotions, leaving my heart exposed to her, so I can beat conversations about the things that I fear. She opens the doors to thoughts that I liked to keep locked – because in my mind is where she works most of her day. I lose myself in her presence, but that’s precisely where I continue to find myself.
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She didn't come to make me happy; she came to add to my happiness and show me where I could find it within myself. She didn't enter my life to make my dreams come true; she came to show me the potential I had within myself to make those dreams come true. She didn't come to fill in voids in my heart; she came to show me how I could love myself and fill in those empty spaces. She hasn't entered my life to do any work for me; she has come to help me discover what I need to do, to become the greatest version of myself.
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Artwork: @cartastracciait
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#VexKing #TwinFlames
  • One of the biggest blessings in life my has not only been finding my soulmate but also the challenge in growing with her. She has helped me evolve much quicker than I might have if I had not met her. Ultimately, I have changed for myself but because of her love – if anything, I have become more authentic. Our connection has forced expansion while confronting anything that has stood in the way. Since meeting her, I have shifted to an entirely new frequency that breaks away from old destructive energies.
    .
    But like I said, the process has not been comfortable. I created her in my dreams long ago, but once she entered my physical reality, I realised that I never dreamt about how testing she would prove to be. She didn't arrive peacefully. She came with overpacked luggage, containing ideas, questions, reservations and desires, ready to occupy my life. She came to shake up my world and knock down the buildings that were home to me as a boy so that I could rebuild as a man.
    .
    Till this day, she strips off the attire on my emotions, leaving my heart exposed to her, so I can beat conversations about the things that I fear. She opens the doors to thoughts that I liked to keep locked – because in my mind is where she works most of her day. I lose myself in her presence, but that’s precisely where I continue to find myself.
    .
    She didn't come to make me happy; she came to add to my happiness and show me where I could find it within myself. She didn't enter my life to make my dreams come true; she came to show me the potential I had within myself to make those dreams come true. She didn't come to fill in voids in my heart; she came to show me how I could love myself and fill in those empty spaces. She hasn't entered my life to do any work for me; she has come to help me discover what I need to do, to become the greatest version of myself.
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    Artwork: @cartastracciait
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    #VexKing #TwinFlames
  •  14,595  353  5 March, 2019
  • One of the toughest tasks you’ll find as you grow spiritually is doing no harm while taking no sh*t. The balance is not always easy to find. Deep down, you’ll recognise that love and kindness is the way, but you’ll get tested time and time again, with people’s foul attitudes and behaviours towards you.
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You’ll feel forced to tolerate people’s foul behaviours because you identify yourself as a good person who wants to be a positive force in the world. This is why, sometimes, you’ll try your best to appear happy and calm, when deep down you feel drained, broken and angered.
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There are two things you can do when people act toxic towards you: you can change your perception of them & their behaviour, or you can choose to change the situation. The former could be done by focusing on something positive in them or their actions. The latter is often carried out by distancing yourself; creating boundaries.
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If you do choose to cut ties with people who are hindering your growth and preventing you from experiencing joy, you should not feel guilty. You are not everyone’s saviour, you are not perfect, and you are not a doormat. After all, you are human – and you must have high regard for your wellbeing.
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Those who make you feel guilty for distancing yourself are usually the ones who do the abusing, without being accountable for their actions. They twist their insecurities and behaviours into your flaws. They’re the same people who will say you’ve changed, without questioning the influence of their actions that made you change your ways with them.
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Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are, while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it (see my book for more information). When you get to a stage where you accept yourself fully, the opinions and presence of others, will not matter – they will not change your emotional state. It may even feel like they don't exist. Either way, if you're practising self-love, you cannot be held captive to those that continually disrespect you.
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Artwork: @ohlongleslie
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#VexKing #SelfLoveFirst
  • One of the toughest tasks you’ll find as you grow spiritually is doing no harm while taking no sh*t. The balance is not always easy to find. Deep down, you’ll recognise that love and kindness is the way, but you’ll get tested time and time again, with people’s foul attitudes and behaviours towards you.
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    You’ll feel forced to tolerate people’s foul behaviours because you identify yourself as a good person who wants to be a positive force in the world. This is why, sometimes, you’ll try your best to appear happy and calm, when deep down you feel drained, broken and angered.
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    There are two things you can do when people act toxic towards you: you can change your perception of them & their behaviour, or you can choose to change the situation. The former could be done by focusing on something positive in them or their actions. The latter is often carried out by distancing yourself; creating boundaries.
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    If you do choose to cut ties with people who are hindering your growth and preventing you from experiencing joy, you should not feel guilty. You are not everyone’s saviour, you are not perfect, and you are not a doormat. After all, you are human – and you must have high regard for your wellbeing.
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    Those who make you feel guilty for distancing yourself are usually the ones who do the abusing, without being accountable for their actions. They twist their insecurities and behaviours into your flaws. They’re the same people who will say you’ve changed, without questioning the influence of their actions that made you change your ways with them.
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    Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are, while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it (see my book for more information). When you get to a stage where you accept yourself fully, the opinions and presence of others, will not matter – they will not change your emotional state. It may even feel like they don't exist. Either way, if you're practising self-love, you cannot be held captive to those that continually disrespect you.
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    Artwork: @ohlongleslie
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    #VexKing #SelfLoveFirst
  •  19,553  417  4 March, 2019
  • When people realise that the person they love isn't good for them, it's not the truth that hurts, having their illusion destroyed does. It’s extremely common for individuals to hang on to an idea of someone that doesn’t actually exist. It’s like falling in love with an actor’s character in a movie, but not the actor himself in real life.
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Sometimes, the illusion we create around someone is only based on their potential. We love the idea of what someone could become, not what someone has become. Deep-down, you root for them, but a lot of the time, this encouragement and hope is led by fear. It is why attachment exists.
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You want them to become the person that can deliver the love you need, in the way you want it, so that you can feel validated. Your existence depends on their love, not because you are spiritually connected or soulmates, but because without them, your Ego would collapse. Your life would feel like it has no meaning because your whole identity is attached to them.
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Illusions provide us with comfort and security. How many times has a partner apologised to you through their words but not their actions? How many times have they said to you that they're going to change, but fail to commit to the change? How many times have they wooed their way back into your good books after hurting you, to only continually disappoint you in the same way?
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The truth is, the evidence is all there, the people around you can often see it, and your intuition knows it...yet you stay attached to the hope that things will change because you have become a prisoner to their potential, and you haven't faced the patterns of behaviour. Remember, patterns are the loudest because actions and words can be used momentarily to seduce someone into believing in them.
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I know this post might be painful to digest. You might even be ready to attack this view because it forces you to question everything you ever felt about someone. I understand, and honestly, if you felt something for someone, it was real. This post doesn't set out to invalidate your feelings.
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Artwork: @fiorediop
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#VexKing
  • When people realise that the person they love isn't good for them, it's not the truth that hurts, having their illusion destroyed does. It’s extremely common for individuals to hang on to an idea of someone that doesn’t actually exist. It’s like falling in love with an actor’s character in a movie, but not the actor himself in real life.
    .
    Sometimes, the illusion we create around someone is only based on their potential. We love the idea of what someone could become, not what someone has become. Deep-down, you root for them, but a lot of the time, this encouragement and hope is led by fear. It is why attachment exists.
    .
    You want them to become the person that can deliver the love you need, in the way you want it, so that you can feel validated. Your existence depends on their love, not because you are spiritually connected or soulmates, but because without them, your Ego would collapse. Your life would feel like it has no meaning because your whole identity is attached to them.
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    Illusions provide us with comfort and security. How many times has a partner apologised to you through their words but not their actions? How many times have they said to you that they're going to change, but fail to commit to the change? How many times have they wooed their way back into your good books after hurting you, to only continually disappoint you in the same way?
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    The truth is, the evidence is all there, the people around you can often see it, and your intuition knows it...yet you stay attached to the hope that things will change because you have become a prisoner to their potential, and you haven't faced the patterns of behaviour. Remember, patterns are the loudest because actions and words can be used momentarily to seduce someone into believing in them.
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    I know this post might be painful to digest. You might even be ready to attack this view because it forces you to question everything you ever felt about someone. I understand, and honestly, if you felt something for someone, it was real. This post doesn't set out to invalidate your feelings.
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    Artwork: @fiorediop
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    #VexKing
  •  15,444  393  3 March, 2019
  • 1. SLEEP

Sometimes, we just need to recharge. Take a nap or get into bed early. You are likely to wake up with more clarity. If overthinking is distracting your sleep, keep reading.
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2. MEDITATE

Just create this habit, and it will change your life. Honestly. You will gain more mental control. You can also listen to Binaural Beats for immediate effects. Try a sound at 432Hz that induces a deep theta state. You can use it as a sleeping aid too.
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3. DO A FUN ACTIVITY

Get your vibration high and keep yourself occupied. Ideally, do something that will keep you active like dancing or walking in nature with a pet. Or, do something creative which you enjoy, like art.
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4. TAKE DEEP BREATHS

Try my 16-second method where you inhale for 4 seconds, hold for another 4 and then exhale for 8 seconds. Your brain can become overstimulated, and we need to calm things down by tricking the nervous system.
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5. CHILL WITH A GOOD FRIEND

Try to surround yourself with friends and family whose company you enjoy. A distraction that brings good vibes is sometimes all we need, and that's often in the form of a friend.
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6. STAY IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

Escape your imagination and live in the now. Do this using the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique. Describe 5 things you see in the room, name 4 things you can feel, describe 3 things you can hear, name 2 things you can smell and name 1 thing you can taste.
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7. ASK YOURSELF IF YOU CAN CHANGE IT

Ask the question. If you can, go and change it. If you can't, accept it and change your perception of it. Find the bright side.
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8. THINK OF THINGS YOU'RE THANKFUL FOR

This will not only keep your mind focused on something else; it will also encourage a positive state. Try and name at least 10 things.
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9. OBSERVE EACH THOUGHT AND LET IT GO

Your thoughts aren't you because you're the one observing them. The observer can't be the observed. So, sit in the seat of consciousness as the observer and watch your thoughts pass by. Give them a mental wave.
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10. REMEMBER THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS

Where our attention goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, things grow. Try to focus on the wanted; not the unwanted.
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#VexKing #Overthinking
  • 1. SLEEP

    Sometimes, we just need to recharge. Take a nap or get into bed early. You are likely to wake up with more clarity. If overthinking is distracting your sleep, keep reading.
    .
    2. MEDITATE

    Just create this habit, and it will change your life. Honestly. You will gain more mental control. You can also listen to Binaural Beats for immediate effects. Try a sound at 432Hz that induces a deep theta state. You can use it as a sleeping aid too.
    .
    3. DO A FUN ACTIVITY

    Get your vibration high and keep yourself occupied. Ideally, do something that will keep you active like dancing or walking in nature with a pet. Or, do something creative which you enjoy, like art.
    .
    4. TAKE DEEP BREATHS

    Try my 16-second method where you inhale for 4 seconds, hold for another 4 and then exhale for 8 seconds. Your brain can become overstimulated, and we need to calm things down by tricking the nervous system.
    .
    5. CHILL WITH A GOOD FRIEND

    Try to surround yourself with friends and family whose company you enjoy. A distraction that brings good vibes is sometimes all we need, and that's often in the form of a friend.
    .
    6. STAY IN THE PRESENT MOMENT

    Escape your imagination and live in the now. Do this using the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique. Describe 5 things you see in the room, name 4 things you can feel, describe 3 things you can hear, name 2 things you can smell and name 1 thing you can taste.
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    7. ASK YOURSELF IF YOU CAN CHANGE IT

    Ask the question. If you can, go and change it. If you can't, accept it and change your perception of it. Find the bright side.
    .
    8. THINK OF THINGS YOU'RE THANKFUL FOR

    This will not only keep your mind focused on something else; it will also encourage a positive state. Try and name at least 10 things.
    .
    9. OBSERVE EACH THOUGHT AND LET IT GO

    Your thoughts aren't you because you're the one observing them. The observer can't be the observed. So, sit in the seat of consciousness as the observer and watch your thoughts pass by. Give them a mental wave.
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    10. REMEMBER THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS

    Where our attention goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, things grow. Try to focus on the wanted; not the unwanted.
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    #VexKing #Overthinking
  •  27,104  496  28 February, 2019
  • A few years back, I had to remove some of my personal social media accounts. In fact, I felt like I had to stay off some platforms entirely because I knew there were triggers present. While escaping these platforms wasn't the solution, removing myself from an environment which felt toxic, was. These places were filled with distractions, and my progress would always get disrupted as a result. I needed time and space to figure out what I needed to do to heal.
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This was a somewhat lonely period for me. I even became distant from some friends, and I also had to move on from those that were untrustworthy or exhausting. I didn't really know what the process of healing looked like, or what it actually was that I needed to heal, but I knew there were things I had to deal with inside of me. I felt urged to really reach inside of myself to find out what was hindering my joy and growth.
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During this period, I turned to meditation and decided to read one self-help book a day. As I've confessed in my own book, I initially found meditation difficult, but then I decided to commit myself to 30 consecutive days. I was also a slow reader, but, "practice makes perfect," right? Repetition is the key to mastery. I started with small meditation periods and book lengths, and then I worked my way up. Don't get me wrong, I was never completing 500-page books in one day (hey @TonyRobbins). And, sometimes, I was skimming longer books quite quickly. I also didn't always have great meditation days. However, I was doing the best I could, and changes were occurring.
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Although I was alone during a lot of moments, I never felt alone. If you've ever experienced deep states of meditation, you'll know what I mean – connecting with Source and feeling pure bliss. I actually started seeing random images and patterns within months of regular practice.
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I was reading, watching, listening, speaking, reflecting, writing and doing a lot more during this period to build my energy up. I came to a lot of realisations and liberating truths. During this time it was clear to me that I had to go through this stage of isolation, to move on to the next stage of elevation.
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Artwork: @miaohki
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#VexKing
  • A few years back, I had to remove some of my personal social media accounts. In fact, I felt like I had to stay off some platforms entirely because I knew there were triggers present. While escaping these platforms wasn't the solution, removing myself from an environment which felt toxic, was. These places were filled with distractions, and my progress would always get disrupted as a result. I needed time and space to figure out what I needed to do to heal.
    .
    This was a somewhat lonely period for me. I even became distant from some friends, and I also had to move on from those that were untrustworthy or exhausting. I didn't really know what the process of healing looked like, or what it actually was that I needed to heal, but I knew there were things I had to deal with inside of me. I felt urged to really reach inside of myself to find out what was hindering my joy and growth.
    .
    During this period, I turned to meditation and decided to read one self-help book a day. As I've confessed in my own book, I initially found meditation difficult, but then I decided to commit myself to 30 consecutive days. I was also a slow reader, but, "practice makes perfect," right? Repetition is the key to mastery. I started with small meditation periods and book lengths, and then I worked my way up. Don't get me wrong, I was never completing 500-page books in one day (hey @TonyRobbins). And, sometimes, I was skimming longer books quite quickly. I also didn't always have great meditation days. However, I was doing the best I could, and changes were occurring.
    .
    Although I was alone during a lot of moments, I never felt alone. If you've ever experienced deep states of meditation, you'll know what I mean – connecting with Source and feeling pure bliss. I actually started seeing random images and patterns within months of regular practice.
    .
    I was reading, watching, listening, speaking, reflecting, writing and doing a lot more during this period to build my energy up. I came to a lot of realisations and liberating truths. During this time it was clear to me that I had to go through this stage of isolation, to move on to the next stage of elevation.
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    Artwork: @miaohki
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    #VexKing
  •  19,626  397  26 February, 2019