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  • This book... kinda almost feels like one of my babies.⁣⠀🤗😍
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If you’ve ever worked on a heart project for 5+ years, I’m sure you get what I mean. I was dreaming of this moment since I was a kid. When I was just a sliver of a girl telling my mom as I danced around our dining table that someday I wanted to write a book. ⁣⠀
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When I finally grew up & knew EXACTLY what my first book was going to be about, I don’t think I was quite ready for the roller coaster of A to Z. The late nights, the MANY drafts, the tears, the hours and hours of editing, the confusion, the frustration, the YEARS of work from when I was trying to force it & then the months when I finally heard the ‘GO’ from God, handed the outcome over & put ‘pen to paper.’ ⁣⠀
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The book was a success BEFORE it reached the stores. It was a success BEFORE all of the five star reviews. Honestly, for me, it was a success before it was even published when a close friend of mine read a late draft & told me it changed her outlook on life & brought her closer to God. ⁣⠀
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That was all I ever wanted y’all. The job I‘ve been given is to do everything in my power to share my story. I’ve been doing my best at that & leaving the rest is up to Him.⁣⠀
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Y’all, it’s not easy to TRUST when you’re in the middle of the hard seasons. Hold on. Keep working. Keep letting go & letting God. ⁣⠀
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It doesn’t always happen the way you wish. It definitely won’t happen on your timeline. But if the dream is in you, then you better believe the dream is FOR YOU. 🙏🏼✨⁣⠀
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Happy ONE WEEK in stores, Made for Brave. I’m so proud of you!! 😍🙏🏼😭🥰🥳⁣⠀
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#MadeforBrave #MadeforBraveBook⠀
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PS. EVERY book in our closest four Barnes & Nobles are now signed. SO, if you live in the Seattle area, go snag one of those puppies (or a few) before they’re gone!!
  • This book... kinda almost feels like one of my babies.⁣⠀🤗😍
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    If you’ve ever worked on a heart project for 5+ years, I’m sure you get what I mean. I was dreaming of this moment since I was a kid. When I was just a sliver of a girl telling my mom as I danced around our dining table that someday I wanted to write a book. ⁣⠀
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    When I finally grew up & knew EXACTLY what my first book was going to be about, I don’t think I was quite ready for the roller coaster of A to Z. The late nights, the MANY drafts, the tears, the hours and hours of editing, the confusion, the frustration, the YEARS of work from when I was trying to force it & then the months when I finally heard the ‘GO’ from God, handed the outcome over & put ‘pen to paper.’ ⁣⠀
    ⁣⠀
    The book was a success BEFORE it reached the stores. It was a success BEFORE all of the five star reviews. Honestly, for me, it was a success before it was even published when a close friend of mine read a late draft & told me it changed her outlook on life & brought her closer to God. ⁣⠀
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    That was all I ever wanted y’all. The job I‘ve been given is to do everything in my power to share my story. I’ve been doing my best at that & leaving the rest is up to Him.⁣⠀
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    Y’all, it’s not easy to TRUST when you’re in the middle of the hard seasons. Hold on. Keep working. Keep letting go & letting God. ⁣⠀
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    It doesn’t always happen the way you wish. It definitely won’t happen on your timeline. But if the dream is in you, then you better believe the dream is FOR YOU. 🙏🏼✨⁣⠀
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    Happy ONE WEEK in stores, Made for Brave. I’m so proud of you!! 😍🙏🏼😭🥰🥳⁣⠀
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    #MadeforBrave #MadeforBraveBook

    PS. EVERY book in our closest four Barnes & Nobles are now signed. SO, if you live in the Seattle area, go snag one of those puppies (or a few) before they’re gone!!

  •  189  13  2 hours ago
  • A lets me know that he is still with me in his own way. I still feel connected to him and that connection has helped me cope with his physical absence. Not much provides comfort in to a grieving heart but feeling supported and loved by those who have passed on can help us find the strength to move our lives forward.
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The first year following A’s death, I searched for him everywhere. I was frantic and I felt desperate. I spent so much time and money consulting with healers and mediums and going to seminars in an effort to understand how to feel connected to him now that being together physically was no longer possible. I longed to develop a strong spiritual bond with him. Soul to soul.
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I feel that bond now and it is a source of great peace and strength for me in my healing journey. That’s why I have created my masterclass on learning to recognize and receive Signs ✨
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Because it is brand new, I am looking for 5 “beta testers” to take the class at a discounted rate (this masterclass is already super low cost) If you feel called to learn how to create a spiritual relationship of your own, comment below and I’ll send you the link and discount code.
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Everyone can do this. Everyone can develop the skills to trust in their own intuition and learn to create a connection with loved ones who have passed. You don’t need to consult mediums regularly to feel connected. You can learn to tune in 💕
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#grief #spiritjunkie #griefsupport #theuniversehasyourback #griefquotes #griefandloss #widowsofinstagram #widowed #lifeafterloss #spiritualawakening #medium #gabbybernstein #tunein #loveforever #lovegrowshere #griefsucks #bereavement #grieving #healingjourney #soulgrowth #davidweiss #onlyloveisreal #soultosoul #soulconnection #soulcontract #soulcalling #spiritworld #lightworker #lightworkers
  • A lets me know that he is still with me in his own way. I still feel connected to him and that connection has helped me cope with his physical absence. Not much provides comfort in to a grieving heart but feeling supported and loved by those who have passed on can help us find the strength to move our lives forward.
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    The first year following A’s death, I searched for him everywhere. I was frantic and I felt desperate. I spent so much time and money consulting with healers and mediums and going to seminars in an effort to understand how to feel connected to him now that being together physically was no longer possible. I longed to develop a strong spiritual bond with him. Soul to soul.
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    I feel that bond now and it is a source of great peace and strength for me in my healing journey. That’s why I have created my masterclass on learning to recognize and receive Signs ✨
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    Because it is brand new, I am looking for 5 “beta testers” to take the class at a discounted rate (this masterclass is already super low cost) If you feel called to learn how to create a spiritual relationship of your own, comment below and I’ll send you the link and discount code.
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    Everyone can do this. Everyone can develop the skills to trust in their own intuition and learn to create a connection with loved ones who have passed. You don’t need to consult mediums regularly to feel connected. You can learn to tune in 💕
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    #grief #spiritjunkie #griefsupport #theuniversehasyourback #griefquotes #griefandloss #widowsofinstagram #widowed #lifeafterloss #spiritualawakening #medium #gabbybernstein #tunein #loveforever #lovegrowshere #griefsucks #bereavement #grieving #healingjourney #soulgrowth #davidweiss #onlyloveisreal #soultosoul #soulconnection #soulcontract #soulcalling #spiritworld #lightworker #lightworkers

  •  328  19  4 hours ago
  • For the longest time, I believed pain from my past could still hurt me. 😞 And I didn’t think the hurt would ever go away because there was no way of changing what had happened. So it was a relief to learn that my past didn’t have to have control over me and all I needed were some tools I didn’t yet have. 😲⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What is the painful thing from your past that still seems to be holding you back? 💔 Share if you like, then click the link in my bio to listen to this week’s episode of “The Widowed Mom Podcast.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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  • For the longest time, I believed pain from my past could still hurt me. 😞 And I didn’t think the hurt would ever go away because there was no way of changing what had happened. So it was a relief to learn that my past didn’t have to have control over me and all I needed were some tools I didn’t yet have. 😲⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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  •  15  1  7 hours ago
  • Here's what I remember in general from the first year after my husband died: not much. A lot of crying in bed and in the shower. A lot of blurry days.

But there were some people who made major efforts to come see me over those 12 months by plane or long car ride. My parents. My siblings. Friends from London, LA, Chicago, Ohio. And while the edges are fuzzy, there's a lot I remember.

The friend who cleaned out my kitchen cabinets. The one who made this eggplant tofu New York Times recipe she liked and it was so good she made it again for me. This Sleeping Beauty game one played with my kids. A couple dinners out where I put on real clothes and actually smiled. The birthday cake and Valentine's cake and Mother's Day gifts that only happened because they were there. The friend who brought art projects to occupy my kids. Family members who watched my girls so I could go to a cabin with girlfriends, and to Savannah, and try to do some living.

I think I remember those moments not because they were hugely different than all the others I can't recall, but because some part of myself was a little more awake, and I was a little more awake because their presence meant so much. The extra effort amplified things. If you're wondering if it's worth going...it's always worth going.
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#rainydayboxes #grief #griefsupport #griefjourney #griefandloss #adayinthelifewithgrief #normalizinggrief #showingup #howtohelp #healing #widow #widowed #widowspeak #widowsofinstagram
  • Here's what I remember in general from the first year after my husband died: not much. A lot of crying in bed and in the shower. A lot of blurry days.

    But there were some people who made major efforts to come see me over those 12 months by plane or long car ride. My parents. My siblings. Friends from London, LA, Chicago, Ohio. And while the edges are fuzzy, there's a lot I remember.

    The friend who cleaned out my kitchen cabinets. The one who made this eggplant tofu New York Times recipe she liked and it was so good she made it again for me. This Sleeping Beauty game one played with my kids. A couple dinners out where I put on real clothes and actually smiled. The birthday cake and Valentine's cake and Mother's Day gifts that only happened because they were there. The friend who brought art projects to occupy my kids. Family members who watched my girls so I could go to a cabin with girlfriends, and to Savannah, and try to do some living.

    I think I remember those moments not because they were hugely different than all the others I can't recall, but because some part of myself was a little more awake, and I was a little more awake because their presence meant so much. The extra effort amplified things. If you're wondering if it's worth going...it's always worth going.
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    #rainydayboxes #grief #griefsupport #griefjourney #griefandloss #adayinthelifewithgrief #normalizinggrief #showingup #howtohelp #healing #widow #widowed #widowspeak #widowsofinstagram

  •  31  2  7 hours ago
  • Last summer we had so much fun on our road trip to Texas! Went to this place that had mini-golf, mini-bowling, and other activities! Can’t wait to go to our next summer vacation destination. Still trying to figure out where, lol. Where have you gone with kids that you would recommend?
  • Last summer we had so much fun on our road trip to Texas! Went to this place that had mini-golf, mini-bowling, and other activities! Can’t wait to go to our next summer vacation destination. Still trying to figure out where, lol. Where have you gone with kids that you would recommend?

  •  7  2  8 hours ago
  • Reposted from @empowered_through_life 💫
I like to think that healing from any form of deep wounding means seeking wholeness.
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I stumbled upon this quote by psychologist Rollo May that said: one does not become fully human painlessly. It my experience, there is a lot of truth in this.
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And so we can choose to embrace our deepest pain and to let it transform us. We can accept its mysteries and contradictions and allow the experience of grief to bring us to the depths of our being and soul. In learning to be present with and for our pain, we now know what it means to be fully human. To feel the full spectrum of human emotion. The love and the loss. The pain and the gratitude. All of it. .
It’s such a contradiction that grief breaks us AND makes us whole all at once. Perhaps it’s in the healing and the rebuilding of self that we can find wholeness again. Grief forces us  to open the door to our own darkness and there, we can learn to face the truth of who we are and begin to shed light on our wounded parts.
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Grief has altered me so profoundly. More than any other experience has.
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#griefsupport #grief #spiritjunkie #theuniversehasyourback #selflovecoach #griefandloss #griefsucks #griefshare #bereavement #grieving #grievingmother #loveandlight #loveandloss #lifeafterloss #hearthealing #souljourney #soulgrowth #loveneverdies #widowed #youngwidow #authenticself #shadowwork #spiritualawakening #spiritualworld #signsfromabove #signsfromtheuniverse - #regrann
  • Reposted from @empowered_through_life 💫
    I like to think that healing from any form of deep wounding means seeking wholeness.
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    I stumbled upon this quote by psychologist Rollo May that said: one does not become fully human painlessly. It my experience, there is a lot of truth in this.
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    And so we can choose to embrace our deepest pain and to let it transform us. We can accept its mysteries and contradictions and allow the experience of grief to bring us to the depths of our being and soul. In learning to be present with and for our pain, we now know what it means to be fully human. To feel the full spectrum of human emotion. The love and the loss. The pain and the gratitude. All of it. .
    It’s such a contradiction that grief breaks us AND makes us whole all at once. Perhaps it’s in the healing and the rebuilding of self that we can find wholeness again. Grief forces us to open the door to our own darkness and there, we can learn to face the truth of who we are and begin to shed light on our wounded parts.
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    Grief has altered me so profoundly. More than any other experience has.
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    #griefsupport #grief #spiritjunkie #theuniversehasyourback #selflovecoach #griefandloss #griefsucks #griefshare #bereavement #grieving #grievingmother #loveandlight #loveandloss #lifeafterloss #hearthealing #souljourney #soulgrowth #loveneverdies #widowed #youngwidow #authenticself #shadowwork #spiritualawakening #spiritualworld #signsfromabove #signsfromtheuniverse - #regrann

  •  22  0  10 hours ago
  • 🌸HAPPY THURSDAY🌸
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1. These boots are life
2. Grief and healing is so cyclical. 
I am reminding myself constantly to be gentle on myself.
I can beat the shit out of myself for falling apart. 
But I have to remember that I am human. 
Sometimes I’m strong.
Sometimes I’m weak.
Sometimes I make decisions that push me in the direction I want to take in life.
And sometimes I actively destroy my life even more than it is.
I’m learning about conscious awareness of beliefs that are so deeply engrained in me. 
You’re a failure.
You’re not good enough.
Then I carry out self fulfilling prophesies to make that so.
When those voices come in, I gently remind myself that that’s not my voice. 
Conscious awareness and nonattachment is my work for now.
  • 🌸HAPPY THURSDAY🌸
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    1. These boots are life
    2. Grief and healing is so cyclical.
    I am reminding myself constantly to be gentle on myself.
    I can beat the shit out of myself for falling apart.
    But I have to remember that I am human.
    Sometimes I’m strong.
    Sometimes I’m weak.
    Sometimes I make decisions that push me in the direction I want to take in life.
    And sometimes I actively destroy my life even more than it is.
    I’m learning about conscious awareness of beliefs that are so deeply engrained in me.
    You’re a failure.
    You’re not good enough.
    Then I carry out self fulfilling prophesies to make that so.
    When those voices come in, I gently remind myself that that’s not my voice.
    Conscious awareness and nonattachment is my work for now.

  •  343  31  14 hours ago
  • I like to think that healing from any form of deep wounding means seeking wholeness.
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I stumbled upon this quote by psychologist Rollo May that said: one does not become fully human painlessly. It my experience, there is a lot of truth in this.
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And so we can choose to embrace our deepest pain and to let it transform us. We can accept its mysteries and contradictions and allow the experience of grief to bring us to the depths of our being and soul. In learning to be present with and for our pain, we now know what it means to be fully human. To feel the full spectrum of human emotion. The love and the loss. The pain and the gratitude. All of it. .
It’s such a contradiction that grief breaks us AND makes us whole all at once. Perhaps it’s in the healing and the rebuilding of self that we can find wholeness again. Grief forces us  to open the door to our own darkness and there, we can learn to face the truth of who we are and begin to shed light on our wounded parts.
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Grief has altered me so profoundly. More than any other experience has.
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#griefsupport #grief #spiritjunkie #theuniversehasyourback #selflovecoach #griefandloss #griefsucks #griefshare #bereavement #grieving #grievingmother #loveandlight #loveandloss #lifeafterloss #hearthealing #souljourney #soulgrowth #loveneverdies #widowed #youngwidow #authenticself #shadowwork #spiritualawakening #spiritualworld #signsfromabove #signsfromtheuniverse
  • I like to think that healing from any form of deep wounding means seeking wholeness.
    .
    I stumbled upon this quote by psychologist Rollo May that said: one does not become fully human painlessly. It my experience, there is a lot of truth in this.
    .
    And so we can choose to embrace our deepest pain and to let it transform us. We can accept its mysteries and contradictions and allow the experience of grief to bring us to the depths of our being and soul. In learning to be present with and for our pain, we now know what it means to be fully human. To feel the full spectrum of human emotion. The love and the loss. The pain and the gratitude. All of it. .
    It’s such a contradiction that grief breaks us AND makes us whole all at once. Perhaps it’s in the healing and the rebuilding of self that we can find wholeness again. Grief forces us to open the door to our own darkness and there, we can learn to face the truth of who we are and begin to shed light on our wounded parts.
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    Grief has altered me so profoundly. More than any other experience has.
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    #griefsupport #grief #spiritjunkie #theuniversehasyourback #selflovecoach #griefandloss #griefsucks #griefshare #bereavement #grieving #grievingmother #loveandlight #loveandloss #lifeafterloss #hearthealing #souljourney #soulgrowth #loveneverdies #widowed #youngwidow #authenticself #shadowwork #spiritualawakening #spiritualworld #signsfromabove #signsfromtheuniverse

  •  299  12  17 hours ago
  • Please allow me to interrupt my very sweaty vacation (still guzzling hot tea because infusions are life) to remind you that I get real personal on my Podcast on March 1st and I tell you all about staying in abusing relationships. ...
Abusive partners don't usually walk up to you at a bar and say "hey I'd love to take you out & maybe start a pattern of hurting you in private and play house in public".
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Additionally, abused partners don't just check-off low self esteem & fear of shame on their online dating profile.
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In my experience, it all stems from where & how We've learned love & Our ability or inability to manage the excess or lack of love.
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The @ndvhofficial has incredible articles of information on why people stay. I recommend checking out their website for information on various support channels.
I have myself used the hotline numerous times for conversations that have saved my life.
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Then,
Check out the link in the Bio on March 1st to find out Why I stayed !!
... #IfIKnewThenWhatIKnowNow 🌺 
#YourFriendlyNeighborhoodWidow #WidowsOfInstagram #YoungWidow #Widowed #SelfEsteem #SelfCare #LoveOnTop #LaunchingSoon #Podcasts #PodcastsOfInstagram #Blogger #Podcaster #Writer #NoyAWidowsHandbook #BlackGirlMagic #BaldGirlsClub #BaldGirlsClub #RockYourBald #whyistayed #DV
  • Please allow me to interrupt my very sweaty vacation (still guzzling hot tea because infusions are life) to remind you that I get real personal on my Podcast on March 1st and I tell you all about staying in abusing relationships. ...
    Abusive partners don't usually walk up to you at a bar and say "hey I'd love to take you out & maybe start a pattern of hurting you in private and play house in public".
    ...
    Additionally, abused partners don't just check-off low self esteem & fear of shame on their online dating profile.
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    In my experience, it all stems from where & how We've learned love & Our ability or inability to manage the excess or lack of love.
    ...
    The @ndvhofficial has incredible articles of information on why people stay. I recommend checking out their website for information on various support channels.
    I have myself used the hotline numerous times for conversations that have saved my life.
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    Then,
    Check out the link in the Bio on March 1st to find out Why I stayed !!
    ... #IfIKnewThenWhatIKnowNow 🌺
    #YourFriendlyNeighborhoodWidow #WidowsOfInstagram #YoungWidow #Widowed #SelfEsteem #SelfCare #LoveOnTop #LaunchingSoon #Podcasts #PodcastsOfInstagram #Blogger #Podcaster #Writer #NoyAWidowsHandbook #BlackGirlMagic #BaldGirlsClub #BaldGirlsClub #RockYourBald #whyistayed #DV

  •  31  2  19 hours ago
  • Precious kiddo. <3 I love being your, Mommy.

Any guesses on who this is?? You got a 50/50 shot. 😂
  • Precious kiddo. <3 I love being your, Mommy.

    Any guesses on who this is?? You got a 50/50 shot. 😂

  •  76  10  27 February, 2020
  • On this episode of the melaninwhitecoats entitled True life I failed Step 1, Step 2 and Step 3 yet I RISe. An interview with Dr Odunsi @lifebytosin OB GYN hospitalist about perceived failures and how they can lead to extravagant success. On this podcast Dr. Odunsi recently minted attending physician  and OB Hospitalist in Seattle Washington talks about the challenges she faced while failing the first, second and third part of her physician licensure exam. She talks about losing her husband at the time during her first year of residency and the thought of leaving medicine after finishing residency. She discuses what allowed her to transverse the challenges and the power of family and support. Also, if you have any desire to learn about OB/GYN as a field check this episode out. She puts us on fibroids and it’s prevalence in the African American community and what her future goals are in rectifying that and many issues regarding woman’s health! ⁣
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#OBGYN #Nigeria #Buffalo #melaninwhitecoats #podcast #itunes #shakushaku #NY #Seattle #MeharryMED # step1 #step2 #usmle #failure #success #steveharvey #shaderoom #motivation #mentoring #persevere #widowed #challenges #itunes #googleplay #accomplishedwoman #africansuccess #transparency
  • On this episode of the melaninwhitecoats entitled True life I failed Step 1, Step 2 and Step 3 yet I RISe. An interview with Dr Odunsi @lifebytosin OB GYN hospitalist about perceived failures and how they can lead to extravagant success. On this podcast Dr. Odunsi recently minted attending physician and OB Hospitalist in Seattle Washington talks about the challenges she faced while failing the first, second and third part of her physician licensure exam. She talks about losing her husband at the time during her first year of residency and the thought of leaving medicine after finishing residency. She discuses what allowed her to transverse the challenges and the power of family and support. Also, if you have any desire to learn about OB/GYN as a field check this episode out. She puts us on fibroids and it’s prevalence in the African American community and what her future goals are in rectifying that and many issues regarding woman’s health! ⁣
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  • On this episode of the melaninwhitecoats podcast @melaninwhitecoats entitled True life I failed Step 1, Step 2 and Step 3 yet I RISe. An interview with Dr Odunsi OB GYN hospitalist about perceived failures and how they can lead to extravagant success. On this podcast Dr. Odunsi @lifebytosin recently minted attending physician  and OB Hospitalist in Seattle Washington talks about the challenges she faced while failing the first, second and third part of her physician licensure exam. She talks about losing her husband at the time during her first year of residency and the thought of leaving medicine after finishing residency. She discuses what allowed her to transverse the challenges and the power of family and support. Also, if you have any desire to learn about OB/GYN as a field check this episode out. She puts us on fibroids and it’s prevalence in the African American community and what her future goals are in rectifying that and many issues regarding woman’s health! ⁣
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#OBGYN #Nigeria #Buffalo #melaninwhitecoats #podcast #itunes #shakushaku #NY #Seattle #MeharryMED # step1 #step2 #usmle #failure #success #steveharvey #shaderoom #motivation #mentoring #persevere #widowed #challenges #itunes #googleplay #accomplishedwoman #africansuccess #transparency
  • On this episode of the melaninwhitecoats podcast @melaninwhitecoats entitled True life I failed Step 1, Step 2 and Step 3 yet I RISe. An interview with Dr Odunsi OB GYN hospitalist about perceived failures and how they can lead to extravagant success. On this podcast Dr. Odunsi @lifebytosin recently minted attending physician and OB Hospitalist in Seattle Washington talks about the challenges she faced while failing the first, second and third part of her physician licensure exam. She talks about losing her husband at the time during her first year of residency and the thought of leaving medicine after finishing residency. She discuses what allowed her to transverse the challenges and the power of family and support. Also, if you have any desire to learn about OB/GYN as a field check this episode out. She puts us on fibroids and it’s prevalence in the African American community and what her future goals are in rectifying that and many issues regarding woman’s health! ⁣
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    Link in BIO! ⁣

    #OBGYN #Nigeria #Buffalo #melaninwhitecoats #podcast #itunes #shakushaku #NY #Seattle #MeharryMED # step1 #step2 #usmle #failure #success #steveharvey #shaderoom #motivation #mentoring #persevere #widowed #challenges #itunes #googleplay #accomplishedwoman #africansuccess #transparency

  •  31  0  27 February, 2020
  • What is it you need to hear today? 🤔⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏼 That it’s impossible for you to be both parents and that you don’t have to be everything to everyone?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏼 That things really will get better and it’s ok for this widow journey to be hard?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏼 That you’re doing a good job even when that little voice inside says you aren’t?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Whatever you need to hear today… please give yourself permission to say it. 💓 Put your hand over your heart and tell yourself what you most need to hear.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You’ve got this! 👍🏼⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Ready to make 2020 a year you start truly loving your life again? 💃 My Mom Goes On coaching program will help with that and so much more. Widows learn to use the science of posttraumatic growth combined with powerful coaching tools to get unstuck and start loving life again! Click the link in my bio for details. Spots are limited.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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  • What is it you need to hear today? 🤔⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    👉🏼 That it’s impossible for you to be both parents and that you don’t have to be everything to everyone?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    👉🏼 That things really will get better and it’s ok for this widow journey to be hard?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    👉🏼 That you’re doing a good job even when that little voice inside says you aren’t?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Whatever you need to hear today… please give yourself permission to say it. 💓 Put your hand over your heart and tell yourself what you most need to hear.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    You’ve got this! 👍🏼⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Ready to make 2020 a year you start truly loving your life again? 💃 My Mom Goes On coaching program will help with that and so much more. Widows learn to use the science of posttraumatic growth combined with powerful coaching tools to get unstuck and start loving life again! Click the link in my bio for details. Spots are limited.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    #widow #widowsofinstagram #widowedmom #widowed #thelifecoachschool #griefrecovery #griefawareness #lifeafterloss #widowhoodsisterhood #widowshelpingwidows #thewidowedmompodcast #griefjourney #griefsupport #healingafterloss #widow #youngwidow #posttraumaticgrowth #griefandlosssupport #widows #widowlife #widowlifesucks #strongmom #newbeginnings #innerstrengthofawidow #momgoeson #widowcoach

  •  40  2  26 February, 2020
  • This realization shocked my at first. My conscious mind never thought about the fact that love lasts beyond death. In the early days, I felt just as in love with A as I had been when he was here. And it surprised me.
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The fact that this surprised me shows you how uneducated about grief I was when loss happened to me.
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I bought into all of the things society, our parents and our conditioning tells us about loss:
*that time heals everything
*that I would eventually love someone else and that would heal me
*that I had to “keep busy”
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Basically I believed that if I looked for another man to love while also waiting for time to do its job AND kept distracting myself through it all by keeping busy, I would heal from grief.
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Spoiler alert 🚨 this common advice about grief doesn’t actually work. It only maintains our suffering in time. It’s only by learning to be present with the pain and by giving it an outlet that we actually begin to heal from it.
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We can’t wait it out.
We can’t replace the loss.
We can’t endlessly push it away by distracting from it.
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DM to find out more about how to begin your healing journey with strategies and inner work that actually helps alleviate your suffering and leads you to reclaiming your power and your joy.
You can heal.
You can be happy again.
You can love your life and learn to live fully despite of your profound loss✨
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#spiritjunkie #grief #griefsupport #theuniversehasyourback #griefquotes #griefjourney #griefandloss #widowsofinstagram #selflove #grieving #widowed #boymom #motherhood #loveandloss #healingjourney #anxietyrelief #anxietyawareness
  • This realization shocked my at first. My conscious mind never thought about the fact that love lasts beyond death. In the early days, I felt just as in love with A as I had been when he was here. And it surprised me.
    .
    The fact that this surprised me shows you how uneducated about grief I was when loss happened to me.
    .
    I bought into all of the things society, our parents and our conditioning tells us about loss:
    *that time heals everything
    *that I would eventually love someone else and that would heal me
    *that I had to “keep busy”
    .
    Basically I believed that if I looked for another man to love while also waiting for time to do its job AND kept distracting myself through it all by keeping busy, I would heal from grief.
    .
    Spoiler alert 🚨 this common advice about grief doesn’t actually work. It only maintains our suffering in time. It’s only by learning to be present with the pain and by giving it an outlet that we actually begin to heal from it.
    .
    We can’t wait it out.
    We can’t replace the loss.
    We can’t endlessly push it away by distracting from it.
    .
    DM to find out more about how to begin your healing journey with strategies and inner work that actually helps alleviate your suffering and leads you to reclaiming your power and your joy.
    You can heal.
    You can be happy again.
    You can love your life and learn to live fully despite of your profound loss✨
    .
    #spiritjunkie #grief #griefsupport #theuniversehasyourback #griefquotes #griefjourney #griefandloss #widowsofinstagram #selflove #grieving #widowed #boymom #motherhood #loveandloss #healingjourney #anxietyrelief #anxietyawareness

  •  1,102  39  26 February, 2020
  • After Jamie died, I was determined to use my money to make as many memories as possible because that was all I had left of him.  The boys and I probably went on five trips during that first year.
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On the outside making memories looks like a great reason to do all of those trips.  But, underneath I was doing this to avoid feeling the pain I was going through.
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It was easier to run myself ragged than it was to process the emotions I was having.
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Drop me an emoji if you can relate.
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#widowed #widowlife #widow #widowedyoung #widowshelpingwidows #widowedlife #widowhoodsupport #singlemoms #momsthatrock #momsofboys #strongmommovement #momofboysrock #selfkindness #iamawarrior #findingmyselfagain #lifeafterloss #griefandlosssupport #griefcoach #grievingwithhope #healingjourney #feeltoheal #timetoheal #grieftogratitude #moneysavingmom #financialgoals #singlemomsaving #moneysmartwomen #moneycoach #motivationalmoneymindset #instamakeoverfam
  • After Jamie died, I was determined to use my money to make as many memories as possible because that was all I had left of him. The boys and I probably went on five trips during that first year.
    💚
    On the outside making memories looks like a great reason to do all of those trips. But, underneath I was doing this to avoid feeling the pain I was going through.
    💜
    It was easier to run myself ragged than it was to process the emotions I was having.
    💚
    Drop me an emoji if you can relate.
    💜
    💚
    💜
    💚
    #widowed #widowlife #widow #widowedyoung #widowshelpingwidows #widowedlife #widowhoodsupport #singlemoms #momsthatrock #momsofboys #strongmommovement #momofboysrock #selfkindness #iamawarrior #findingmyselfagain #lifeafterloss #griefandlosssupport #griefcoach #grievingwithhope #healingjourney #feeltoheal #timetoheal #grieftogratitude #moneysavingmom #financialgoals #singlemomsaving #moneysmartwomen #moneycoach #motivationalmoneymindset #instamakeoverfam

  •  18  8  26 February, 2020
  • This morning I put out a cup of coffee for me and a cup out for my late-wife, Natasha. As I go through the photo album of us I’m reminded of life before she died and how different life is without her physically here. She had a smile for days and laugh that was contagious. I can almost hear her laughing when I look at pictures of her. Natasha was never much of a coffee drinker except that she loved cream so it was like a cup of cream with a dab of coffee. It still makes me smile even if it’s bittersweet. It’s the little reminders that I love. What is something your loved one did that you miss?  #grievinghusband, #widowlife, #lifeafterloss, #widow, #widower, #widowspeak, #widowed, #widowlife, #widows, #widowers, #widowstrong, #widowsupport, #youngwidow, #widowproblems, #widowwarrior, 
#griefshaker #grief lifeafterloss, #love, #grievingprocess, #lifeafterloss, #grieving, #grievingquotes, #griefjourney, #griefsucks, #griefawareness,#griefandhealing, #griefisajourney, #griefsurvivor, #captureyourgrief,
  • This morning I put out a cup of coffee for me and a cup out for my late-wife, Natasha. As I go through the photo album of us I’m reminded of life before she died and how different life is without her physically here. She had a smile for days and laugh that was contagious. I can almost hear her laughing when I look at pictures of her. Natasha was never much of a coffee drinker except that she loved cream so it was like a cup of cream with a dab of coffee. It still makes me smile even if it’s bittersweet. It’s the little reminders that I love. What is something your loved one did that you miss? #grievinghusband, #widowlife, #lifeafterloss, #widow, #widower, #widowspeak, #widowed, #widowlife, #widows, #widowers, #widowstrong, #widowsupport, #youngwidow, #widowproblems, #widowwarrior,
    #griefshaker #grief lifeafterloss, #love, #grievingprocess, #lifeafterloss, #grieving, #grievingquotes, #griefjourney, #griefsucks, #griefawareness,#griefandhealing, #griefisajourney, #griefsurvivor, #captureyourgrief,

  •  34  11  26 February, 2020
  • Acts of Service is my love language. 
It's how I show my own love for others and how I most appreciate receiving love. 
There's many reasons for this. 
As a person who is naturally, and enjoys being, empathetic and extremely considerate of others needs, hopes, desires and quirks I find myself most energetically equal to other individuals who are also considerate. 
In unequal energetic matches I can quickly find myself giving until I have nothing left, only to be met with "You want me to what for you??". Not everyone communicates love through service (of course!) and people who don't probably find me to be needy, overly particular and demanding. 
Additionally, as an autistic person I am prone to executive dysfunction, sensory overload, and hyper-focus on special interests and objectives.

Matthew was such a special person for so many reasons beyond description but one that was so small yet so meaningful to me was his quiet way of always bringing me my medicine and a glass of water and then watching to make sure I actually took them and actually drank the water. He knew that left on my own I would sit for hours working, meaning to get up, but failing to do so. 
Yesterday I tried so hard to take my meds. I put them in my bag and brought them to work, I took them out of my bag and set them on my desk, hours later when it was time to leave I put them in my pocket (to take at home as soon as I could grab a glass of water!) and this morning I reached into my coat pocket only to find those damn pills...
  • Acts of Service is my love language.
    It's how I show my own love for others and how I most appreciate receiving love.
    There's many reasons for this.
    As a person who is naturally, and enjoys being, empathetic and extremely considerate of others needs, hopes, desires and quirks I find myself most energetically equal to other individuals who are also considerate.
    In unequal energetic matches I can quickly find myself giving until I have nothing left, only to be met with "You want me to what for you??". Not everyone communicates love through service (of course!) and people who don't probably find me to be needy, overly particular and demanding.
    Additionally, as an autistic person I am prone to executive dysfunction, sensory overload, and hyper-focus on special interests and objectives.

    Matthew was such a special person for so many reasons beyond description but one that was so small yet so meaningful to me was his quiet way of always bringing me my medicine and a glass of water and then watching to make sure I actually took them and actually drank the water. He knew that left on my own I would sit for hours working, meaning to get up, but failing to do so.
    Yesterday I tried so hard to take my meds. I put them in my bag and brought them to work, I took them out of my bag and set them on my desk, hours later when it was time to leave I put them in my pocket (to take at home as soon as I could grab a glass of water!) and this morning I reached into my coat pocket only to find those damn pills...

  •  4  2  26 February, 2020
  • 🤸🏼‍♀️🤸🏼‍♀️🤸🏼‍♀️Imagine if your body could feel as free as it did when you were a child. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔍You would be so curious about the ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ natural world, so awed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Running and climbing and jumping were a part of your day and you felt exuberant.🏄🏽‍♀️ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Then, somewhere along the way, we thought we had to wear nylons, or heavens, remember the girdles our grandmothers wore? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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High heels, we wore them. Does anyone still? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And bras, then underwire bras.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Our foufous were stifled, our bellies were squished, our feet and backs hurt because of the unnatural angles, and our boobs constrained.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤷WHY❓⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Our life is about choices, and the freedom to redesign it if we want. Find the Redesigning Your Life Community on fb if you are curious. #dreaming⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#soulwork⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#lifedesign⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#growthmindset⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#holyspirit⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#innerpeace⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#selfaware⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#personalgrowthjourney⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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#divorced⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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#lifeafterdivorce
  • 🤸🏼‍♀️🤸🏼‍♀️🤸🏼‍♀️Imagine if your body could feel as free as it did when you were a child. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🔍You would be so curious about the ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ natural world, so awed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Running and climbing and jumping were a part of your day and you felt exuberant.🏄🏽‍♀️ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Then, somewhere along the way, we thought we had to wear nylons, or heavens, remember the girdles our grandmothers wore? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    High heels, we wore them. Does anyone still? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And bras, then underwire bras.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Our foufous were stifled, our bellies were squished, our feet and backs hurt because of the unnatural angles, and our boobs constrained.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤷WHY❓⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Our life is about choices, and the freedom to redesign it if we want. Find the Redesigning Your Life Community on fb if you are curious. #dreaming⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #soulwork⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #lifedesign⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #growthmindset⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #holyspirit⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #innerpeace⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #selfaware⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #personalgrowthjourney⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #emotionalintelligence⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #divorced⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #widowed⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #fired⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #changeyourmindsetchangeyourlife⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    #createyourfuture⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    #designyourlife⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    #lifeafterdivorce

  •  5  0  26 February, 2020
  • We often look towards special events, such as weddings, birthday parties, or out-of-the-ordinary family get-togethers, with anticipation of our spirit loved ones being present. Prior to the event, many of us will plan things for the festivities that we know our spirit loved ones will enjoy.  At the event, we'll often say to one another - or think to ourselves, "I can feel that grandma/your dad/my sister is here."⁠
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The point is, that we KNOW that our loved ones will be, and are, present at significant events.  And they are.  But, they don't forget about you for the rest of the year.  They don't ‘hang out in heaven’, just making rare, sporadic appearances in our lives for parties.⁠
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They're with you in abundance, as you go about your daily life.⁠
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Mediumship readings will sometimes bring up an upcoming family event, such as a wedding or an anniversary party currently being planned.  Or recognize someone’s birthday coming up soon.  But, much more often, spirit loved ones will share the more monotonous times they are with their loved ones - they’ll show me your easy chair, a movie you just watched, or a specific home improvement project you were working on a couple weeks back.  They'll talk about how you spilled coffee on your shirt this morning, they'll show me a street sign you pass every day on your way to work, or show me the location in your home where you last cried over them while they wrapped their arms around you from spirit.⁠
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The very first mediumship reading that I myself ever received incorporated an every day moment - my grandmother in spirit showed the medium the exact cookies I'd been baking earlier that day: peanut butter with Hershey kisses in the center. ❤️🍪 That one piece of information meant more to me than every other piece of evidence - I carried that bit of information with me from that day forward, because: it showed me that my loved one in spirit was with me in every day moments.
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And your’s are too. 💞💫⁠
  • We often look towards special events, such as weddings, birthday parties, or out-of-the-ordinary family get-togethers, with anticipation of our spirit loved ones being present. Prior to the event, many of us will plan things for the festivities that we know our spirit loved ones will enjoy. At the event, we'll often say to one another - or think to ourselves, "I can feel that grandma/your dad/my sister is here."⁠
    .⁠
    The point is, that we KNOW that our loved ones will be, and are, present at significant events. And they are. But, they don't forget about you for the rest of the year. They don't ‘hang out in heaven’, just making rare, sporadic appearances in our lives for parties.⁠
    .⁠
    They're with you in abundance, as you go about your daily life.⁠
    .⁠
    Mediumship readings will sometimes bring up an upcoming family event, such as a wedding or an anniversary party currently being planned. Or recognize someone’s birthday coming up soon. But, much more often, spirit loved ones will share the more monotonous times they are with their loved ones - they’ll show me your easy chair, a movie you just watched, or a specific home improvement project you were working on a couple weeks back. They'll talk about how you spilled coffee on your shirt this morning, they'll show me a street sign you pass every day on your way to work, or show me the location in your home where you last cried over them while they wrapped their arms around you from spirit.⁠
    .⁠
    The very first mediumship reading that I myself ever received incorporated an every day moment - my grandmother in spirit showed the medium the exact cookies I'd been baking earlier that day: peanut butter with Hershey kisses in the center. ❤️🍪 That one piece of information meant more to me than every other piece of evidence - I carried that bit of information with me from that day forward, because: it showed me that my loved one in spirit was with me in every day moments.
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    And your’s are too. 💞💫⁠

  •  107  9  26 February, 2020
  • Social media just reminded me that this photo was taken two years ago today. ⁣
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It’s one of my favorite photos of all time. It’s framed in our living room. ⁣
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I love the shape of the three of us in it. I love the way Bri is wrapping his arms around us both. This is how life used to feel. ⁣
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Yesterday, out of nowhere, I was knocked over by the strength of a grief wave I really didn’t see coming. It’s so hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t experienced this type of pain, what it feels like. ⁣
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It’s like the wound is cracked back open again, exactly as it was the day that Brian died. For a moment, or an hour, or a day, or a week, it’s as if no time has passed, no processing has happened, no scab has formed. ⁣
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At eleven months, this really scared me. I often feel sad, but this was different. It’s scary because it feels like it will never end. Like the pain will continue for all time. ⁣
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When you’re in it, it’s almost impossible to remember anything else. ⁣
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How is it possible that I function day-to-day, despite this pain? How do I ever smile or breathe? Brian is dead. ⁣
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The only way to get through, is to let go. To give up control. And to remember that it needs to move through you or it will get stuck. ⁣
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Grief doesn’t care about timelines or rules. It will find you wherever you hide and whatever you do, in one way or another. ⁣
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It teaches us to let go, let it in, let it pass. ⁣
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Love doesn’t care for rules much either. It’s the undercurrent controlling so much of what we do. And grief, as the sister to love, is no different. ⁣
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Here we are, our little threesome, holding each other so tight, just a year before everything would blow apart. ⁣
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Last night, as I put D to sleep, she began to curl up the corners of the photo of her and Bri that hangs beside her bed, as she so often does. ⁣
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“Mama, I’m feeling frustrated.” She told me. ⁣
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I asked her why, but I had a feeling I knew what she was going to say before she even spoke. ⁣
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“I’m forgetting Dada.”⁣
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He’s been gone for a quarter of her life. It is an eternity. ⁣
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Eleven months.
  • Social media just reminded me that this photo was taken two years ago today. ⁣

    It’s one of my favorite photos of all time. It’s framed in our living room. ⁣

    I love the shape of the three of us in it. I love the way Bri is wrapping his arms around us both. This is how life used to feel. ⁣

    Yesterday, out of nowhere, I was knocked over by the strength of a grief wave I really didn’t see coming. It’s so hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t experienced this type of pain, what it feels like. ⁣

    It’s like the wound is cracked back open again, exactly as it was the day that Brian died. For a moment, or an hour, or a day, or a week, it’s as if no time has passed, no processing has happened, no scab has formed. ⁣

    At eleven months, this really scared me. I often feel sad, but this was different. It’s scary because it feels like it will never end. Like the pain will continue for all time. ⁣

    When you’re in it, it’s almost impossible to remember anything else. ⁣

    How is it possible that I function day-to-day, despite this pain? How do I ever smile or breathe? Brian is dead. ⁣

    The only way to get through, is to let go. To give up control. And to remember that it needs to move through you or it will get stuck. ⁣

    Grief doesn’t care about timelines or rules. It will find you wherever you hide and whatever you do, in one way or another. ⁣

    It teaches us to let go, let it in, let it pass. ⁣

    Love doesn’t care for rules much either. It’s the undercurrent controlling so much of what we do. And grief, as the sister to love, is no different. ⁣

    Here we are, our little threesome, holding each other so tight, just a year before everything would blow apart. ⁣

    Last night, as I put D to sleep, she began to curl up the corners of the photo of her and Bri that hangs beside her bed, as she so often does. ⁣

    “Mama, I’m feeling frustrated.” She told me. ⁣

    I asked her why, but I had a feeling I knew what she was going to say before she even spoke. ⁣

    “I’m forgetting Dada.”⁣

    He’s been gone for a quarter of her life. It is an eternity. ⁣

    Eleven months.

  •  379  50  26 February, 2020
  • As the cold weather continues, please keep these orphaned children and widows in your thoughts 💙

They have to face minus temperatures daily, without the comfort of a warm house to return to...💔 Help them, now: bit.ly/OINWinter
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#OrphansInNeed #OIN #Orphan #Orphans #Orphaned #Widow #Widows #Widowed #Help #Charity #Cause #Children #Cold #Winter #Weather
  • As the cold weather continues, please keep these orphaned children and widows in your thoughts 💙

    They have to face minus temperatures daily, without the comfort of a warm house to return to...💔 Help them, now: bit.ly/OINWinter
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    #OrphansInNeed #OIN #Orphan #Orphans #Orphaned #Widow #Widows #Widowed #Help #Charity #Cause #Children #Cold #Winter #Weather

  •  15  0  26 February, 2020
  • As we celebrate international women's day Almanah Hope Foundation in partnership with Wfm91.7 is organising a "Women Rap Session" to look at our role as women in having a "synergistic support" for realization of this year's theme "I am a generation equality". Do you believe as women, to gain full and equal participation in global development we must build a generation of women across her evolution who will begin to provide a "wrapper" for her sister?

We do! 
Q; how many sisters here have runned down and how many have pulled up?

Our women in public and private sector in high positions are finger count and the question is; have that few taken an intentional action to buildup and build-in other younger ones with the aim of increasing our quota or they just mind their business and join the discuss of gender equality?

According to statistic women are about 49% population yet taking our elected officials as an example our population is .0 what ever.

What ain't we doing right #inhouse? 
While the conversation is being held with the men, leaders and all who we believe have the powers and privileges that weaken gender, let's meet this year #iwd to have an informal discussion about our weakness that has empowered them to do, so we we can build a character of sisterhood and will the power that

Guest; All women
#singles #married #singlemoms #divorced #seprated #widowed

Date; 8th March, 2020

Venue; Suru Express Hotel 49A Joel Ogunnaike Street GRA Ikeja Lagos

Time; 1pm prompt.

Participation is free but registration is compulsory
Register  @ almanah.hopefnd.co@gmail.com or 08176138290, 08037159715

Call 08176138290 for vendor space

#iwd2020
#womensday
#womentowhallmeeting
#sisterhood
#sistersrock
#sisterslove
#unityofpurpose
  • As we celebrate international women's day Almanah Hope Foundation in partnership with Wfm91.7 is organising a "Women Rap Session" to look at our role as women in having a "synergistic support" for realization of this year's theme "I am a generation equality". Do you believe as women, to gain full and equal participation in global development we must build a generation of women across her evolution who will begin to provide a "wrapper" for her sister?

    We do!
    Q; how many sisters here have runned down and how many have pulled up?

    Our women in public and private sector in high positions are finger count and the question is; have that few taken an intentional action to buildup and build-in other younger ones with the aim of increasing our quota or they just mind their business and join the discuss of gender equality?

    According to statistic women are about 49% population yet taking our elected officials as an example our population is .0 what ever.

    What ain't we doing right #inhouse?
    While the conversation is being held with the men, leaders and all who we believe have the powers and privileges that weaken gender, let's meet this year #iwd to have an informal discussion about our weakness that has empowered them to do, so we we can build a character of sisterhood and will the power that

    Guest; All women
    #singles #married #singlemoms #divorced #seprated #widowed

    Date; 8th March, 2020

    Venue; Suru Express Hotel 49A Joel Ogunnaike Street GRA Ikeja Lagos

    Time; 1pm prompt.

    Participation is free but registration is compulsory
    Register @ almanah.hopefnd.co@gmail.com or 08176138290, 08037159715

    Call 08176138290 for vendor space

    #iwd2020
    #womensday
    #womentowhallmeeting
    #sisterhood
    #sistersrock
    #sisterslove
    #unityofpurpose

  •  6  0  26 February, 2020
  • There is no such thing as “past pain” or “old pain.” 🤔 Stay with me because I know this is not what you are likely used to thinking... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Things happened in your past. Life happened. Death happened. But your past can’t create pain, only your thoughts about your past can. When I learned this, it changed my life. 🙌🏼⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The thoughts you think now create the feelings you feel now. So, if you are feeling pain right now, it’s because of a thought you’re thinking right now. This means past events can’t hurt you. 💓⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And if you’d like some help with this, let’s talk. 💛 This is what I do in my Mom Goes On coaching program every day. Widows learn to use the science of posttraumatic growth combined with powerful coaching tools to get unstuck and start loving life again. Click the link in my bio for details. Spots are limited.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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#widow #widowsofinstagram #widowedmom #widowed #youngandwidowed #grief  #griefandloss #widowhood #widowhoodisnotforsissies #momgoeson #widowcoach #widowstrong #hopeforwidows #youngwidow #youngwidows #youngwidowsclub #posttraumaticgrowth #griefandlosssupport #widows  #widowlife #widowlifesucks #strongmom #thelifecoachschool #griefrecovery #griefawareness #lifeafterloss #widowhoodsisterhood #widowshelpingwidows #thewidowedmompodcast
  • There is no such thing as “past pain” or “old pain.” 🤔 Stay with me because I know this is not what you are likely used to thinking... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Things happened in your past. Life happened. Death happened. But your past can’t create pain, only your thoughts about your past can. When I learned this, it changed my life. 🙌🏼⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    The thoughts you think now create the feelings you feel now. So, if you are feeling pain right now, it’s because of a thought you’re thinking right now. This means past events can’t hurt you. 💓⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    And if you’d like some help with this, let’s talk. 💛 This is what I do in my Mom Goes On coaching program every day. Widows learn to use the science of posttraumatic growth combined with powerful coaching tools to get unstuck and start loving life again. Click the link in my bio for details. Spots are limited.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    #widow #widowsofinstagram #widowedmom #widowed #youngandwidowed #grief #griefandloss #widowhood #widowhoodisnotforsissies #momgoeson #widowcoach #widowstrong #hopeforwidows #youngwidow #youngwidows #youngwidowsclub #posttraumaticgrowth #griefandlosssupport #widows #widowlife #widowlifesucks #strongmom #thelifecoachschool #griefrecovery #griefawareness #lifeafterloss #widowhoodsisterhood #widowshelpingwidows #thewidowedmompodcast

  •  16  0  26 February, 2020
  • When I'm having one of those days... #widow #widowed
  • When I'm having one of those days... #widow #widowed

  •  7  1  25 February, 2020
  • Sundowning is something Senior Citizens may experience. I was looking for something to describe what the widowed go through. This is a real thing and it scares me. Another battle on this journey.
  • Sundowning is something Senior Citizens may experience. I was looking for something to describe what the widowed go through. This is a real thing and it scares me. Another battle on this journey.

  •  2  3  25 February, 2020
  • My wonderful friend, who happens to also be a member of #GriefClub, said this to me earlier this evening and it spoke straight to my heart. I'm struggling, but that's OK. Grief is hard. Amid all the bleh, I can focus for a few moments on the good things, great and small. We can all do that.

So, what are five things you like about yourself and your life?

Shout it from the roof tops, write it in your journal, message it to your friend who has stood by you through this crappy grief. Write it in the comments below. Message it to me. However you mark it, I really hope you can spend a few moments reminding yourself that there are lots of good things about you and your life, even when it all feels a bit shit. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
  • My wonderful friend, who happens to also be a member of #GriefClub, said this to me earlier this evening and it spoke straight to my heart. I'm struggling, but that's OK. Grief is hard. Amid all the bleh, I can focus for a few moments on the good things, great and small. We can all do that.

    So, what are five things you like about yourself and your life?

    Shout it from the roof tops, write it in your journal, message it to your friend who has stood by you through this crappy grief. Write it in the comments below. Message it to me. However you mark it, I really hope you can spend a few moments reminding yourself that there are lots of good things about you and your life, even when it all feels a bit shit. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  •  48  4  25 February, 2020
  • Writing Episodes for #YourFriendlyNeighborhoodWidow had me in such a self intimacy season. While the evidence is that my marriage is the trigger to now being a Domestic Violence Surviving Widow. This was just an add on to the person I was before going into marriage or any relationship before that.
Without self reflection and self intimacy I lived in an unhealthy cocktail of self deprecation and redirecting blame. There is accountability to be taken in most negative behaviors that lead us into social titles we grow ashamed of as we allow it to dictate our value.
Going back to my childhood was such a grounding and humbling experience. To be able to grasp the reasons behind the things my child mind registered as negative. Additionally it gave me a better representation of what my development represents to my family as a whole.
I have incredible cousins (in my culture this word isn't used - we say siblings for all kids on your family tree in the same generation), I have incredible personable nieces and nephews. It had been sixteen years, but we picked up where we all left off, except more grown. Gonna tell you all about it in a vlog --- in the meantime: kindly Countdown to March 1st to listen to #Episode3 : why I stayed! #RetourAuBercail #LenfantDuPays 
#IfIKnewThenWhatIKnowNow 🌺 
#YourFriendlyNeighborhoodWidow #WidowsOfInstagram #YoungWidow #Widowed #SelfEsteem #SelfCare #LoveOnTop #LaunchingSoon #Podcasts #PodcastsOfInstagram #Blogger #Podcaster #Writer #NoyAWidowsHandbook #BlackGirlMagic #BaldGirlsClub #BaldGirlsClub #RockYourBald #Libreville
  • Writing Episodes for #YourFriendlyNeighborhoodWidow had me in such a self intimacy season. While the evidence is that my marriage is the trigger to now being a Domestic Violence Surviving Widow. This was just an add on to the person I was before going into marriage or any relationship before that.
    Without self reflection and self intimacy I lived in an unhealthy cocktail of self deprecation and redirecting blame. There is accountability to be taken in most negative behaviors that lead us into social titles we grow ashamed of as we allow it to dictate our value.
    Going back to my childhood was such a grounding and humbling experience. To be able to grasp the reasons behind the things my child mind registered as negative. Additionally it gave me a better representation of what my development represents to my family as a whole.
    I have incredible cousins (in my culture this word isn't used - we say siblings for all kids on your family tree in the same generation), I have incredible personable nieces and nephews. It had been sixteen years, but we picked up where we all left off, except more grown. Gonna tell you all about it in a vlog --- in the meantime: kindly Countdown to March 1st to listen to #Episode3 : why I stayed! #RetourAuBercail #LenfantDuPays
    #IfIKnewThenWhatIKnowNow 🌺
    #YourFriendlyNeighborhoodWidow #WidowsOfInstagram #YoungWidow #Widowed #SelfEsteem #SelfCare #LoveOnTop #LaunchingSoon #Podcasts #PodcastsOfInstagram #Blogger #Podcaster #Writer #NoyAWidowsHandbook #BlackGirlMagic #BaldGirlsClub #BaldGirlsClub #RockYourBald #Libreville

  •  55  6  25 February, 2020
  • I posted something similar in my Instagram stories yesterday and everyone was agreeing. 
I was told this many times after James memorial service. 
Throat punches are completely justified.

Ps. Link in bio to my latest video related to this subject! ❤
  • I posted something similar in my Instagram stories yesterday and everyone was agreeing.
    I was told this many times after James memorial service.
    Throat punches are completely justified.

    Ps. Link in bio to my latest video related to this subject! ❤

  •  1,838  137  25 February, 2020

Top #widowed Posts

  • This book... kinda almost feels like one of my babies.⁣⠀🤗😍
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If you’ve ever worked on a heart project for 5+ years, I’m sure you get what I mean. I was dreaming of this moment since I was a kid. When I was just a sliver of a girl telling my mom as I danced around our dining table that someday I wanted to write a book. ⁣⠀
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When I finally grew up & knew EXACTLY what my first book was going to be about, I don’t think I was quite ready for the roller coaster of A to Z. The late nights, the MANY drafts, the tears, the hours and hours of editing, the confusion, the frustration, the YEARS of work from when I was trying to force it & then the months when I finally heard the ‘GO’ from God, handed the outcome over & put ‘pen to paper.’ ⁣⠀
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The book was a success BEFORE it reached the stores. It was a success BEFORE all of the five star reviews. Honestly, for me, it was a success before it was even published when a close friend of mine read a late draft & told me it changed her outlook on life & brought her closer to God. ⁣⠀
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That was all I ever wanted y’all. The job I‘ve been given is to do everything in my power to share my story. I’ve been doing my best at that & leaving the rest is up to Him.⁣⠀
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Y’all, it’s not easy to TRUST when you’re in the middle of the hard seasons. Hold on. Keep working. Keep letting go & letting God. ⁣⠀
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It doesn’t always happen the way you wish. It definitely won’t happen on your timeline. But if the dream is in you, then you better believe the dream is FOR YOU. 🙏🏼✨⁣⠀
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Happy ONE WEEK in stores, Made for Brave. I’m so proud of you!! 😍🙏🏼😭🥰🥳⁣⠀
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#MadeforBrave #MadeforBraveBook⠀
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PS. EVERY book in our closest four Barnes & Nobles are now signed. SO, if you live in the Seattle area, go snag one of those puppies (or a few) before they’re gone!!
  • This book... kinda almost feels like one of my babies.⁣⠀🤗😍
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    If you’ve ever worked on a heart project for 5+ years, I’m sure you get what I mean. I was dreaming of this moment since I was a kid. When I was just a sliver of a girl telling my mom as I danced around our dining table that someday I wanted to write a book. ⁣⠀
    ⁣⠀
    When I finally grew up & knew EXACTLY what my first book was going to be about, I don’t think I was quite ready for the roller coaster of A to Z. The late nights, the MANY drafts, the tears, the hours and hours of editing, the confusion, the frustration, the YEARS of work from when I was trying to force it & then the months when I finally heard the ‘GO’ from God, handed the outcome over & put ‘pen to paper.’ ⁣⠀
    ⁣⠀
    The book was a success BEFORE it reached the stores. It was a success BEFORE all of the five star reviews. Honestly, for me, it was a success before it was even published when a close friend of mine read a late draft & told me it changed her outlook on life & brought her closer to God. ⁣⠀
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    That was all I ever wanted y’all. The job I‘ve been given is to do everything in my power to share my story. I’ve been doing my best at that & leaving the rest is up to Him.⁣⠀
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    Y’all, it’s not easy to TRUST when you’re in the middle of the hard seasons. Hold on. Keep working. Keep letting go & letting God. ⁣⠀
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    It doesn’t always happen the way you wish. It definitely won’t happen on your timeline. But if the dream is in you, then you better believe the dream is FOR YOU. 🙏🏼✨⁣⠀
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    Happy ONE WEEK in stores, Made for Brave. I’m so proud of you!! 😍🙏🏼😭🥰🥳⁣⠀
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    #MadeforBrave #MadeforBraveBook

    PS. EVERY book in our closest four Barnes & Nobles are now signed. SO, if you live in the Seattle area, go snag one of those puppies (or a few) before they’re gone!!

  •  189  13  2 hours ago
  • You know when you put on your husband’s respirator and inhale all his “worker man smell” and just start weeping while thinking “how the fuck did I get here?” “How can he really be dead?” And “how has it already been almost 18 months?” Well that happened this morning. It’s crazy how grief just hits like a Mac truck when you least expect and man, do I miss that guy who came home each night smelling like a worker man.
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#grief #widowhood #widowlife #widowed #imissyou #grieving #griefjourney #widow #youngwidow #respirator #projects #widowspeak #widows #widower #greatloss #lifeafterloss #singlemom #singlemomlife #navigatingloss #modernloss #griefwaves #allthefeels #workerman #workingman
  • You know when you put on your husband’s respirator and inhale all his “worker man smell” and just start weeping while thinking “how the fuck did I get here?” “How can he really be dead?” And “how has it already been almost 18 months?” Well that happened this morning. It’s crazy how grief just hits like a Mac truck when you least expect and man, do I miss that guy who came home each night smelling like a worker man.
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    #grief #widowhood #widowlife #widowed #imissyou #grieving #griefjourney #widow #youngwidow #respirator #projects #widowspeak #widows #widower #greatloss #lifeafterloss #singlemom #singlemomlife #navigatingloss #modernloss #griefwaves #allthefeels #workerman #workingman

  •  177  20  17 February, 2020
  • Is this my daddy?

All morning Fleur has been talking about death and what happens to the body when we die. So I explained and then it was time to take her up to the loft, take out the memory box and show her Jeroen’s ashes (stored in a jam jar... Jeroen would appreciate my practical approach 😂). Fleur was fascinated and explored with all her senses. ‘So this is my dad?’ she asked after a while. ‘No Fleur, these are only the bodily remains, but the spirit of your daddy is all around you, forever. Love never dies.’ With that she looked up, smiled and was done with the subject.

#widowed #widowsofinstagram #youngwidow #widowedmom #grievingmother #grievingchild #widowspeak #grief #grieving #griefsupport #lifeafterloss #healingjourney #journeywithin #posttraumaticgrowth
  • Is this my daddy?

    All morning Fleur has been talking about death and what happens to the body when we die. So I explained and then it was time to take her up to the loft, take out the memory box and show her Jeroen’s ashes (stored in a jam jar... Jeroen would appreciate my practical approach 😂). Fleur was fascinated and explored with all her senses. ‘So this is my dad?’ she asked after a while. ‘No Fleur, these are only the bodily remains, but the spirit of your daddy is all around you, forever. Love never dies.’ With that she looked up, smiled and was done with the subject.

    #widowed #widowsofinstagram #youngwidow #widowedmom #grievingmother #grievingchild #widowspeak #grief #grieving #griefsupport #lifeafterloss #healingjourney #journeywithin #posttraumaticgrowth

  •  247  34  1 February, 2020
  • Widowed with children. That’s not something we talk about everyday, but why?  Because it makes people uncomfortable. .

When you hear the word widow, you think of a little old lady 👵🏽. You think how sad it is that she is grieving the person she spent the last 50 years with, BUT - she has adult children. They will show her how to make the coffee ☕️, set the thermostat 💻. They will mow the lawn and share beautiful memories and grieve together 🌸 Thats comforting isn’t it? .

But what about the widows we don’t picture. The ones who make us uncomfortable ✊🏽 The widows who children scream they want their daddy, because it has only been a week and they are not old enough to understand where he is, or why he can’t tuck them 🛌 The ones who lay in that hallway outside screaming doors and cry too, because she doesn’t have an answer to give 💔. I see you & you don’t have to be okay right now. .

To the mom who’s 4 year old introduces himself as “...my dad died” 👋

I see you. 
I see your child. This is apart of them now too. 
I feel that uncomfortable space. 
I see the panic on people’s faces searching for a response.....”Nice to meet you, is fine” 😅. So, we’re going to talk about it. We’re going to make people uncomfortable. We are not all little old lady’s. AND we’re starting a club. Bring your kids, I know you don’t have a sitter. 
It’s going to be uncomfortable, but 100% we are going to get through it. That’s just what we have do. 
Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. 
#widowedwithchildren #tedtalk
  • Widowed with children. That’s not something we talk about everyday, but why? Because it makes people uncomfortable. .

    When you hear the word widow, you think of a little old lady 👵🏽. You think how sad it is that she is grieving the person she spent the last 50 years with, BUT - she has adult children. They will show her how to make the coffee ☕️, set the thermostat 💻. They will mow the lawn and share beautiful memories and grieve together 🌸 Thats comforting isn’t it? .

    But what about the widows we don’t picture. The ones who make us uncomfortable ✊🏽 The widows who children scream they want their daddy, because it has only been a week and they are not old enough to understand where he is, or why he can’t tuck them 🛌 The ones who lay in that hallway outside screaming doors and cry too, because she doesn’t have an answer to give 💔. I see you & you don’t have to be okay right now. .

    To the mom who’s 4 year old introduces himself as “...my dad died” 👋

    I see you.
    I see your child. This is apart of them now too.
    I feel that uncomfortable space.
    I see the panic on people’s faces searching for a response.....”Nice to meet you, is fine” 😅. So, we’re going to talk about it. We’re going to make people uncomfortable. We are not all little old lady’s. AND we’re starting a club. Bring your kids, I know you don’t have a sitter.
    It’s going to be uncomfortable, but 100% we are going to get through it. That’s just what we have do.
    Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
    #widowedwithchildren #tedtalk

  •  129  26  21 September, 2019
  • Since the day Jeroen was stabbed to death almost 4 years ago, I struggled with the idea of how to ever explain this to Fleur... how can you put something so utterly cruel into language appropriate for a child... Well, today was the day. 6AM and Fleur asked me how her daddy died. Not the way you want to be woken up I can tell you! 
I’ve always been very open and direct to Fleur and also this time didn’t sugarcoat any of the facts:

Daddy went outside to go to the post office. There was another man on the street who was sick in his head. That man had a knife with him. Then I struggle what to say and Fleur continues: ‘and then he cut my daddy, in the legs, in the arms and where else?’ ‘Everywhere’ I fill in. ‘Your daddy died immediately.’ By this point I’m crying so much that Fleur gets even more upset. I tell her it’s okay to cry and to be sad, that it’s important to acknowledge these feelings. 
I cried, she cried, she asked some more facts, we cried some more and then when she had enough information she turned to play with her bunnies Stinky, Pinky and Haas who have already traveled the world with her. 
Knowing Fleur she will continue to talk about this and will ask for even more facts the coming days and weeks. Wish me strength and the ability to always finding the suitable answers! Gosh, it’s so unbearably hard! 
#widowedmomtravel #widowed #widowedmom #widowedandyoung #youngwidows #widowsofinstagram #widowlife #widowspeak #grieving #grievingchild #grievingmom #grievingmother #griefawareness #griefjourney #griefislove #livingwithgrief #livingwithloss #dealingwithloss
#itsokaytonotbeokay #saytheirname
#lovegoeson #lifeafterloss
  • Since the day Jeroen was stabbed to death almost 4 years ago, I struggled with the idea of how to ever explain this to Fleur... how can you put something so utterly cruel into language appropriate for a child... Well, today was the day. 6AM and Fleur asked me how her daddy died. Not the way you want to be woken up I can tell you!
    I’ve always been very open and direct to Fleur and also this time didn’t sugarcoat any of the facts:

    Daddy went outside to go to the post office. There was another man on the street who was sick in his head. That man had a knife with him. Then I struggle what to say and Fleur continues: ‘and then he cut my daddy, in the legs, in the arms and where else?’ ‘Everywhere’ I fill in. ‘Your daddy died immediately.’ By this point I’m crying so much that Fleur gets even more upset. I tell her it’s okay to cry and to be sad, that it’s important to acknowledge these feelings.
    I cried, she cried, she asked some more facts, we cried some more and then when she had enough information she turned to play with her bunnies Stinky, Pinky and Haas who have already traveled the world with her.
    Knowing Fleur she will continue to talk about this and will ask for even more facts the coming days and weeks. Wish me strength and the ability to always finding the suitable answers! Gosh, it’s so unbearably hard!
    #widowedmomtravel #widowed #widowedmom #widowedandyoung #youngwidows #widowsofinstagram #widowlife #widowspeak #grieving #grievingchild #grievingmom #grievingmother #griefawareness #griefjourney #griefislove #livingwithgrief #livingwithloss #dealingwithloss
    #itsokaytonotbeokay #saytheirname
    #lovegoeson #lifeafterloss

  •  290  126  24 December, 2019
  • 2 years ago I was in my hardest part of my life so far. Today I’m better and not scared to live. Sometimes I’m wondering how my life would be if Ronnie was here and then I know he would love to see me happy and that’s what I’m going to be....HAPPY ❤️ Not for him but for me
#widowquotes #widow #singlemom #danishgirl #alternativegirl #denmark #picoftheday #selfie #instadaily #instagood #instagram #griefsupport #griefjourney #livemylife #smile #widowed #alenemor #alenemortilto #enke #sorg
  • 2 years ago I was in my hardest part of my life so far. Today I’m better and not scared to live. Sometimes I’m wondering how my life would be if Ronnie was here and then I know he would love to see me happy and that’s what I’m going to be....HAPPY ❤️ Not for him but for me
    #widowquotes #widow #singlemom #danishgirl #alternativegirl #denmark #picoftheday #selfie #instadaily #instagood #instagram #griefsupport #griefjourney #livemylife #smile #widowed #alenemor #alenemortilto #enke #sorg

  •  123  6  26 January, 2020