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  • * M A N I P U L A T I O N * 
What even is manipulation in a relationship? And how does this affect you? .
Manipulation is being made to feel guilty for making decisions that you make. .
Have you ever been super excited about something that you know is SO amazing for you and going to benefit you SO much, only for the other person to turn around and basically Piss on your Parade? .
“But what about me?” “I won’t get to see you very much”
“That sounds like you don’t want to be around me”
“You sound like you’re not happy with me?” “Don’t you love me anymore?”
“Sorry that I don’t make you happy”
“Am I not enough for you?” .
NOTE-The person saying these things DOES NOT actually feel like this!! They are just trying to twist your thoughts and make you feel guilty as they don’t want to see you SUCCEED! ✅
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I’ve heard all of the above and I realised once I left that this was his way of manipulating me for his OWN benefit. .
If I got successful or grew as a person or started moving forward with life then the panic would set in for him and he would see that actually, I didn’t need him. So he did everything in his power to twist my thoughts and put me on that guilt trip, completely tainting anything that I was looking forward to! .
I will never forget the day he told me that I didn’t love him because I was choosing to go on holiday with my family!! 🤦🏻‍♀️ To the point where he stopped speaking to me for WEEKS over it! At that time I was only about 16 and I put up a massive argument with my parents for me to not go! .
I kicked off big time at them! How dare they pull me away from the love of my life right! How dare they tear me away from the person who needed me the most in this world! How selfish of them!..
WRONG!! ❌
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This wasn’t me talking, this was my ex, filling my head with all the bullshit things he would say to keep me exactly where he needed me! .
And when it came down to it, he absolutely loved having me out of the country for two weeks so he could run around doing what he liked! .
Manipulation is one of the hardest things to deal with and one of the biggest mind fucks! .
Have you ever been manipulated?
  • * M A N I P U L A T I O N *
    What even is manipulation in a relationship? And how does this affect you? .
    Manipulation is being made to feel guilty for making decisions that you make. .
    Have you ever been super excited about something that you know is SO amazing for you and going to benefit you SO much, only for the other person to turn around and basically Piss on your Parade? .
    “But what about me?” “I won’t get to see you very much”
    “That sounds like you don’t want to be around me”
    “You sound like you’re not happy with me?” “Don’t you love me anymore?”
    “Sorry that I don’t make you happy”
    “Am I not enough for you?” .
    NOTE-The person saying these things DOES NOT actually feel like this!! They are just trying to twist your thoughts and make you feel guilty as they don’t want to see you SUCCEED! ✅
    .
    I’ve heard all of the above and I realised once I left that this was his way of manipulating me for his OWN benefit. .
    If I got successful or grew as a person or started moving forward with life then the panic would set in for him and he would see that actually, I didn’t need him. So he did everything in his power to twist my thoughts and put me on that guilt trip, completely tainting anything that I was looking forward to! .
    I will never forget the day he told me that I didn’t love him because I was choosing to go on holiday with my family!! 🤦🏻‍♀️ To the point where he stopped speaking to me for WEEKS over it! At that time I was only about 16 and I put up a massive argument with my parents for me to not go! .
    I kicked off big time at them! How dare they pull me away from the love of my life right! How dare they tear me away from the person who needed me the most in this world! How selfish of them!..
    WRONG!! ❌
    .
    This wasn’t me talking, this was my ex, filling my head with all the bullshit things he would say to keep me exactly where he needed me! .
    And when it came down to it, he absolutely loved having me out of the country for two weeks so he could run around doing what he liked! .
    Manipulation is one of the hardest things to deal with and one of the biggest mind fucks! .
    Have you ever been manipulated?

  •  12  1  7 hours ago
  • Perfectly stated. 
I never really understood the concept of trust. 
And I never trusted my abuser. And I thought to myself, well then how could I have loved him if I didn’t trust him? 🤔
I was very confused in the relationship. 
I let things slide, I justified his lies by telling myself I can’t do anything about it, this was just who he was and I should be able to deal with it. I told myself, I should be appreciative he financially takes care of our family (he was but it was a job to get bills paid) I should be happy he was around, I should be happy he acted like he cared.. and that was how I calmed my inner most thoughts down most of the time. Trust wasn’t a part of our “partnership.” We essentially didn’t have one. I referred to myself as the maid and the babysitter when he told me to shut and mind my own business when I asked where he was going.. and of course he denied that I was a babysitter. I said, but you treat me like the hired help and not the woman you cherish and put first. He convinced me that if I loved him then I would stop making things hard, shut my mouth and not ask questions. 
My emotions were everywhere, I didn’t know what to do. So I stayed paralyzed in a situation that terrified me. If you don’t trust somebody, you essentially have nothing with them. Trust means you are at peace when they walk out the door. Distrust is when your heart sinks to your feet because your first thought is that they are going to some trashy woman’s house to cheat. No matter if you are right or not, the thought alone is enough to know you don’t have trust within the relationship. And for good reason you do not. 
#trust #unhealthyloyalty #traumabond #disloyal #betrayal #lovefraud #sicklove #lies #abuserecovery #trustme #congame #psychopathfree #sociopathy #badboy #emotionalabuse #traumainformed #trustyourgut #writersofig #narcissism #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #domesticabuse #whenloveisalie
#narcissisticabusesurvivor #deception #mastermanipulator
  • Perfectly stated.
    I never really understood the concept of trust.
    And I never trusted my abuser. And I thought to myself, well then how could I have loved him if I didn’t trust him? 🤔
    I was very confused in the relationship.
    I let things slide, I justified his lies by telling myself I can’t do anything about it, this was just who he was and I should be able to deal with it. I told myself, I should be appreciative he financially takes care of our family (he was but it was a job to get bills paid) I should be happy he was around, I should be happy he acted like he cared.. and that was how I calmed my inner most thoughts down most of the time. Trust wasn’t a part of our “partnership.” We essentially didn’t have one. I referred to myself as the maid and the babysitter when he told me to shut and mind my own business when I asked where he was going.. and of course he denied that I was a babysitter. I said, but you treat me like the hired help and not the woman you cherish and put first. He convinced me that if I loved him then I would stop making things hard, shut my mouth and not ask questions.
    My emotions were everywhere, I didn’t know what to do. So I stayed paralyzed in a situation that terrified me. If you don’t trust somebody, you essentially have nothing with them. Trust means you are at peace when they walk out the door. Distrust is when your heart sinks to your feet because your first thought is that they are going to some trashy woman’s house to cheat. No matter if you are right or not, the thought alone is enough to know you don’t have trust within the relationship. And for good reason you do not.
    #trust #unhealthyloyalty #traumabond #disloyal #betrayal #lovefraud #sicklove #lies #abuserecovery #trustme #congame #psychopathfree #sociopathy #badboy #emotionalabuse #traumainformed #trustyourgut #writersofig #narcissism #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #domesticabuse #whenloveisalie
    #narcissisticabusesurvivor #deception #mastermanipulator

  •  217  6  15 February, 2020
  • It’s a sad realization to learn that they didn’t love us. That our illusion of the soul mate connection was false. After learning the truth about these master manipulators, it's hard to know that we gave our heart, soul and bodies to these evil people.

After enduring trauma and  abusive relationships with narcissistic people, we can come to believe that nothing is real, that we can't trust anyone, even those closest to us. This is something that will improve with the healing journey.

He wasn't real. The relationship wasn't real. The love wasn't real. The passion wasn't real. The only thing real was the person that he showed me when he took off the masks.

What was also real?  My love.

It's still hard to fathom, but I don't fear for this kind of disguised evil to walk my path again; I’m educated now.

Because of my unconditional love and character, I know that deep love exists. I did love him. I tried to meet him where he was at. I embraced my own imperfections and wanted to understand and forgive his. I thought that was love.

The truth is, I have learned to love people through a lot of their bullshit. But most recently, I have learned to love myself more and to leave the bullshit behind.

I also learned that I've been trauma bonded and very misconstrued in knowing what healthy love was from an upbringing with a toxic father. I still loved my narcissistic father. I grew up thinking people I love can be abusive.

Now that I know the truth, I know it's not real; it wasn't real. I can't love an illusion. I can't love an empty person. I've let them go and have gone no contact.

Now? I feel void, with a little disgust. No love. No empathy. No connection. It is so freeing. So liberating.
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#abusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #abuseawareness #narcissisticabuse #covertnarcissist #spiritualnarcissist #mastermanipulator #unconditionallove #selflove #lifeafterabuse #paintopassion #npdawareness #psychopathyawareness #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder
  • It’s a sad realization to learn that they didn’t love us. That our illusion of the soul mate connection was false. After learning the truth about these master manipulators, it's hard to know that we gave our heart, soul and bodies to these evil people.

    After enduring trauma and abusive relationships with narcissistic people, we can come to believe that nothing is real, that we can't trust anyone, even those closest to us. This is something that will improve with the healing journey.

    He wasn't real. The relationship wasn't real. The love wasn't real. The passion wasn't real. The only thing real was the person that he showed me when he took off the masks.

    What was also real? My love.

    It's still hard to fathom, but I don't fear for this kind of disguised evil to walk my path again; I’m educated now.

    Because of my unconditional love and character, I know that deep love exists. I did love him. I tried to meet him where he was at. I embraced my own imperfections and wanted to understand and forgive his. I thought that was love.

    The truth is, I have learned to love people through a lot of their bullshit. But most recently, I have learned to love myself more and to leave the bullshit behind.

    I also learned that I've been trauma bonded and very misconstrued in knowing what healthy love was from an upbringing with a toxic father. I still loved my narcissistic father. I grew up thinking people I love can be abusive.

    Now that I know the truth, I know it's not real; it wasn't real. I can't love an illusion. I can't love an empty person. I've let them go and have gone no contact.

    Now? I feel void, with a little disgust. No love. No empathy. No connection. It is so freeing. So liberating.
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    #abusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #abuseawareness #narcissisticabuse #covertnarcissist #spiritualnarcissist #mastermanipulator #unconditionallove #selflove #lifeafterabuse #paintopassion #npdawareness #psychopathyawareness #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder

  •  91  4  13 February, 2020
  • This is true on so many levels. 
People only saw my reactions as he walked around with a smirk and calm attitude. It was only behind closed doors that the monster, maniacal, raging, sadistic sounding psychopath in him came out. He was always a sarcastic kind of guy to the outside world and nobody thought he was a good person but he had a charm about him. Some people actually thought he was nice and helpful. He did extend help sometimes to certain people and that always made me feel good. But there was a cunning motive behind his disingenuous help. He was constantly wanting to con people. 
I foolishly only realized that as of late. I naively thought he wanted to help people. He found pleasure out of pretending to help and then ruining the people’s lives and businesses. 
He would pretend to help by starting a fire and then coming to the rescue to put it out; to make it seem like he was the hero in the situation he created in the first place. When others saw me upset at him, he manipulated them by telling them I had my period and I was “always just mad and nothing could make me happy.”
Gaslighting and abuse of my mind certainly would never make me happy and that’s all that he was capable of dishing out. I was so confused throughout the relationship, holding on for dear life, to anything seemingly good he did. I held tight to any compliments he ever gave and then I justified his abuse because he told me how beautiful I was and how he was the only one that would love me. Pathetic I know. 
I appeared unappreciative when in reality, I was groveling for answers as to why I was being emotionally and physically pushed around. 
Behind the mask is something very scary and people do not always see the full picture. 
#psychopath #traumabonding #traumabond #sicklove #lovefraud #mentalabuse #liar #gaslighting #manipulation #sociopathy #weboflies #conartist #mastermanipulator #abusiverelationship #abuseawareness #psychologicalabuse #tricked #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #survivorstories #toxiclove #hiddenabuse #intimatepartnerviolence #domesticabuse
  • This is true on so many levels.
    People only saw my reactions as he walked around with a smirk and calm attitude. It was only behind closed doors that the monster, maniacal, raging, sadistic sounding psychopath in him came out. He was always a sarcastic kind of guy to the outside world and nobody thought he was a good person but he had a charm about him. Some people actually thought he was nice and helpful. He did extend help sometimes to certain people and that always made me feel good. But there was a cunning motive behind his disingenuous help. He was constantly wanting to con people.
    I foolishly only realized that as of late. I naively thought he wanted to help people. He found pleasure out of pretending to help and then ruining the people’s lives and businesses.
    He would pretend to help by starting a fire and then coming to the rescue to put it out; to make it seem like he was the hero in the situation he created in the first place. When others saw me upset at him, he manipulated them by telling them I had my period and I was “always just mad and nothing could make me happy.”
    Gaslighting and abuse of my mind certainly would never make me happy and that’s all that he was capable of dishing out. I was so confused throughout the relationship, holding on for dear life, to anything seemingly good he did. I held tight to any compliments he ever gave and then I justified his abuse because he told me how beautiful I was and how he was the only one that would love me. Pathetic I know.
    I appeared unappreciative when in reality, I was groveling for answers as to why I was being emotionally and physically pushed around.
    Behind the mask is something very scary and people do not always see the full picture.
    #psychopath #traumabonding #traumabond #sicklove #lovefraud #mentalabuse #liar #gaslighting #manipulation #sociopathy #weboflies #conartist #mastermanipulator #abusiverelationship #abuseawareness #psychologicalabuse #tricked #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #survivorstories #toxiclove #hiddenabuse #intimatepartnerviolence #domesticabuse

  •  325  9  11 February, 2020
  • PLEASE DON’T LEAVE ME!! ***
I’ll be better...
I won’t do it again...
I can’t help it...
I’m stressed out...
I’m sorry...!
I love you...! -
These were just some of the excuses that would fall out of my ex’s mouth when ever I would FINALLY get the courage to call him out on his BULL and attempt to leave him 🙄
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But he knew how to MANIPULATE me so easily! 🤦🏻‍♀️
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Whenever I tried to leave, the tears would stream down his face ❌
He would actually get on his knees and beg me to stay ❌
He would apologise repeatedly telling me it would never happen again and that this was the last time he was going to cheat on me or hit me or go missing for days at a time ❌
He would threaten to kill himself ❌
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And for 7 years I fell for it! 🤦🏻‍♀️
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The first few weeks after would be AMAZING! He was the most attentive, kind, funny and loving partner you could ask for! Spoiling me with gifts, not going out with his friends as much, dinners out, affection, all the things I loved doing with him and then....BOOM!! -
Something would trigger him and another argument would break out ❌
And this was his opportunity! His opportunity to storm out of the house and go missing for days. Completely turn off his phone and just not come home. 
And he knew that’s what got me, the fear of him leaving me for someone else, this person I thought was the be all and end all (What was I thinking!) was leaving me for another girl! 
And the panic would set in, and the self doubt would creep in, and the self worth would disappear and the self respect would go out the window and i was back to running around trying to find him to say sorry for whatever it was that had started the argument! (Which 99% of the time was never actually my fault!) -
And then after a day or so, he would walk in and it would be back to living happily ever after for another few weeks until the next time. -
Manipulation is hard when you are living with the master of it!! It’s hard to see that’s what’s happening when your self worth has already been shattered by him! But trust me when I say; you are NEVER as little as he makes you out to be! You do NOT need him! You deserve so much MORE! 
So please ladies, break free! 💕💫
  • PLEASE DON’T LEAVE ME!! ***
    I’ll be better...
    I won’t do it again...
    I can’t help it...
    I’m stressed out...
    I’m sorry...!
    I love you...! -
    These were just some of the excuses that would fall out of my ex’s mouth when ever I would FINALLY get the courage to call him out on his BULL and attempt to leave him 🙄
    -
    But he knew how to MANIPULATE me so easily! 🤦🏻‍♀️
    -
    Whenever I tried to leave, the tears would stream down his face ❌
    He would actually get on his knees and beg me to stay ❌
    He would apologise repeatedly telling me it would never happen again and that this was the last time he was going to cheat on me or hit me or go missing for days at a time ❌
    He would threaten to kill himself ❌
    -
    And for 7 years I fell for it! 🤦🏻‍♀️
    -
    The first few weeks after would be AMAZING! He was the most attentive, kind, funny and loving partner you could ask for! Spoiling me with gifts, not going out with his friends as much, dinners out, affection, all the things I loved doing with him and then....BOOM!! -
    Something would trigger him and another argument would break out ❌
    And this was his opportunity! His opportunity to storm out of the house and go missing for days. Completely turn off his phone and just not come home.
    And he knew that’s what got me, the fear of him leaving me for someone else, this person I thought was the be all and end all (What was I thinking!) was leaving me for another girl!
    And the panic would set in, and the self doubt would creep in, and the self worth would disappear and the self respect would go out the window and i was back to running around trying to find him to say sorry for whatever it was that had started the argument! (Which 99% of the time was never actually my fault!) -
    And then after a day or so, he would walk in and it would be back to living happily ever after for another few weeks until the next time. -
    Manipulation is hard when you are living with the master of it!! It’s hard to see that’s what’s happening when your self worth has already been shattered by him! But trust me when I say; you are NEVER as little as he makes you out to be! You do NOT need him! You deserve so much MORE!
    So please ladies, break free! 💕💫

  •  18  3  10 February, 2020
  • Getting #Hoomans to play tug of war -
🐾 STEP 1 - settle in with a tug toy and blanket and look innocent and cute
🐾 STEP 2 - fluff the blankets under your chin, then dip your nose low into your almost-crossed legs
🐾 STEP 3 is KEY - look up with chin tucked, so as to create the deepest forehead wrinkles and most powerful begging eyes
🐾 STEP 4 - initiate the #puppydogeyes and wait 🥺
  • Getting #Hoomans to play tug of war -
    🐾 STEP 1 - settle in with a tug toy and blanket and look innocent and cute
    🐾 STEP 2 - fluff the blankets under your chin, then dip your nose low into your almost-crossed legs
    🐾 STEP 3 is KEY - look up with chin tucked, so as to create the deepest forehead wrinkles and most powerful begging eyes
    🐾 STEP 4 - initiate the #puppydogeyes and wait 🥺

  •  22  1  7 February, 2020
  • No fingers were harmed in the making of this video
  • No fingers were harmed in the making of this video

  •  8  1  7 February, 2020
  • I’ve been practicing my “but I’m so cute and adorable and wonderful and hardly take up any space” face to try to get mom and dad to let me sleep on the bed. It worked. 😏🔥
  • I’ve been practicing my “but I’m so cute and adorable and wonderful and hardly take up any space” face to try to get mom and dad to let me sleep on the bed. It worked. 😏🔥

  •  48  4  2 February, 2020

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  • It’s almost Valentine’s Day ❣
Have you got your dog a present? 🥰

Our life together as a couple has changed a little since Mr V joined us - we alternate the horrible responsibility of kicking him out of bed at nighttime and he is getting ever better at manipulating us. Here he is with M, cuddled up and seeing if I will ignore him... and when he realises I’m not going away he throws the cute chin rest look that he knows works on me.

While it now seems so obvious I hadn’t thought about how laughter encourages dogs and reinforces behaviours, until @boneballbark pointed it out to me. No wonder we love dogs so much , they learn to do exactly what makes us laugh and smile, the cunning beasts ♥️ #WHP❤️ #RealLivesOfDogOwners #MasterManipulator
  • It’s almost Valentine’s Day ❣
    Have you got your dog a present? 🥰

    Our life together as a couple has changed a little since Mr V joined us - we alternate the horrible responsibility of kicking him out of bed at nighttime and he is getting ever better at manipulating us. Here he is with M, cuddled up and seeing if I will ignore him... and when he realises I’m not going away he throws the cute chin rest look that he knows works on me.

    While it now seems so obvious I hadn’t thought about how laughter encourages dogs and reinforces behaviours, until @boneballbark pointed it out to me. No wonder we love dogs so much , they learn to do exactly what makes us laugh and smile, the cunning beasts ♥️ #WHP❤️ #RealLivesOfDogOwners #MasterManipulator

  •  8,376  75  9 February, 2019
  • the face of a man who hasn’t eaten in 10 days or 10 minutes? #mastermanipulator ✖️
  • the face of a man who hasn’t eaten in 10 days or 10 minutes? #mastermanipulator ✖️

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