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  • The beginning was bliss. We met in college. We were not supposed to be in the same class but ended up in a public speaking class together. He saw me and that was history. His mission was to break me out of my shell. He was drawn into my shyness and nativity. He went on to become a law student and I  supported him emotionally and physically with many late night blowjobs, listened to his frustrations, sex whenever he wanted it. I was his “go to girl” and “best girlfriend ever” as he says. He lived on the water with his family. We spent many nights outside holding hands, talking, hugging and bonding. He made me believe I was the one for him. He wanted to get married fast, but I wanted to wait. I thought I was being careful. 🚩He seemed to be on the right track. He wanted to be a lawyer and told me he aspired to make money so we could raise children and have a good life and be happy. He always talked about how happy I made him feel. I remember telling my friends and family that we never argued... we just loved eachother and agreed on everything. And it was true, because the first few years were like that. I saw him at least 3-4 times a week if not more, when we dated. He convinced me of how our life would be when we got married. He always made me feel special, like his princess. I think to myself now, after the aftermath of the horror show I have survived, wow I really thought he would be something good, a stand up kind of man. I had no idea I married a con man, a master manipulator, a psychopath, a pathological liar, a serial cheater, a man living a triple if not quadruple life. His character wouldn’t be able to recognize his mask. RIP the man I thought he was. I used to wonder why he tricked me. I know he tried to keep me from living a real life. I could have started a family with a genuine man. I was robbed of that.
#pathologicalliar #mastermanipulator #psychopathy #themask #survivorstories #sociopathy #traumabond #tricked #punked #sicklove #thedevil #psychopathfree #lovebombing #lovefraud #weboflies #traumainformed #intimatepartnerviolence #abuseawareness #abusesurvivor #narcissist #narcissism #conartist #betrayal #standbyme
  • The beginning was bliss. We met in college. We were not supposed to be in the same class but ended up in a public speaking class together. He saw me and that was history. His mission was to break me out of my shell. He was drawn into my shyness and nativity. He went on to become a law student and I supported him emotionally and physically with many late night blowjobs, listened to his frustrations, sex whenever he wanted it. I was his “go to girl” and “best girlfriend ever” as he says. He lived on the water with his family. We spent many nights outside holding hands, talking, hugging and bonding. He made me believe I was the one for him. He wanted to get married fast, but I wanted to wait. I thought I was being careful. 🚩He seemed to be on the right track. He wanted to be a lawyer and told me he aspired to make money so we could raise children and have a good life and be happy. He always talked about how happy I made him feel. I remember telling my friends and family that we never argued... we just loved eachother and agreed on everything. And it was true, because the first few years were like that. I saw him at least 3-4 times a week if not more, when we dated. He convinced me of how our life would be when we got married. He always made me feel special, like his princess. I think to myself now, after the aftermath of the horror show I have survived, wow I really thought he would be something good, a stand up kind of man. I had no idea I married a con man, a master manipulator, a psychopath, a pathological liar, a serial cheater, a man living a triple if not quadruple life. His character wouldn’t be able to recognize his mask. RIP the man I thought he was. I used to wonder why he tricked me. I know he tried to keep me from living a real life. I could have started a family with a genuine man. I was robbed of that.
    #pathologicalliar #mastermanipulator #psychopathy #themask #survivorstories #sociopathy #traumabond #tricked #punked #sicklove #thedevil #psychopathfree #lovebombing #lovefraud #weboflies #traumainformed #intimatepartnerviolence #abuseawareness #abusesurvivor #narcissist #narcissism #conartist #betrayal #standbyme

  •  40  2  23 February, 2020
  • What you think you are getting into and what you are getting into are two completely different things. The fairytale is actually a disguised nightmare.
  • What you think you are getting into and what you are getting into are two completely different things. The fairytale is actually a disguised nightmare.

  •  40  4  21 February, 2020
  • This is the ultimate betrayal. Not only are they cheating, they are blatantly lying about their sexuality. Should be able to sue them for this fraud.
  • This is the ultimate betrayal. Not only are they cheating, they are blatantly lying about their sexuality. Should be able to sue them for this fraud.

  •  34  6  21 February, 2020
  • I never wanted to believe this but it proved itself to be true. All the years I spent thinking about my ex... but never got to the root cause of why I was with my ex. It’s painful, all of it. 
I feel like I went through a time lapse where my life stopped at 22 years old to go through what almost seemed like jail time. And now I am a year in a half out from being with my ex and just touching the surface of my childhood traumas. I am now leaving off where I where I started before I met him, except with two kids and no support. It’s a very sucky situation that I can’t get out of. God’s test is big for me. 
I was never going to have a real father, one that cared the way I needed. My biggest issue was that I tried to change him into caring.. and I did the same with my ex.. I can’t change people whether they are good or bad. I can’t change anyone but myself. Sometimes people don’t want to have an open mind and see the other perspective. Sometimes people are ashamed and they don’t know how to be more. But there are just some things that won’t be forgotten. I’m not only here to tell my stories, I am here to educate through my experience. Whatever you learn from my experiences, is enough. I always learn from all of you and we all share similar stories of heartbreak, loss and trauma. It’s true that sharing is caring and I will never stop sharing. ❤️ #abuserecovery #educatedwomen #abusiverelationship #traumabonds #betrayal #fakelove #abusiveparents #ptsd #narcissism #lovefraud #survivorstories #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #writersofinstagram #childhoodtrauma #childhoodabuse
  • I never wanted to believe this but it proved itself to be true. All the years I spent thinking about my ex... but never got to the root cause of why I was with my ex. It’s painful, all of it.
    I feel like I went through a time lapse where my life stopped at 22 years old to go through what almost seemed like jail time. And now I am a year in a half out from being with my ex and just touching the surface of my childhood traumas. I am now leaving off where I where I started before I met him, except with two kids and no support. It’s a very sucky situation that I can’t get out of. God’s test is big for me.
    I was never going to have a real father, one that cared the way I needed. My biggest issue was that I tried to change him into caring.. and I did the same with my ex.. I can’t change people whether they are good or bad. I can’t change anyone but myself. Sometimes people don’t want to have an open mind and see the other perspective. Sometimes people are ashamed and they don’t know how to be more. But there are just some things that won’t be forgotten. I’m not only here to tell my stories, I am here to educate through my experience. Whatever you learn from my experiences, is enough. I always learn from all of you and we all share similar stories of heartbreak, loss and trauma. It’s true that sharing is caring and I will never stop sharing. ❤️ #abuserecovery #educatedwomen #abusiverelationship #traumabonds #betrayal #fakelove #abusiveparents #ptsd #narcissism #lovefraud #survivorstories #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #writersofinstagram #childhoodtrauma #childhoodabuse

  •  298  19  21 February, 2020
  • I had trouble comprehending this the ENTIRE time. It was as if I knew.. but didn’t know. 
I couldn’t believe it. I found my journals from 2011 and I was astonished to see what I had written almost 10 years ago. It was the same bullshit but I was living in such a deep sense of denial. I tried to figure out a puzzle with cut up pieces that would never fit. It is hard to read and the one thought that kept replaying in my mind while reading the entires, was “OMG what a waste of your time.”
It was the biggest waste of my life. I could have stared at a wall for 10 years straight and ended up in the same place. Once you feel they are f*cking with you, one tinge of gaslighting, manipulation or deception, RUN HONEY RUN!!
#narcissist #psychopaths #gaslighting #survivorstories #fakelove #lovefraud #traumabond #wasteoftime #wasted #mindfuck #mindcontrol #evil #sociopaths #weboflies #contradictions
  • I had trouble comprehending this the ENTIRE time. It was as if I knew.. but didn’t know.
    I couldn’t believe it. I found my journals from 2011 and I was astonished to see what I had written almost 10 years ago. It was the same bullshit but I was living in such a deep sense of denial. I tried to figure out a puzzle with cut up pieces that would never fit. It is hard to read and the one thought that kept replaying in my mind while reading the entires, was “OMG what a waste of your time.”
    It was the biggest waste of my life. I could have stared at a wall for 10 years straight and ended up in the same place. Once you feel they are f*cking with you, one tinge of gaslighting, manipulation or deception, RUN HONEY RUN!!
    #narcissist #psychopaths #gaslighting #survivorstories #fakelove #lovefraud #traumabond #wasteoftime #wasted #mindfuck #mindcontrol #evil #sociopaths #weboflies #contradictions

  •  88  5  20 February, 2020
  • It’s true, he is where I always felt protected. 
I suppose that is why I held onto him for so long. He was intertwined with good and evil. 
I couldn’t un-love his evil, so I just loved all of him. I feel lost and alone these days... I don’t miss him now but I was standing in my bathroom brushing my teeth and a thought hit me. I am so scared without him. Really scared.. he was my go to person.. my very own superman. I could call him in a jam and he’d swoop in. He would have been a much better friend than he was husband. Now there’s nobody. I am haunted by what my father did to me last year; something I am still too embarrassed to discuss. He protects strangers but not his own blood. My ex tried to teach me about people because he read into their minds, but I was too naive to believe some people were inherently bad or simply didn’t care at all. With my ex gone, I see he was right about certain people. My ex is not a good person but he saved me in some ways and buried me in others. It sounds as complicated as it truly is. But one thing he never did, with all his cheating, lying and living a double life, was that he never tried to get me in trouble. He never lied about me in a way that would harm me the way my father did. And yes, I compare the two of them because I am so hurt. My ex was evil but my father was heartless and indifferent; he just wanted me to shut up and go away. My ex wanted me at least for whatever reason. And I know even if it wasnt for the right reasons.. and I know what I’m saying doesn’t make sense but it does make sense in its own way. Even now it’s still hard to explain. 😥 Tearfully, I type what I can’t say out loud. But the worst thing that has been done to me, after connecting all the dots.. is the emotional and psychological abandonment from my own father.
#connecthedots #sorry #psychopathfree #narcissist #codependency #narcissisticabuse #ptsd #sociopathy #abandoned #weboflies #traumabond #traumarecovery #lovefraud #lovelies #mentalabuse #betrayed #survivorstories #manipulation #livedtotell #narcawareness #gaslighting #abusesurvivor #abuserecovery #cognitivedissonance
  • It’s true, he is where I always felt protected.
    I suppose that is why I held onto him for so long. He was intertwined with good and evil.
    I couldn’t un-love his evil, so I just loved all of him. I feel lost and alone these days... I don’t miss him now but I was standing in my bathroom brushing my teeth and a thought hit me. I am so scared without him. Really scared.. he was my go to person.. my very own superman. I could call him in a jam and he’d swoop in. He would have been a much better friend than he was husband. Now there’s nobody. I am haunted by what my father did to me last year; something I am still too embarrassed to discuss. He protects strangers but not his own blood. My ex tried to teach me about people because he read into their minds, but I was too naive to believe some people were inherently bad or simply didn’t care at all. With my ex gone, I see he was right about certain people. My ex is not a good person but he saved me in some ways and buried me in others. It sounds as complicated as it truly is. But one thing he never did, with all his cheating, lying and living a double life, was that he never tried to get me in trouble. He never lied about me in a way that would harm me the way my father did. And yes, I compare the two of them because I am so hurt. My ex was evil but my father was heartless and indifferent; he just wanted me to shut up and go away. My ex wanted me at least for whatever reason. And I know even if it wasnt for the right reasons.. and I know what I’m saying doesn’t make sense but it does make sense in its own way. Even now it’s still hard to explain. 😥 Tearfully, I type what I can’t say out loud. But the worst thing that has been done to me, after connecting all the dots.. is the emotional and psychological abandonment from my own father.
    #connecthedots #sorry #psychopathfree #narcissist #codependency #narcissisticabuse #ptsd #sociopathy #abandoned #weboflies #traumabond #traumarecovery #lovefraud #lovelies #mentalabuse #betrayed #survivorstories #manipulation #livedtotell #narcawareness #gaslighting #abusesurvivor #abuserecovery #cognitivedissonance

  •  50  9  19 February, 2020
  • Be passionate for what you believe in, especially when what you believe in is the truth. 
Most people look at survivors like they are “crazy” or “disturbed” as if they have some kind of problem because they were exploited and violated to the utmost capacity. But we’re not “crazy” or disturbed for talking about our mission. We would be “crazy” and more effed up if we didn’t talk about it or spread awareness or share our stories. And so what if it seems incessant, what would you know about it if you’ve never gone through it. People are legit posting fake smiles, photoshopped versions of their lives and that might be pretty but is it real? I just want to get down to the reality and what makes us stronger is showing we are human; not showing who can be the most done up and fake happiness for a photo. And some people’s lives are really happy and they should share those moments. But for those who have come down on survivors for “not getting over it” or saying “you’re still writing about him or the trauma?” You need a serious GFY (go F*ck YOself!) yeah that’s right. 
To those who won’t be over it today or tomorrow or maybe not even next year, keep talking! And when you are “over” it still talk about it. That’s what people do when they are passionate about their mission. Nutritionists talk about food all day. Do people tell them to stfu about food? No! 
It’s the same thing all day, eat clean! I got the memo. So don’t come down on people who are sharing a very important message that could help somebody (even if it’s one soul) that it’s enough or it’s obsessive or it’s too sensitive to discuss. It’s too big to NOT discuss. And it happens because society makes everything hush hush. But they can poison us with vaccines and pour toxic chemicals all over our food but when we stand up for what is RIGHT, it’s a bad label. Stand up. Always. 
#domesticviolenceawareness #domesticabuse #abuseawareness #narcissisticabuse #betrayal #conartist #education #ptsd #reallife #reality #narcissist #psychopathy #sociopathy #lies #justice #intimatepartnerviolence #lovebombing #lovefraud #standup #speakup #imreal #traumabond #traumatized #abusesurvivor #peoplehelpingpeople #survivorstories
  • Be passionate for what you believe in, especially when what you believe in is the truth.
    Most people look at survivors like they are “crazy” or “disturbed” as if they have some kind of problem because they were exploited and violated to the utmost capacity. But we’re not “crazy” or disturbed for talking about our mission. We would be “crazy” and more effed up if we didn’t talk about it or spread awareness or share our stories. And so what if it seems incessant, what would you know about it if you’ve never gone through it. People are legit posting fake smiles, photoshopped versions of their lives and that might be pretty but is it real? I just want to get down to the reality and what makes us stronger is showing we are human; not showing who can be the most done up and fake happiness for a photo. And some people’s lives are really happy and they should share those moments. But for those who have come down on survivors for “not getting over it” or saying “you’re still writing about him or the trauma?” You need a serious GFY (go F*ck YOself!) yeah that’s right.
    To those who won’t be over it today or tomorrow or maybe not even next year, keep talking! And when you are “over” it still talk about it. That’s what people do when they are passionate about their mission. Nutritionists talk about food all day. Do people tell them to stfu about food? No!
    It’s the same thing all day, eat clean! I got the memo. So don’t come down on people who are sharing a very important message that could help somebody (even if it’s one soul) that it’s enough or it’s obsessive or it’s too sensitive to discuss. It’s too big to NOT discuss. And it happens because society makes everything hush hush. But they can poison us with vaccines and pour toxic chemicals all over our food but when we stand up for what is RIGHT, it’s a bad label. Stand up. Always.
    #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticabuse #abuseawareness #narcissisticabuse #betrayal #conartist #education #ptsd #reallife #reality #narcissist #psychopathy #sociopathy #lies #justice #intimatepartnerviolence #lovebombing #lovefraud #standup #speakup #imreal #traumabond #traumatized #abusesurvivor #peoplehelpingpeople #survivorstories

  •  64  4  18 February, 2020
  • NARCISSISTIC ABUSE and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE...... Your Questions Answered!

Please join me!
Occurring at the Pendicup Community Centre, 365 Samsonvale Rd, Warner, 4500.

Come and meet Nova from Brighter Outlook - Narcissistic Abuse Counselling service for a narcissistic abuse recovery question and answer night, 7pm  Wednesday February 19th, 2020. Come and join other narcissistic abuse survivors and have your questions answered around your narcissistic abuse and subsequent road to recovery, and learn from the questions and responses of other victims and survivors. This was never your fault! But the healing is going to be your responsibility. Validation of your experience is paramount.  Cost of prepaid ticket is $25. Please inbox for payment details. Tickets are limited so purchase now to avoid disappointment
Nova. 🌻

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  • NARCISSISTIC ABUSE and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE...... Your Questions Answered!

    Please join me!
    Occurring at the Pendicup Community Centre, 365 Samsonvale Rd, Warner, 4500.

    Come and meet Nova from Brighter Outlook - Narcissistic Abuse Counselling service for a narcissistic abuse recovery question and answer night, 7pm Wednesday February 19th, 2020. Come and join other narcissistic abuse survivors and have your questions answered around your narcissistic abuse and subsequent road to recovery, and learn from the questions and responses of other victims and survivors. This was never your fault! But the healing is going to be your responsibility. Validation of your experience is paramount. Cost of prepaid ticket is $25. Please inbox for payment details. Tickets are limited so purchase now to avoid disappointment
    Nova. 🌻

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    #therapist #counselor #counseling #narcissisticabuseexpert #traumainformed #narcissist #narcopath #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #gaslighting #reverseprojection #victimblaming #users #notyourfault #abuser #predator #user #mastermanipulator #empath #empathproblems #theywillneverchange #youdeservebetter #loveyourself #loveshouldnthurt #fakelove #fakepeople #relationships101 #toxicrelationships #lovefraud #brighteroutlookcounsellingservice

  •  22  1  17 February, 2020
  • Are Malignant Narcissists Considered To Be Neurotypicals?

Oh Lord, no. 
No.  Definitely not!! There’s nothing neurotypical about a Malignant Narcissist.

A neurotypical is someone who doesn’t have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 
To be more precise, it’s someone who doesn’t display any atypical neurological patterns of thought or behavior.

A Malignant Narcissist is the absolute worst type of creature you can imagine. 
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DSM, doesn’t recognize it as a formal disorder.

But anybody who has met one will tell you to avoid them at all costs.

In my non-clinical opinion, they’re the most vile of all narcissists.
By far. 
The main distinction is that they suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as another disorder, such as Antisocial Personality Disorder. 
Other common traits they’re known for is being sadistic, aggressive, and paranoid.

Synonyms for a Malignant Narcissist are psychopath and sociopath. 
As you can see, there’s nothing normal or neurotypical about them.

Edited for IG. 
To Read Entire Post:
serenaprince375.blog
Originally Answered On Quora.
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  • Are Malignant Narcissists Considered To Be Neurotypicals?

    Oh Lord, no.
    No. Definitely not!! There’s nothing neurotypical about a Malignant Narcissist.

    A neurotypical is someone who doesn’t have Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
    To be more precise, it’s someone who doesn’t display any atypical neurological patterns of thought or behavior.

    A Malignant Narcissist is the absolute worst type of creature you can imagine.
    The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or DSM, doesn’t recognize it as a formal disorder.

    But anybody who has met one will tell you to avoid them at all costs.

    In my non-clinical opinion, they’re the most vile of all narcissists.
    By far.
    The main distinction is that they suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as another disorder, such as Antisocial Personality Disorder.
    Other common traits they’re known for is being sadistic, aggressive, and paranoid.

    Synonyms for a Malignant Narcissist are psychopath and sociopath.
    As you can see, there’s nothing normal or neurotypical about them.

    Edited for IG.
    To Read Entire Post:
    serenaprince375.blog
    Originally Answered On Quora.
    #serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #cartwheelsinbed #circusworthystunts #peskynarcissists #erma #narc #narcopath #sociopath #psychopath #malignantnarcissist #npd #nocontact #pinterest #flipboard #domesticviolence #narcissisticabuse #lovefraud #toxicrelationships #nealpatel #drewbrees #influencer #authorsofinstagram #advocate #thriver #survivor #contentcreator #writersofinstagram

  •  8  2  17 February, 2020
  • Why Do Narcissists Belittle People?

To understand why narcissists belittle others, one has to understand psychopathy.
Narcissists are obsessed with controlling their victims.
They can’t control people who have healthy boundaries and self-esteem.

So they destroy yours by belittling, teasing, and with triangulation, manufactured jealousy, and mean-sweet cycles.
They also do it to cause their partners to self-destruct once they start to see cracks in the narcissist’s mask.

When a victim points out inconsistencies, the abuser fears he’s losing control.
He wants to make her feel crazy.
So she’ll doubt her own intuition.
He does this by employing various brain-washing techniques that began during the love-bombing phase.

By first claiming to love certain aspects of your personality, he conditions you to depend on his approval.
Later, by devaluing what he once claimed to love, he causes doubts and loss of self-esteem.
Narcissists build you up with the intention of tearing you down.

If a victim appears to be happy, they see it as a threat to their control.

Because they don’t feel happiness like normal people, they despise our emotions.

What they do feel is a sadistic type of pleasure when they’re able to destroy our joy.
They wreak havoc on our lives because they’re easily bored.

Causing conflict and pain for us entertains them.
Narcissists are cowards.
They’re not capable of maintaining a healthy relationship with a strong, self-respecting person.

So they attempt to strip you of your self-esteem and boundaries.
Controlling you is the only way they know how to keep you.

What You Need To Know About Narcissists:  serenaprince375.blog
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  • Why Do Narcissists Belittle People?

    To understand why narcissists belittle others, one has to understand psychopathy.
    Narcissists are obsessed with controlling their victims.
    They can’t control people who have healthy boundaries and self-esteem.

    So they destroy yours by belittling, teasing, and with triangulation, manufactured jealousy, and mean-sweet cycles.
    They also do it to cause their partners to self-destruct once they start to see cracks in the narcissist’s mask.

    When a victim points out inconsistencies, the abuser fears he’s losing control.
    He wants to make her feel crazy.
    So she’ll doubt her own intuition.
    He does this by employing various brain-washing techniques that began during the love-bombing phase.

    By first claiming to love certain aspects of your personality, he conditions you to depend on his approval.
    Later, by devaluing what he once claimed to love, he causes doubts and loss of self-esteem.
    Narcissists build you up with the intention of tearing you down.

    If a victim appears to be happy, they see it as a threat to their control.

    Because they don’t feel happiness like normal people, they despise our emotions.

    What they do feel is a sadistic type of pleasure when they’re able to destroy our joy.
    They wreak havoc on our lives because they’re easily bored.

    Causing conflict and pain for us entertains them.
    Narcissists are cowards.
    They’re not capable of maintaining a healthy relationship with a strong, self-respecting person.

    So they attempt to strip you of your self-esteem and boundaries.
    Controlling you is the only way they know how to keep you.

    What You Need To Know About Narcissists: serenaprince375.blog
    #serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #circusworthystunts #peskynarcissists #narcissist #npd #narc #narcopath #sociopath #psychopath #lovefraud #cartwheelsinbed #npdsurvivor #toxicrelationships #devalue #discard #lovebombing #pinterest #flipboard #covertnarcissist #malignantnarcissist #erma #drewbrees #india #nocontact #domesticviolence #awareness #thriver

  •  5  0  15 February, 2020
  • Are Overt Narcissists Easier To Get Along With?
Ok Boys & Girls, 
That’s The Question For Today’s Lesson On Those Pesky Narcissists.

And My Answer:
My experiences proved covert narcissists to be easier. 
At face value, anyway.

Not that an overt narcissist is always harder to get along with.

Sometimes they’re downright jovial and funny. 
They can appear to be quite easy to get along with.
As long as they’re the center of attention.

If you listen to their stories-
Laugh at their jokes-
And remain a captive audience-
Overt narcissists can seem perfectly agreeable and easygoing.
It’s when you get tired of hearing their stories, or grow bored with their jokes that things change. 
When you attempt to remove yourself, they show their true colors.

Suddenly they’re not quite so pleasant.

In most situations, though, a covert narc will try harder to protect his mask. 
He may not openly disagree with people.
And is less likely to reveal hostile feelings. 
As a result, he may appear easier to get along with.

Eventually though, both overt and covert narcissists will prove to be anything but easy.

And That Concludes Today’s Lesson.
To Read All My Answers:  quora.com/profile/Serena-Prince-2.
What You Need To Know About Narcissists:  serenaprince375.blog

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  • Are Overt Narcissists Easier To Get Along With?
    Ok Boys & Girls,
    That’s The Question For Today’s Lesson On Those Pesky Narcissists.

    And My Answer:
    My experiences proved covert narcissists to be easier.
    At face value, anyway.

    Not that an overt narcissist is always harder to get along with.

    Sometimes they’re downright jovial and funny.
    They can appear to be quite easy to get along with.
    As long as they’re the center of attention.

    If you listen to their stories-
    Laugh at their jokes-
    And remain a captive audience-
    Overt narcissists can seem perfectly agreeable and easygoing.
    It’s when you get tired of hearing their stories, or grow bored with their jokes that things change.
    When you attempt to remove yourself, they show their true colors.

    Suddenly they’re not quite so pleasant.

    In most situations, though, a covert narc will try harder to protect his mask.
    He may not openly disagree with people.
    And is less likely to reveal hostile feelings.
    As a result, he may appear easier to get along with.

    Eventually though, both overt and covert narcissists will prove to be anything but easy.

    And That Concludes Today’s Lesson.
    To Read All My Answers: quora.com/profile/Serena-Prince-2.
    What You Need To Know About Narcissists: serenaprince375.blog

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  •  8  0  15 February, 2020
  • We were hardly ever on the same team. He went against me and at the same time tried to convince me he was on my side. We have kids and that is mostly what we argued about. He undermined my rules, which were strict rules and told our kids they could eat chocolate whenever they wanted, have flashlights in their beds at night, rewarded them for bad behavior by buying them every toy at target, rewarded them for not cooperating... it made no logical sense. My kids have a hard time cooperating with me and it’s a massive struggle every day to get them both to listen to the smallest things. I like functionality and running a household with rules and time off ipads ect. When we lived together, he undermined all of that and treated me like a child in front of our kids. He ripped the ipad out of my hand to show his control to our kids. He belittled me in front of them and I felt like his older teen daughter getting reprimanded as if I was in the wrong. I was not allowed to be the parent when he felt the need to gain control. But when he went off to work, the rules changed, then he told me I was a great mother, with good rules and kids should have consequences if they don’t listen. Yeah, he said that when he was going to be gone for fourteen hours while leaving me to try and undo all his non parenting. I picked them up from school, did homework with them, prepared meals, took them to activities, struggled getting them to cooperate to take a shower, to eat dinner, I had to hear their arguing and crying about why dad said it’s okay to eat chocolate before dinner. I dealt with a lot and still do. Please choose your partner very wisely!!!! Babysit with your boyfriend before you consider marrying. Babysit a lot! See how you both handle life with kids. #goodadvice #parenting #sociopathy #psychopathy #narcissism #traumarecovery #cooperation #narcissisticabuse #betrayal #psychopathfree #lovefraud #gaslighting #traumainformed #traumabond #abusesurvivor
  • We were hardly ever on the same team. He went against me and at the same time tried to convince me he was on my side. We have kids and that is mostly what we argued about. He undermined my rules, which were strict rules and told our kids they could eat chocolate whenever they wanted, have flashlights in their beds at night, rewarded them for bad behavior by buying them every toy at target, rewarded them for not cooperating... it made no logical sense. My kids have a hard time cooperating with me and it’s a massive struggle every day to get them both to listen to the smallest things. I like functionality and running a household with rules and time off ipads ect. When we lived together, he undermined all of that and treated me like a child in front of our kids. He ripped the ipad out of my hand to show his control to our kids. He belittled me in front of them and I felt like his older teen daughter getting reprimanded as if I was in the wrong. I was not allowed to be the parent when he felt the need to gain control. But when he went off to work, the rules changed, then he told me I was a great mother, with good rules and kids should have consequences if they don’t listen. Yeah, he said that when he was going to be gone for fourteen hours while leaving me to try and undo all his non parenting. I picked them up from school, did homework with them, prepared meals, took them to activities, struggled getting them to cooperate to take a shower, to eat dinner, I had to hear their arguing and crying about why dad said it’s okay to eat chocolate before dinner. I dealt with a lot and still do. Please choose your partner very wisely!!!! Babysit with your boyfriend before you consider marrying. Babysit a lot! See how you both handle life with kids. #goodadvice #parenting #sociopathy #psychopathy #narcissism #traumarecovery #cooperation #narcissisticabuse #betrayal #psychopathfree #lovefraud #gaslighting #traumainformed #traumabond #abusesurvivor

  •  169  6  15 February, 2020
  • Perfectly stated. 
I never really understood the concept of trust. 
And I never trusted my abuser. And I thought to myself, well then how could I have loved him if I didn’t trust him? 🤔
I was very confused in the relationship. 
I let things slide, I justified his lies by telling myself I can’t do anything about it, this was just who he was and I should be able to deal with it. I told myself, I should be appreciative he financially takes care of our family (he was but it was a job to get bills paid) I should be happy he was around, I should be happy he acted like he cared.. and that was how I calmed my inner most thoughts down most of the time. Trust wasn’t a part of our “partnership.” We essentially didn’t have one. I referred to myself as the maid and the babysitter when he told me to shut and mind my own business when I asked where he was going.. and of course he denied that I was a babysitter. I said, but you treat me like the hired help and not the woman you cherish and put first. He convinced me that if I loved him then I would stop making things hard, shut my mouth and not ask questions. 
My emotions were everywhere, I didn’t know what to do. So I stayed paralyzed in a situation that terrified me. If you don’t trust somebody, you essentially have nothing with them. Trust means you are at peace when they walk out the door. Distrust is when your heart sinks to your feet because your first thought is that they are going to some trashy woman’s house to cheat. No matter if you are right or not, the thought alone is enough to know you don’t have trust within the relationship. And for good reason you do not. 
#trust #unhealthyloyalty #traumabond #disloyal #betrayal #lovefraud #sicklove #lies #abuserecovery #trustme #congame #psychopathfree #sociopathy #badboy #emotionalabuse #traumainformed #trustyourgut #writersofig #narcissism #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #domesticabuse #whenloveisalie
#narcissisticabusesurvivor #deception #mastermanipulator
  • Perfectly stated.
    I never really understood the concept of trust.
    And I never trusted my abuser. And I thought to myself, well then how could I have loved him if I didn’t trust him? 🤔
    I was very confused in the relationship.
    I let things slide, I justified his lies by telling myself I can’t do anything about it, this was just who he was and I should be able to deal with it. I told myself, I should be appreciative he financially takes care of our family (he was but it was a job to get bills paid) I should be happy he was around, I should be happy he acted like he cared.. and that was how I calmed my inner most thoughts down most of the time. Trust wasn’t a part of our “partnership.” We essentially didn’t have one. I referred to myself as the maid and the babysitter when he told me to shut and mind my own business when I asked where he was going.. and of course he denied that I was a babysitter. I said, but you treat me like the hired help and not the woman you cherish and put first. He convinced me that if I loved him then I would stop making things hard, shut my mouth and not ask questions.
    My emotions were everywhere, I didn’t know what to do. So I stayed paralyzed in a situation that terrified me. If you don’t trust somebody, you essentially have nothing with them. Trust means you are at peace when they walk out the door. Distrust is when your heart sinks to your feet because your first thought is that they are going to some trashy woman’s house to cheat. No matter if you are right or not, the thought alone is enough to know you don’t have trust within the relationship. And for good reason you do not.
    #trust #unhealthyloyalty #traumabond #disloyal #betrayal #lovefraud #sicklove #lies #abuserecovery #trustme #congame #psychopathfree #sociopathy #badboy #emotionalabuse #traumainformed #trustyourgut #writersofig #narcissism #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #domesticabuse #whenloveisalie
    #narcissisticabusesurvivor #deception #mastermanipulator

  •  251  8  15 February, 2020
  • How could I confuse it?
There’s a very logical reason why I did. 
I was raised in a home that instilled all of those things, abnormal and illogical. After much education and soul work, I finally understand the childhood trauma that led me to my abuser. Truth be told, I had no effing chance.. I was going to meet a psychopath/sociopath because I was groomed to do so. I had no idea what love felt like and I mistook it as control. 
When he told me what to do or controlled what I couldn’t do, it felt like he was caring about me. He cared enough to pay attention to me..
My parents made me feel like they could care less what I did or how I was. Not to say I wasn’t taken care of; it was a specific feeling of being simply unloved. I grew up in a nice town, had stability, always had what I needed... it was just they didn’t show me love or affection. And I craved that so badly.. and I got used to the dysfunction of the only love I knew which was abuse. 
My abuser was oddly familiar to me. I didn’t know what it was about him, but it was like we clicked. And I thought it was love. Familiarity is not always love though. Familiarity in my case was a deeply rooted unhealed, unknown trauma bond. 
#itsnotlove #ptsd #traumabond #lovebomb #familiar #sociopathy #psychopathy #sicklove #traumarecovery #abuseawareness #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabusesurvivor #writerslife #toxicrelationships #betrayal #fear #lies #psychopathfree #childhoodabuse #lovefraud #loveisnotpain #gaslighting #manipulation #mindcontrol #soulsnatcher #congame
  • How could I confuse it?
    There’s a very logical reason why I did.
    I was raised in a home that instilled all of those things, abnormal and illogical. After much education and soul work, I finally understand the childhood trauma that led me to my abuser. Truth be told, I had no effing chance.. I was going to meet a psychopath/sociopath because I was groomed to do so. I had no idea what love felt like and I mistook it as control.
    When he told me what to do or controlled what I couldn’t do, it felt like he was caring about me. He cared enough to pay attention to me..
    My parents made me feel like they could care less what I did or how I was. Not to say I wasn’t taken care of; it was a specific feeling of being simply unloved. I grew up in a nice town, had stability, always had what I needed... it was just they didn’t show me love or affection. And I craved that so badly.. and I got used to the dysfunction of the only love I knew which was abuse.
    My abuser was oddly familiar to me. I didn’t know what it was about him, but it was like we clicked. And I thought it was love. Familiarity is not always love though. Familiarity in my case was a deeply rooted unhealed, unknown trauma bond.
    #itsnotlove #ptsd #traumabond #lovebomb #familiar #sociopathy #psychopathy #sicklove #traumarecovery #abuseawareness #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabusesurvivor #writerslife #toxicrelationships #betrayal #fear #lies #psychopathfree #childhoodabuse #lovefraud #loveisnotpain #gaslighting #manipulation #mindcontrol #soulsnatcher #congame

  •  50  1  15 February, 2020
  • Be careful today, Valentines. Sometimes love really is blind.
The shocking brand new docuseries and Sundance Film Festival favourite, #LoveFraud, premieres May 8 - and the only place you’ll see it is Stan.
  • Be careful today, Valentines. Sometimes love really is blind.
    The shocking brand new docuseries and Sundance Film Festival favourite, #LoveFraud, premieres May 8 - and the only place you’ll see it is Stan.

  •  74  3  14 February, 2020
  • It was as if he dug for information about my childhood, what kind of life I wanted and what my goals and dreams were, to purposely and deliberately taunt me and recreate a nightmare for me. At twenty one going on twenty two, I was absolutely nothing like I am today. I want to emphasize that... I may as well have been fourteen years old in my brain and emotional state of being. He was asking me everything in a loving way, my defender and protector, I trusted him. I had no idea he was going to emotionally do the things he did to me. I had no warning that he wasn’t who he said he was. We had a life planned together. He was all about it and he was the one in charge. He orchestrated it, made me think we were on one path when he was going to lead me to something completely different. I seem like the victim here, because I was. And I never asked to be the victim. I asked for the life we planned together years before. When love turned out to be a lie, I crumbled and I held on for dear life. He made me feel like his daughter rather than his wife. He reprimanded me, scolded me, took things away from me when I didn’t “listen” to him. I was made to feel guilty when I went to the grocery store for an hour because he said I “left him.” He tried to get back at me many times for that. He randomly made up rules and then randomly pretended he never had those rules. I abided by the rules as best as I could but somehow it was never good enough. I’m ashamed of myself for being trapped but I didn’t know who I married. He was supposed to be telling me the truth. But I never got that from him. Vulnerability is one thing but being as naive as I was, was something totally different. I was giving away my flesh to a masked murder. He mutilated every ounce of me. He snatched my soul, made the past present and horrifically presented me with paintings of our life, only to tell me he didn’t really mean that. 
#educateyourself #traumarecovery #abuserecovery #childhoodabuse #abusesurvivor #abusiverelationship #narcissisticabuse #traumabonding #lovefraud #fakelove #whenthepastispresent #evil #narcissism #psychopathy #sociopathy #disturbed #betrayal #sicklove #mentalabuse #gaslightingawareness
  • It was as if he dug for information about my childhood, what kind of life I wanted and what my goals and dreams were, to purposely and deliberately taunt me and recreate a nightmare for me. At twenty one going on twenty two, I was absolutely nothing like I am today. I want to emphasize that... I may as well have been fourteen years old in my brain and emotional state of being. He was asking me everything in a loving way, my defender and protector, I trusted him. I had no idea he was going to emotionally do the things he did to me. I had no warning that he wasn’t who he said he was. We had a life planned together. He was all about it and he was the one in charge. He orchestrated it, made me think we were on one path when he was going to lead me to something completely different. I seem like the victim here, because I was. And I never asked to be the victim. I asked for the life we planned together years before. When love turned out to be a lie, I crumbled and I held on for dear life. He made me feel like his daughter rather than his wife. He reprimanded me, scolded me, took things away from me when I didn’t “listen” to him. I was made to feel guilty when I went to the grocery store for an hour because he said I “left him.” He tried to get back at me many times for that. He randomly made up rules and then randomly pretended he never had those rules. I abided by the rules as best as I could but somehow it was never good enough. I’m ashamed of myself for being trapped but I didn’t know who I married. He was supposed to be telling me the truth. But I never got that from him. Vulnerability is one thing but being as naive as I was, was something totally different. I was giving away my flesh to a masked murder. He mutilated every ounce of me. He snatched my soul, made the past present and horrifically presented me with paintings of our life, only to tell me he didn’t really mean that.
    #educateyourself #traumarecovery #abuserecovery #childhoodabuse #abusesurvivor #abusiverelationship #narcissisticabuse #traumabonding #lovefraud #fakelove #whenthepastispresent #evil #narcissism #psychopathy #sociopathy #disturbed #betrayal #sicklove #mentalabuse #gaslightingawareness

  •  173  13  13 February, 2020
  • I fully know this now. But when I was a child I believed I was bad, guilty, and unwanted. I felt I had to prove how good I was because I was blamed for things I truly did not do. Maybe that’s why I always want to have proof of everything as an adult. I was scorned and made to feel unworthy and in turn I fell for a deeply disturbed mate. I hadn’t put two and two together at the point of meeting him. I was just so desperate for love and affection that I accepted what felt good and safe. Safety was a huge factor in falling in love with my abuser. He had a way of making me feel protected; something I never felt from my parents ever. 
The sense of safety with him was high in the first three years of dating. My self worth is extremely low and I was painfully shy at the time, so it’s no wonder I got caught in a trap. 
I say to myself today, if I only had the mindset I have today then I never would have given him the time of day. I wish I had the knowledge and insight back when I was twenty one, that I have now. Life takes us through the worst living nightmares and through that we learn but we cannot rewind. That’s the sad part; the most regretful part for me. 
#childhoodabuse #childhoodabusesurvivor #abusiverelationship #traumarecovery #writer #psychopathy #sociopathy #abuserecovery #traumabond #traumabonding #lovefraud #deception #manipulation #wenoflies #conartist #safety #illusions #psychopathfree #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #toxicpeople #sicklove #selfworth #blame #shame #narcissisticmother #whenloveisalie
  • I fully know this now. But when I was a child I believed I was bad, guilty, and unwanted. I felt I had to prove how good I was because I was blamed for things I truly did not do. Maybe that’s why I always want to have proof of everything as an adult. I was scorned and made to feel unworthy and in turn I fell for a deeply disturbed mate. I hadn’t put two and two together at the point of meeting him. I was just so desperate for love and affection that I accepted what felt good and safe. Safety was a huge factor in falling in love with my abuser. He had a way of making me feel protected; something I never felt from my parents ever.
    The sense of safety with him was high in the first three years of dating. My self worth is extremely low and I was painfully shy at the time, so it’s no wonder I got caught in a trap.
    I say to myself today, if I only had the mindset I have today then I never would have given him the time of day. I wish I had the knowledge and insight back when I was twenty one, that I have now. Life takes us through the worst living nightmares and through that we learn but we cannot rewind. That’s the sad part; the most regretful part for me.
    #childhoodabuse #childhoodabusesurvivor #abusiverelationship #traumarecovery #writer #psychopathy #sociopathy #abuserecovery #traumabond #traumabonding #lovefraud #deception #manipulation #wenoflies #conartist #safety #illusions #psychopathfree #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #toxicpeople #sicklove #selfworth #blame #shame #narcissisticmother #whenloveisalie

  •  495  14  13 February, 2020
  • I remind myself to never forget. I couldn’t forget if I tried... that’s really how it goes. 
My closure came and I thank God every day for that. His mask is gone. He can never put it back on. The clown, the poser, knight in shiny armor, the pretender, the fake lover, the love of my life... all of his personalities and fake disguises have been laid to rest. GAME OVER. 
I get a second chance, a real one this time. 
I feel like I have come out of something so severe that I was never meant to be in. I feel horrible every day, although most people wouldn’t notice that. I try hard to go along with the madness that has become my life. What am I going to do with this second time around?
My dream is to heal well enough to find a man that is meant for me, a nice one, a true one. 
If some things were never meant to be, then I don’t know why they ever were... The clown, the poser, the pretender... the mask. It was a crazy, tumultuous, abusive, terrifying, spiteful scene of events. And I learned lessons I truly hope nobody ever has to learn. 
#themask #psychopathy #closure #whenloveisalie #abusiverelationship #weboflies #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #survivorstories #clowns #sociopaths #lovefraud #littlelies #psychopathic #psychopathfree #deception #soulsnatcher #evil #laidtorest #neveragain #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #abuseawareness #domesticabuse #traumabond
  • I remind myself to never forget. I couldn’t forget if I tried... that’s really how it goes.
    My closure came and I thank God every day for that. His mask is gone. He can never put it back on. The clown, the poser, knight in shiny armor, the pretender, the fake lover, the love of my life... all of his personalities and fake disguises have been laid to rest. GAME OVER.
    I get a second chance, a real one this time.
    I feel like I have come out of something so severe that I was never meant to be in. I feel horrible every day, although most people wouldn’t notice that. I try hard to go along with the madness that has become my life. What am I going to do with this second time around?
    My dream is to heal well enough to find a man that is meant for me, a nice one, a true one.
    If some things were never meant to be, then I don’t know why they ever were... The clown, the poser, the pretender... the mask. It was a crazy, tumultuous, abusive, terrifying, spiteful scene of events. And I learned lessons I truly hope nobody ever has to learn.
    #themask #psychopathy #closure #whenloveisalie #abusiverelationship #weboflies #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #survivorstories #clowns #sociopaths #lovefraud #littlelies #psychopathic #psychopathfree #deception #soulsnatcher #evil #laidtorest #neveragain #emotionalabuse #mentalabuse #abuseawareness #domesticabuse #traumabond

  •  97  9  12 February, 2020
  • Finally!! I Launched My Book For Pre-Sales!! Yaaayyy!! 👋🤪😂😂👋
Since This Is Instagram, Some Of Y’all Will Get The Meaning Of The Whole Circusworthy Stunts Innuendo In The Title.

CARTWHEELS IN BED & CIRCUSWORTHY STUNTS WON’T MATTER

Ok, I’m Tired. 
This Has Been A Very Tiring Day!!😫😳😂 I Just Had To Tell Y’all Here Before I Turn In For The Night. 🤪😂🥰🥰 The Link To Pre-Order Is Below.
And In My Bio.

Plus I’ll Be Promoting The Hell Out Of The Book.

So Get Used To Seeing The Cover. 😂😂 🤪🤪 http://serenaprince375.blog/2020/02/11/a-little-farther-along/

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  • Finally!! I Launched My Book For Pre-Sales!! Yaaayyy!! 👋🤪😂😂👋
    Since This Is Instagram, Some Of Y’all Will Get The Meaning Of The Whole Circusworthy Stunts Innuendo In The Title.

    CARTWHEELS IN BED & CIRCUSWORTHY STUNTS WON’T MATTER

    Ok, I’m Tired.
    This Has Been A Very Tiring Day!!😫😳😂 I Just Had To Tell Y’all Here Before I Turn In For The Night. 🤪😂🥰🥰 The Link To Pre-Order Is Below.
    And In My Bio.

    Plus I’ll Be Promoting The Hell Out Of The Book.

    So Get Used To Seeing The Cover. 😂😂 🤪🤪 http://serenaprince375.blog/2020/02/11/a-little-farther-along/

    #serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #npd #circusworthystunts #peskynarcissists #pinterest #poshmark #flipboard #heyswankycity #erma #narcissisticabuse #npdsurvivor #domesticviolence #awareness #lovefraud #toxicrelationships #cartwheelsinbed #serenaprince #liveyourdream #ouachitaparish #drewbrees #nealpatel #twitter #india #printful #friends #narcissism #covertnarcissist

  •  24  14  12 February, 2020
  • Maybe I have repeated this before... but he was always leaving. A constant threat was that he was going to leave if I reacted, expressed emotion, “screamed” aka asked him questions, held him accountable for any of his words, promises, or anything he swore was not happening. Why was leaving such a threat to me? He knew it was. He knew it would instill fear in me. After two babies, endless promises he would stay true; there he went on and on that he was going to leave. And he did.. and came back. And again... and once more...
It was walk all over me, all of the time. Because he knew he’d get away with it. Side chicks (trash) and whatever else he did, popping pills and doing drugs while he distracted me by telling me how special I was and I “deserved” my Mercedes. He preached for hours about how much I deserved the nicest things and how good of a mother I was. It was great that he complimented me but what he was doing behind my back was inconceivable. I would have given up that car, the little things he bought me now and then, for him to be loyal and complete, a family man, a man of his word. I truly would have... I wanted a life I could count on, a husband I could count on. Who needs a Mercedes when your heart is breaking into pieces...
His priorities were not in the correct spot. 
Our home was ripped out from under us because he spent hundreds of thousands on his triple life. He never thought of his kids future not once. It was all about himself and his evil ways. 
#leave #begone #closure #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #psychopathicabuse #traumarecovery #traumabond #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #uprooted #regrets #betrayal #weboflies #lovefraud #promises #gaslighting #manipulation #conartist #puppetmaster #psycopathfree #abuseisnotlove #abuseofpower #mentalabuse #emotionaltorture #heartbreak #abusiverelationship #codependency #cognitivedissonance
  • Maybe I have repeated this before... but he was always leaving. A constant threat was that he was going to leave if I reacted, expressed emotion, “screamed” aka asked him questions, held him accountable for any of his words, promises, or anything he swore was not happening. Why was leaving such a threat to me? He knew it was. He knew it would instill fear in me. After two babies, endless promises he would stay true; there he went on and on that he was going to leave. And he did.. and came back. And again... and once more...
    It was walk all over me, all of the time. Because he knew he’d get away with it. Side chicks (trash) and whatever else he did, popping pills and doing drugs while he distracted me by telling me how special I was and I “deserved” my Mercedes. He preached for hours about how much I deserved the nicest things and how good of a mother I was. It was great that he complimented me but what he was doing behind my back was inconceivable. I would have given up that car, the little things he bought me now and then, for him to be loyal and complete, a family man, a man of his word. I truly would have... I wanted a life I could count on, a husband I could count on. Who needs a Mercedes when your heart is breaking into pieces...
    His priorities were not in the correct spot.
    Our home was ripped out from under us because he spent hundreds of thousands on his triple life. He never thought of his kids future not once. It was all about himself and his evil ways.
    #leave #begone #closure #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #psychopathicabuse #traumarecovery #traumabond #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #uprooted #regrets #betrayal #weboflies #lovefraud #promises #gaslighting #manipulation #conartist #puppetmaster #psycopathfree #abuseisnotlove #abuseofpower #mentalabuse #emotionaltorture #heartbreak #abusiverelationship #codependency #cognitivedissonance

  •  54  10  12 February, 2020
  • I used to stand there, in my home, in a room, arguing with him about the ways in which he treated me. What in the hell was going on? 
I stupidly thought I was going to find the answers from him; the ego maniac that intensified the abuse as time went by. 
My tears of confusion was his passage way into making me feel that I was wrong. “Why do you do this? Why can’t you just be the loving girl?”
Loving girl?? Beat my mind to a pulp with various forms of gaslighting, manipulation and projection and I am supposed to be loving? 
What else would you like from me? What other tricks do you want me to perform, I thought. 
It’s hard to be loving when somebody is violating you. I wanted to say, why can’t you stop hurting me so I don’t have to cry. 
For years he was non abusive and then he turned on me and the next ten years were complete and utter torture of the mind, body and soul. But once again he convinced me that it was my fault for asking questions, for holding him accountable for the words he spoke, promises he made and my biggest crime was for expressing feelings he couldn’t handle. 
I hurt him because I had a grievance about his abuse. And that was it for him.. once he realized I was starting to question his intentions, that I wanted the truth, that I wasn’t going to play his game, he upped the con game on my heart. The denial inside of me was too big to take on. It lived within me and we argued for years on and off. He changed he said, he was sorry. But he kept doing the same things in different ways. I suffered because I couldn’t let go. 
#letgo #closure #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #toxicrelationships #abusiverelationship #lies #survivorseries #abuseawareness #psychology #sadistic #intimatepartnerviolence #lovefraud #domesticviolenceawareness #traumarecovery #conartist #psychologicalabuse #emotionalabuse #puppetmaster #criminal #betrayal #traumabond #stockholmsyndrome #whenloveisalie
  • I used to stand there, in my home, in a room, arguing with him about the ways in which he treated me. What in the hell was going on?
    I stupidly thought I was going to find the answers from him; the ego maniac that intensified the abuse as time went by.
    My tears of confusion was his passage way into making me feel that I was wrong. “Why do you do this? Why can’t you just be the loving girl?”
    Loving girl?? Beat my mind to a pulp with various forms of gaslighting, manipulation and projection and I am supposed to be loving?
    What else would you like from me? What other tricks do you want me to perform, I thought.
    It’s hard to be loving when somebody is violating you. I wanted to say, why can’t you stop hurting me so I don’t have to cry.
    For years he was non abusive and then he turned on me and the next ten years were complete and utter torture of the mind, body and soul. But once again he convinced me that it was my fault for asking questions, for holding him accountable for the words he spoke, promises he made and my biggest crime was for expressing feelings he couldn’t handle.
    I hurt him because I had a grievance about his abuse. And that was it for him.. once he realized I was starting to question his intentions, that I wanted the truth, that I wasn’t going to play his game, he upped the con game on my heart. The denial inside of me was too big to take on. It lived within me and we argued for years on and off. He changed he said, he was sorry. But he kept doing the same things in different ways. I suffered because I couldn’t let go.
    #letgo #closure #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #toxicrelationships #abusiverelationship #lies #survivorseries #abuseawareness #psychology #sadistic #intimatepartnerviolence #lovefraud #domesticviolenceawareness #traumarecovery #conartist #psychologicalabuse #emotionalabuse #puppetmaster #criminal #betrayal #traumabond #stockholmsyndrome #whenloveisalie

  •  423  31  11 February, 2020
  • Did You Cheat On Your Narcissist?

Yes, I did.
Before I go further, let me say that I’m not proud of it.
Not because of anything to do with him.
But because I believe it’s wrong.
Despite having had an awful marriage.
And being divorced, I still believe in the institution of marriage.
I don’t think it’s right to be unfaithful.
With that said, I’ll tell you why I cheated on him.
I’m not justifying my actions.
But telling you my mindset at the time.
For the first 15 years of my marriage to a Malignant Narc, I was faithful.
The last 3 years were the worst of my life.
The man I fell in love with no longer existed.
He was replaced by an abusive monster.
Whose goal in life was to make me miserable.
The abuse escalated and I stayed on High Alert.
One morning, he went into a violent rage.
After dragging me around by my hair, he picked me up and threw me onto our back deck.
The way I landed ruptured 3 disks in my neck.
Because of the location of the injuries,  a neurosurgeon had to do the surgery.
I was placed on a waiting list.
It was 9 months  before the operation took place.
During that time, I was unable to function.
All three disks were pressing on nerves.
And I was constantly in pain.
By the time I had the surgery, I had built up a lot of anger.
The narc never acknowledged fault for what he did.
He continued to be abusive.
I grew to despise him.
A couple of months after the surgery, I got a message from a guy I went to high school with.
He was living in Atlanta.
It was where my nephew’s wedding was going to be the following month.
Ric and I started talking every day.
We made plans to see each other when I came to town.
Long story short, we spent 2 nights together.
I would’ve never done it before that incident.
And it wasn’t a long affair. 
It was revenge.
I did it for spite.
That’s why I cheated on my Narc husband.
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  • Did You Cheat On Your Narcissist?

    Yes, I did.
    Before I go further, let me say that I’m not proud of it.
    Not because of anything to do with him.
    But because I believe it’s wrong.
    Despite having had an awful marriage.
    And being divorced, I still believe in the institution of marriage.
    I don’t think it’s right to be unfaithful.
    With that said, I’ll tell you why I cheated on him.
    I’m not justifying my actions.
    But telling you my mindset at the time.
    For the first 15 years of my marriage to a Malignant Narc, I was faithful.
    The last 3 years were the worst of my life.
    The man I fell in love with no longer existed.
    He was replaced by an abusive monster.
    Whose goal in life was to make me miserable.
    The abuse escalated and I stayed on High Alert.
    One morning, he went into a violent rage.
    After dragging me around by my hair, he picked me up and threw me onto our back deck.
    The way I landed ruptured 3 disks in my neck.
    Because of the location of the injuries, a neurosurgeon had to do the surgery.
    I was placed on a waiting list.
    It was 9 months before the operation took place.
    During that time, I was unable to function.
    All three disks were pressing on nerves.
    And I was constantly in pain.
    By the time I had the surgery, I had built up a lot of anger.
    The narc never acknowledged fault for what he did.
    He continued to be abusive.
    I grew to despise him.
    A couple of months after the surgery, I got a message from a guy I went to high school with.
    He was living in Atlanta.
    It was where my nephew’s wedding was going to be the following month.
    Ric and I started talking every day.
    We made plans to see each other when I came to town.
    Long story short, we spent 2 nights together.
    I would’ve never done it before that incident.
    And it wasn’t a long affair.
    It was revenge.
    I did it for spite.
    That’s why I cheated on my Narc husband.
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  •  31  4  11 February, 2020
  • This is true on so many levels. 
People only saw my reactions as he walked around with a smirk and calm attitude. It was only behind closed doors that the monster, maniacal, raging, sadistic sounding psychopath in him came out. He was always a sarcastic kind of guy to the outside world and nobody thought he was a good person but he had a charm about him. Some people actually thought he was nice and helpful. He did extend help sometimes to certain people and that always made me feel good. But there was a cunning motive behind his disingenuous help. He was constantly wanting to con people. 
I foolishly only realized that as of late. I naively thought he wanted to help people. He found pleasure out of pretending to help and then ruining the people’s lives and businesses. 
He would pretend to help by starting a fire and then coming to the rescue to put it out; to make it seem like he was the hero in the situation he created in the first place. When others saw me upset at him, he manipulated them by telling them I had my period and I was “always just mad and nothing could make me happy.”
Gaslighting and abuse of my mind certainly would never make me happy and that’s all that he was capable of dishing out. I was so confused throughout the relationship, holding on for dear life, to anything seemingly good he did. I held tight to any compliments he ever gave and then I justified his abuse because he told me how beautiful I was and how he was the only one that would love me. Pathetic I know. 
I appeared unappreciative when in reality, I was groveling for answers as to why I was being emotionally and physically pushed around. 
Behind the mask is something very scary and people do not always see the full picture. 
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  • This is true on so many levels.
    People only saw my reactions as he walked around with a smirk and calm attitude. It was only behind closed doors that the monster, maniacal, raging, sadistic sounding psychopath in him came out. He was always a sarcastic kind of guy to the outside world and nobody thought he was a good person but he had a charm about him. Some people actually thought he was nice and helpful. He did extend help sometimes to certain people and that always made me feel good. But there was a cunning motive behind his disingenuous help. He was constantly wanting to con people.
    I foolishly only realized that as of late. I naively thought he wanted to help people. He found pleasure out of pretending to help and then ruining the people’s lives and businesses.
    He would pretend to help by starting a fire and then coming to the rescue to put it out; to make it seem like he was the hero in the situation he created in the first place. When others saw me upset at him, he manipulated them by telling them I had my period and I was “always just mad and nothing could make me happy.”
    Gaslighting and abuse of my mind certainly would never make me happy and that’s all that he was capable of dishing out. I was so confused throughout the relationship, holding on for dear life, to anything seemingly good he did. I held tight to any compliments he ever gave and then I justified his abuse because he told me how beautiful I was and how he was the only one that would love me. Pathetic I know.
    I appeared unappreciative when in reality, I was groveling for answers as to why I was being emotionally and physically pushed around.
    Behind the mask is something very scary and people do not always see the full picture.
    #psychopath #traumabonding #traumabond #sicklove #lovefraud #mentalabuse #liar #gaslighting #manipulation #sociopathy #weboflies #conartist #mastermanipulator #abusiverelationship #abuseawareness #psychologicalabuse #tricked #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #survivorstories #toxiclove #hiddenabuse #intimatepartnerviolence #domesticabuse

  •  335  9  11 February, 2020
  • We are no longer... for quite sometime now. 
And we will never be again....
With one accident, the entire relationship as it was broke into a million little memories that flashed before me. The accident he had exposed everything he tried hard to conceal. But with that one fateful day, everything unraveled. We would never be the same and couldn’t ever be again, even if we tried. He wasn’t the same person to me anymore. 
For so many years I fought for us and made a fool of myself. I wanted to be something with him that didn’t fit. We were two puzzle pieces that belonged to two completely different puzzles. We were mismatched. We were dark and light. We were broken before we started but we didn’t know it. He was destined to be with trash and I was just getting to know the new me, the person that God was aching to test. 
The test is breaking me but I keep fighting. 
I’ve never felt so beaten down and mentally and physically exhausted. All I want is a long vacation free from worries about survival. 
It’s like we never happened at all, yet I have two kids to raise and take care of their endless needs. His accident dropped a bomb on my world; leaving me with a pile of bricks that buried me and now I am expected to walk out as if nothing ever happened. He put me in a position that’s like a prison; just enough money to sustain life but not enough to live life. 
#rraumabond #traumabonding #psychopaths #sociopaths #traumarecovery #writerslife #betrayal #toxiclove #abusiverelationship #manipulation #financialabuse #strangers #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #survivorstories #deceit #narcissisticabuseawareness #psychopathy #weboflies #narcissisticabusesurvivor #sicklove #evil #lovefraud #soulsnatcher #conartist #themask #pathologicalliar
  • We are no longer... for quite sometime now.
    And we will never be again....
    With one accident, the entire relationship as it was broke into a million little memories that flashed before me. The accident he had exposed everything he tried hard to conceal. But with that one fateful day, everything unraveled. We would never be the same and couldn’t ever be again, even if we tried. He wasn’t the same person to me anymore.
    For so many years I fought for us and made a fool of myself. I wanted to be something with him that didn’t fit. We were two puzzle pieces that belonged to two completely different puzzles. We were mismatched. We were dark and light. We were broken before we started but we didn’t know it. He was destined to be with trash and I was just getting to know the new me, the person that God was aching to test.
    The test is breaking me but I keep fighting.
    I’ve never felt so beaten down and mentally and physically exhausted. All I want is a long vacation free from worries about survival.
    It’s like we never happened at all, yet I have two kids to raise and take care of their endless needs. His accident dropped a bomb on my world; leaving me with a pile of bricks that buried me and now I am expected to walk out as if nothing ever happened. He put me in a position that’s like a prison; just enough money to sustain life but not enough to live life.
    #rraumabond #traumabonding #psychopaths #sociopaths #traumarecovery #writerslife #betrayal #toxiclove #abusiverelationship #manipulation #financialabuse #strangers #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #survivorstories #deceit #narcissisticabuseawareness #psychopathy #weboflies #narcissisticabusesurvivor #sicklove #evil #lovefraud #soulsnatcher #conartist #themask #pathologicalliar

  •  70  5  11 February, 2020
  • He blamed me for being who I was. 
And I blamed him for who he was. 
I am somebody that he wanted because of my good nature. But then he turned on that. Then he didn’t like the truth, he wanted me to be like him and I couldn’t ever be like him. So he resorted to the trash he cheated with behind my back. I wasn’t his style. He did a good job of pretending though. 
As for me, I wasn’t aware of narcissists, psychopaths or sociopaths. The only reason I started researching on google ‘husband is blaming me for what he did’ is because the madness was getting worse. It felt so wrong to be abused by the person preaching I love you. 
I expected to be treated the way I treated him. It wasn’t going to happen... then I started reacting to the abuse in ways he didn’t expect. 
I tried to defend myself. But he was much stronger than me. It was like a cat vs gorilla scene. I ended up just getting injured. He laughed about it every time we fought. And with a big joker smirk on his face he used to say, “you know I could put my hands around your neck and snap it and you’d be dead.”
I replied, I know. I hated him for saying that to me. He caused a lot of anger to build up. I just wanted him to change but he was a predator. And I couldn’t accept it. 
I accept it now, after it has been said and done. 
And I am alive and here today to tell you not to accept that kind of “love.” Believe me, I went through it. 
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  • He blamed me for being who I was.
    And I blamed him for who he was.
    I am somebody that he wanted because of my good nature. But then he turned on that. Then he didn’t like the truth, he wanted me to be like him and I couldn’t ever be like him. So he resorted to the trash he cheated with behind my back. I wasn’t his style. He did a good job of pretending though.
    As for me, I wasn’t aware of narcissists, psychopaths or sociopaths. The only reason I started researching on google ‘husband is blaming me for what he did’ is because the madness was getting worse. It felt so wrong to be abused by the person preaching I love you.
    I expected to be treated the way I treated him. It wasn’t going to happen... then I started reacting to the abuse in ways he didn’t expect.
    I tried to defend myself. But he was much stronger than me. It was like a cat vs gorilla scene. I ended up just getting injured. He laughed about it every time we fought. And with a big joker smirk on his face he used to say, “you know I could put my hands around your neck and snap it and you’d be dead.”
    I replied, I know. I hated him for saying that to me. He caused a lot of anger to build up. I just wanted him to change but he was a predator. And I couldn’t accept it.
    I accept it now, after it has been said and done.
    And I am alive and here today to tell you not to accept that kind of “love.” Believe me, I went through it.
    #godsassignment #ilivedtotell #truestory #psychopathy #sociopathy #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #conartist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #survivorstories #abuseawareness #weboflies #trash #cheater #breakthesilence #lovefraud #traumabond #domesticabuse #sicklove #domesticviolence #intimatepartnerviolence #jekyllandhyde #themask

  •  42  2  9 February, 2020
  • I never experienced marriage with a sane human being. I don’t know what it will be like should it happen. I imagine it will be wonderful and it’s something I can’t wait to experience. 
I was married to somebody but it may as well have been nothing at all. It was a contract that held me in prison and forced me to beg, plead, and feel guilty for having the slightest human emotion. One time he actually said to me he was leaving me because I wore sunglasses and didn’t eat chicken. That sounds so stupid right... but he was serious. He used to create illogical reasons to manipulate me and scare me into thinking he was leaving me. He created a bond so strong between us on purpose to then methodically and deliberately pull it away. 
I won’t ever forget the days when my babies were actually little babies. He wouldn’t let me enjoy the moments of birth and thereafter. Threats began so that I would only focus my attention on him. Time doesn’t stand still for any of us. Once the moment is gone; it’s forever gone. All I have left are photos and videos of a time when I don’t even remember being there filming the moments I have on tape. He was serving me divorce papers, then took them back, then say he loved me again, he didn’t mean it, and then back and forth. 
My disability at the time was the severe #traumabond I had. I didn’t know it at the time but it was severely debilitating my perception of things. He wasn’t sorry, he wasn’t loving, he was a psychopath and I was just far gone. 
I believed the lies and ate them like chocolate pie. I am hard on myself because looking at it now I am horrified I spent one waking second on him in that capacity of love. The trauma bond was a disease in my mind and body that caused me to love my captor. It was anything but love, that’s for sure. He would talk down to me and I remember sitting there with my breast leaking milk begging him, what did I do wrong?
I cringe at the thought of that. I was caring for my babies and he would come around not to help but to harm. 💔
#loveisnotpain #marriage #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #psychopath #cruel #evil #liar #emotionalabuse #abuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #sicklove #lovefraud #traumarecovery
  • I never experienced marriage with a sane human being. I don’t know what it will be like should it happen. I imagine it will be wonderful and it’s something I can’t wait to experience.
    I was married to somebody but it may as well have been nothing at all. It was a contract that held me in prison and forced me to beg, plead, and feel guilty for having the slightest human emotion. One time he actually said to me he was leaving me because I wore sunglasses and didn’t eat chicken. That sounds so stupid right... but he was serious. He used to create illogical reasons to manipulate me and scare me into thinking he was leaving me. He created a bond so strong between us on purpose to then methodically and deliberately pull it away.
    I won’t ever forget the days when my babies were actually little babies. He wouldn’t let me enjoy the moments of birth and thereafter. Threats began so that I would only focus my attention on him. Time doesn’t stand still for any of us. Once the moment is gone; it’s forever gone. All I have left are photos and videos of a time when I don’t even remember being there filming the moments I have on tape. He was serving me divorce papers, then took them back, then say he loved me again, he didn’t mean it, and then back and forth.
    My disability at the time was the severe #traumabond I had. I didn’t know it at the time but it was severely debilitating my perception of things. He wasn’t sorry, he wasn’t loving, he was a psychopath and I was just far gone.
    I believed the lies and ate them like chocolate pie. I am hard on myself because looking at it now I am horrified I spent one waking second on him in that capacity of love. The trauma bond was a disease in my mind and body that caused me to love my captor. It was anything but love, that’s for sure. He would talk down to me and I remember sitting there with my breast leaking milk begging him, what did I do wrong?
    I cringe at the thought of that. I was caring for my babies and he would come around not to help but to harm. 💔
    #loveisnotpain #marriage #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #psychopath #cruel #evil #liar #emotionalabuse #abuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #sicklove #lovefraud #traumarecovery

  •  52  1  9 February, 2020
  • They will make plans to move to a new location together, then abandon you upon arrival. They'll champion a new business opportunity, then push you out after taking your money. They'll beg you to start a family together, then disappear when the child arrives. Whatever the case, there is no "us" for these people. They only care about meeting their own needs. Nothing else. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
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  • They will make plans to move to a new location together, then abandon you upon arrival. They'll champion a new business opportunity, then push you out after taking your money. They'll beg you to start a family together, then disappear when the child arrives. Whatever the case, there is no "us" for these people. They only care about meeting their own needs. Nothing else. •••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••••
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  •  2,159  111  7 February, 2020
  • Are Narcissists Obsessed With You?

No, but they make you think they are right from the beginning.
During the lovebombing stage, they seem to consume your entire life.

They want to be with you all the time.
And when they’re not with you, they keep in contact with you enough that they never leave your mind.
They appear to love and desire you so much that your empathetic nature responds in kind.
You begin to love and desire them.
You want to spend all your time with them.
Before you know it, you’ve become obsessed with them.
Which is what they wanted all along. 
Narcissists aren’t obsessed with you. They’re obsessed with control.
The easiest way to control someone is to make them vulnerable.

Being in love makes a person vulnerable.
And therefore, easier for the narcissist to control.

If you catch on to their lies and deceit and try to leave them, and they know they’re losing control of you, it’ll again appear that they’re obsessed with you.

The obsession is with regaining control of you.

The harder it is for them to do, the more efforts they have to put forth, and the time it takes to achieve their goal, will create another type of obsession for the narcissist.
Again, it’s not with you.
But getting revenge on you.
For daring to leave them.
And take away their control.
The obsession for exacting revenge by destroying you will consume them.
They’ll go to great lengths to achieve their goal.
And be relentless in seeking your demise.
It’ll definitely appear throughout your relationship with a narcissist that they’re obsessed with you.
But it’s never the person.
The obsession will always be with control. 
Who they control is just logistics.

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  • Are Narcissists Obsessed With You?

    No, but they make you think they are right from the beginning.
    During the lovebombing stage, they seem to consume your entire life.

    They want to be with you all the time.
    And when they’re not with you, they keep in contact with you enough that they never leave your mind.
    They appear to love and desire you so much that your empathetic nature responds in kind.
    You begin to love and desire them.
    You want to spend all your time with them.
    Before you know it, you’ve become obsessed with them.
    Which is what they wanted all along.
    Narcissists aren’t obsessed with you. They’re obsessed with control.
    The easiest way to control someone is to make them vulnerable.

    Being in love makes a person vulnerable.
    And therefore, easier for the narcissist to control.

    If you catch on to their lies and deceit and try to leave them, and they know they’re losing control of you, it’ll again appear that they’re obsessed with you.

    The obsession is with regaining control of you.

    The harder it is for them to do, the more efforts they have to put forth, and the time it takes to achieve their goal, will create another type of obsession for the narcissist.
    Again, it’s not with you.
    But getting revenge on you.
    For daring to leave them.
    And take away their control.
    The obsession for exacting revenge by destroying you will consume them.
    They’ll go to great lengths to achieve their goal.
    And be relentless in seeking your demise.
    It’ll definitely appear throughout your relationship with a narcissist that they’re obsessed with you.
    But it’s never the person.
    The obsession will always be with control.
    Who they control is just logistics.

    What You Need To Know About Narcissists: serenaprince375.blog
    #serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #flipboard #peskynarcissists #circusworthystunts #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narc #sociopath #psychopath #pinterest #lovefraud #toxicrelationships #nocontact #covertnarcissist #thriver #npd #npdsurvivor #drewbrees #nealpatel #advocate #influencer #writersofinstagram #raiseawareness #india #usa #poshmark #bossbabe

  •  17  3  7 February, 2020
  • I’ve been exploring the dark matters..
  • I’ve been exploring the dark matters..

  •  100  7  7 February, 2020
  • “How In The Hell Am I Supposed To Get Over This?” After Being Discarded, You’re Realizing You Were With A Narcissist.
You’re Hurting, Miserable, And Clueless About How To Heal. Now What?

First and foremost, have mercy on yourself. Understand that you’re not to blame for being conned by a narcissist.

People who haven’t been with a Narc often believe it wouldn't happen to them. 
They are dead wrong. 
It can happen to anybody.

Also, prepare yourself mentally for pain. 
Think about what you're going to go through on your path to recovery  like you would a  broken bone. 
You know you’re going to face a certain amount of pain.  There's no way to get around it. 
So accept it. 
Embrace it, even.
As a valuable life lesson.
And learn everything you can from it.
Educate yourself on narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, and narc abuse recovery. 
Knowledge is power.
Though it's not a pain reliever. 
In fact, there’ll be times when the knowledge you're gaining exacerbates your pain.
Accept the emotional agony so you can process it. 
Allow yourself to cry, scream, and rage when you get the urge. 
But do it in a safe place.
So you can get it all out. Purging the negativity is essential.
And you can't do it if you restrain yourself.
Everyone deals with things differently.
What works for some people won't necessarily work for others. 
But there's one thing that’s true for everyone. If you don't allow yourself to feel the pain, the humiliation, 
the loss, and the grief, you will not be able to heal.
Just like with a broken bone, your spirit and soul are wounded. 
You will heal .
But you’re going to face some pain first.
Accept that knowledge.
And give yourself the time and self-care that are necessary for a full recovery.
What You Need To Know About Narcissists:  serenaprince375.blog

#serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #circusworthystunts #peskynarcissists #npdawareness #narc #narcopath #sociopath #psychopath #lovefraud #toxicrelationships #discarded #nocontact #narcissisticabuse #flipboard #printful #pinterest #nealpatel #erma #drewbrees #covertnarcissist #malignantnarcissist #thriver #advocate #influencer #india #liveyourdream #poshmark
  • “How In The Hell Am I Supposed To Get Over This?” After Being Discarded, You’re Realizing You Were With A Narcissist.
    You’re Hurting, Miserable, And Clueless About How To Heal. Now What?

    First and foremost, have mercy on yourself. Understand that you’re not to blame for being conned by a narcissist.

    People who haven’t been with a Narc often believe it wouldn't happen to them.
    They are dead wrong.
    It can happen to anybody.

    Also, prepare yourself mentally for pain.
    Think about what you're going to go through on your path to recovery like you would a broken bone.
    You know you’re going to face a certain amount of pain. There's no way to get around it.
    So accept it.
    Embrace it, even.
    As a valuable life lesson.
    And learn everything you can from it.
    Educate yourself on narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, and narc abuse recovery.
    Knowledge is power.
    Though it's not a pain reliever.
    In fact, there’ll be times when the knowledge you're gaining exacerbates your pain.
    Accept the emotional agony so you can process it.
    Allow yourself to cry, scream, and rage when you get the urge.
    But do it in a safe place.
    So you can get it all out. Purging the negativity is essential.
    And you can't do it if you restrain yourself.
    Everyone deals with things differently.
    What works for some people won't necessarily work for others.
    But there's one thing that’s true for everyone. If you don't allow yourself to feel the pain, the humiliation,
    the loss, and the grief, you will not be able to heal.
    Just like with a broken bone, your spirit and soul are wounded.
    You will heal .
    But you’re going to face some pain first.
    Accept that knowledge.
    And give yourself the time and self-care that are necessary for a full recovery.
    What You Need To Know About Narcissists: serenaprince375.blog

    #serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #circusworthystunts #peskynarcissists #npdawareness #narc #narcopath #sociopath #psychopath #lovefraud #toxicrelationships #discarded #nocontact #narcissisticabuse #flipboard #printful #pinterest #nealpatel #erma #drewbrees #covertnarcissist #malignantnarcissist #thriver #advocate #influencer #india #liveyourdream #poshmark

  •  19  4  7 February, 2020
  • Well, I tried. And tried and tried some more. 
He was every bit a clown, every ounce a poser, liar and cheat. But you all know the story. Most of you have lived it also. And I type and share pieces of my experience but nothing will ever undo the hurt that yanks on my soul. Most of us fell for the pretender because we were desperate for any kind of love. For me, it felt like I won the lottery and who in their right mind could let that go? I fell in love with the joker, I took vows with him, then made babies with him. How much more damage could I have inflicted on myself.. and at the end, I swear I could just SCREAM and never stop screaming. 
I accepted love from that.. from the lowest form of shit on this planet. The way he treated me was shit. Yes, his fake love was beautiful, and I mistook it for real love. But he made my life a living hell. And I justified it because denial is something powerful. I didn’t want to be wrong. I didn’t want to let go. I didn’t want to lose him. Fear is even more powerful than denial. I still live in fear, a different kind of fear. 
It’s actually exhausting. I hope we all know better next time. Because the devil was never your soul mate. 
#thedevilisaliar #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #sociopaths #clowns #poser #jekyllandhyde #lies #deceit #dangerous #lovefraud #fakelove #weboflies #traumabond #stockholmsyndrome #sicklove #psychopaths #soulsnatcher #evil #demonic #whenloveisalie
  • Well, I tried. And tried and tried some more.
    He was every bit a clown, every ounce a poser, liar and cheat. But you all know the story. Most of you have lived it also. And I type and share pieces of my experience but nothing will ever undo the hurt that yanks on my soul. Most of us fell for the pretender because we were desperate for any kind of love. For me, it felt like I won the lottery and who in their right mind could let that go? I fell in love with the joker, I took vows with him, then made babies with him. How much more damage could I have inflicted on myself.. and at the end, I swear I could just SCREAM and never stop screaming.
    I accepted love from that.. from the lowest form of shit on this planet. The way he treated me was shit. Yes, his fake love was beautiful, and I mistook it for real love. But he made my life a living hell. And I justified it because denial is something powerful. I didn’t want to be wrong. I didn’t want to let go. I didn’t want to lose him. Fear is even more powerful than denial. I still live in fear, a different kind of fear.
    It’s actually exhausting. I hope we all know better next time. Because the devil was never your soul mate.
    #thedevilisaliar #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #sociopaths #clowns #poser #jekyllandhyde #lies #deceit #dangerous #lovefraud #fakelove #weboflies #traumabond #stockholmsyndrome #sicklove #psychopaths #soulsnatcher #evil #demonic #whenloveisalie

  •  264  15  7 February, 2020
  • Did You Know Narcissists Start Smear Campaigns During Lovebombing?

A Narcissist begins a smear campaign long before the target becomes aware of it.
For future damage control.
So he controls the amount he’s able to inflict.
In a relationship with a narcissist, there are three stages: Idealization, Devaluation, and Discard.
The smear campaign begins during Idealization.
The narc is setting a trap.
For the end of the relationship.
To cause more damage to the victim when she’s discarded.
And as a tool when he’s grooming his next target.

In the early days of a relationship with a narc, you’re happy.
You tell everyone how wonderful he is.
You brag about him to your family and friends.
How he treats you like a queen. 
When the devaluation begins, you try to bring back the early days.
If you try hard enough, you can restore the bliss.

So you don’t tell anybody he’s treating you like shit.

You don’t  know the relationship is going to end yet.
And you don’t want people thinking bad about him.
So you suffer in silence.

When it gets overwhelming, you react.

You send angry text messages demanding answers.
Then he uses them to prove that you’re unstable.
You are now the crazy ex to his latest target.
The one he’s grooming as your replacement.
He’s still living with you.
But she doesn’t know that.
When he discards you, no one blames him.
He’s already shown that you’re crazy.
Now you’re alone.
And heartbroken.
You need to talk to someone.
When you explain how badly he treated you, no one believes you.
To them, you sound bitter and vindictive.

After all, you’re the one who said he treated you like a queen.

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  • Did You Know Narcissists Start Smear Campaigns During Lovebombing?

    A Narcissist begins a smear campaign long before the target becomes aware of it.
    For future damage control.
    So he controls the amount he’s able to inflict.
    In a relationship with a narcissist, there are three stages: Idealization, Devaluation, and Discard.
    The smear campaign begins during Idealization.
    The narc is setting a trap.
    For the end of the relationship.
    To cause more damage to the victim when she’s discarded.
    And as a tool when he’s grooming his next target.

    In the early days of a relationship with a narc, you’re happy.
    You tell everyone how wonderful he is.
    You brag about him to your family and friends.
    How he treats you like a queen.
    When the devaluation begins, you try to bring back the early days.
    If you try hard enough, you can restore the bliss.

    So you don’t tell anybody he’s treating you like shit.

    You don’t know the relationship is going to end yet.
    And you don’t want people thinking bad about him.
    So you suffer in silence.

    When it gets overwhelming, you react.

    You send angry text messages demanding answers.
    Then he uses them to prove that you’re unstable.
    You are now the crazy ex to his latest target.
    The one he’s grooming as your replacement.
    He’s still living with you.
    But she doesn’t know that.
    When he discards you, no one blames him.
    He’s already shown that you’re crazy.
    Now you’re alone.
    And heartbroken.
    You need to talk to someone.
    When you explain how badly he treated you, no one believes you.
    To them, you sound bitter and vindictive.

    After all, you’re the one who said he treated you like a queen.

    #serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #instagram #flipboard #npd #narcissist #peskynarcissists #circusworthystunts #narcissisticabuse #smearcampaign #discard #lovebombing #nocontact #lovefraud #toxicrelationships #narcopath #psychopath #sociopath #covertnarcissist #malignantnarcissist #nealpatel #drewbrees #pinterest #awareness #domesticviolence #npdsurvivor #personalitydisorder #narcawareness

  •  46  43  5 February, 2020
  • Do the work! When we raise the collective consciousness they go or we go, either way it a win / win ♥️ what keeps humanity’s consciousness in a lower vibrational state? Believing lies!!!
  • Do the work! When we raise the collective consciousness they go or we go, either way it a win / win ♥️ what keeps humanity’s consciousness in a lower vibrational state? Believing lies!!!

  •  31  1  5 February, 2020
  •  28  3  3 February, 2020
  • Repost from 🧚🏻‍♀️ @whenloveisalie
•
In a sense it’s true. Others most of the time, don’t understand in depth what the survivor has endured. Long term abuse changes the brain, it causes the survivors to carry a lot of shame, it makes us feel like we are guilty when we’re not. We don’t trust easily, we fear it will happen again, we think the next partner will do the same thing. We are most likely left stripped of the essential and required tool in order to live 💵 
We likely have flashbacks and ptsd. We are trying hard but people see it like we haven’t made an effort at all. Some of us have chronic illnesses as well that make us vulnerable to fatigue and loss of energy, adding to the stress of not being able to afford the necessities of life. Some are left single moms or dads trying to work hard but fail to bring home enough money to survive. Regardless, none of us asked to be in a situation that left us single, penniless, alone, afraid, victimized, scared, stressed..
Personally, all I wanted was to keep my family whole. That would have been enough for me. 
My dream was living in the house we had, kids happy and thriving, kids getting to foster their talents, having good friends, feeling safe and stable, creating lifelong relationships and memories. I wanted a loving marriage too. I wanted to grow old with the man I loved, the man I saved myself for.. it had meaning to me. But sadly it didn’t have meaning to him. He was a great pretender. And for that, I am punished and the trickle down effect is so are the kids. 
#survivorofabuse #traumabonding #lovefraud #abuseawareness #sociopaths #themask #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #lies #betrayal #narcissistrecovery #abuserecovery #psychopath #stress #financialabuse
  • Repost from 🧚🏻‍♀️ @whenloveisalie

    In a sense it’s true. Others most of the time, don’t understand in depth what the survivor has endured. Long term abuse changes the brain, it causes the survivors to carry a lot of shame, it makes us feel like we are guilty when we’re not. We don’t trust easily, we fear it will happen again, we think the next partner will do the same thing. We are most likely left stripped of the essential and required tool in order to live 💵
    We likely have flashbacks and ptsd. We are trying hard but people see it like we haven’t made an effort at all. Some of us have chronic illnesses as well that make us vulnerable to fatigue and loss of energy, adding to the stress of not being able to afford the necessities of life. Some are left single moms or dads trying to work hard but fail to bring home enough money to survive. Regardless, none of us asked to be in a situation that left us single, penniless, alone, afraid, victimized, scared, stressed..
    Personally, all I wanted was to keep my family whole. That would have been enough for me.
    My dream was living in the house we had, kids happy and thriving, kids getting to foster their talents, having good friends, feeling safe and stable, creating lifelong relationships and memories. I wanted a loving marriage too. I wanted to grow old with the man I loved, the man I saved myself for.. it had meaning to me. But sadly it didn’t have meaning to him. He was a great pretender. And for that, I am punished and the trickle down effect is so are the kids.
    #survivorofabuse #traumabonding #lovefraud #abuseawareness #sociopaths #themask #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #lies #betrayal #narcissistrecovery #abuserecovery #psychopath #stress #financialabuse

  •  64  3  3 February, 2020
  • I absolutely fell in love with his words. It was undeniable, all the heartfelt words that I never thought would lead to nothing. Words are some special kind of crack. I was high on those words. Addictions can be formed by anything we crave that we didn’t get as a child. I craved words as a child; nice ones, complimentary ones. What I received was blame and abuse. 
My mother used to call me “it” in front of my siblings, whenever I would clean the kitchen. She was the first bully in my life. She put me down every day for one reason or another. I remember her sitting on the couch laughing and egging my siblings on while she said “look at it.. what is it doing!” I hated a mess as a child and I used clean a lot. She seemed to hate that. She called me a bunch of other names and used to shout at me but it sounded like she was yelling at herself. But it was intended for me; it wasn’t something I could mistake. She never expressed herself and kept her emotions inside so instead she brutally abused me rather than find a place to vent her past hurts. I find writing to be my safe place where I can be expressive. I feel so lucky to be able to write rather than self destruct. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, shopping, pills, ect. 
The addiction I had to my abuser is no longer alive in my heart and mind. I feel good about it not being something I miss or turn to. I am free from missing and loving him. I am proud of myself very much so. I recognize abuse and I hope to continue to teach and share through my experience. 
#abusiverelationship #traumarecovery #lies #lovefraud #intimatepartnerviolence #weboflies #abusesurvivor #morethanwords #trustgod #godsassignment #sociopaths #psychopaths #narcissist #gaslighting #childhoodabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabusesurvivor #writersofinstagram #traumabond #traumabonding #bullying #addictions #wordshurt
  • I absolutely fell in love with his words. It was undeniable, all the heartfelt words that I never thought would lead to nothing. Words are some special kind of crack. I was high on those words. Addictions can be formed by anything we crave that we didn’t get as a child. I craved words as a child; nice ones, complimentary ones. What I received was blame and abuse.
    My mother used to call me “it” in front of my siblings, whenever I would clean the kitchen. She was the first bully in my life. She put me down every day for one reason or another. I remember her sitting on the couch laughing and egging my siblings on while she said “look at it.. what is it doing!” I hated a mess as a child and I used clean a lot. She seemed to hate that. She called me a bunch of other names and used to shout at me but it sounded like she was yelling at herself. But it was intended for me; it wasn’t something I could mistake. She never expressed herself and kept her emotions inside so instead she brutally abused me rather than find a place to vent her past hurts. I find writing to be my safe place where I can be expressive. I feel so lucky to be able to write rather than self destruct. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, shopping, pills, ect.
    The addiction I had to my abuser is no longer alive in my heart and mind. I feel good about it not being something I miss or turn to. I am free from missing and loving him. I am proud of myself very much so. I recognize abuse and I hope to continue to teach and share through my experience.
    #abusiverelationship #traumarecovery #lies #lovefraud #intimatepartnerviolence #weboflies #abusesurvivor #morethanwords #trustgod #godsassignment #sociopaths #psychopaths #narcissist #gaslighting #childhoodabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabusesurvivor #writersofinstagram #traumabond #traumabonding #bullying #addictions #wordshurt

  •  818  36  3 February, 2020
  • When You Confront A Narcissist On Their Infidelity (I Saw The Sexually Charged Texts), Does This Cause A Narcissistic Injury? 
Is This Why We’ve Barely Spoken In 2 Months?
OK BOYS & GIRLS,
THAT’S THE QUESTION FOR TODAY’S LESSON ON THOSE PESKY NARCISSISTS.
My Answer:
Not necessarily.
The cold harsh truth is that narcissists enjoy the jealous emotions they provoke in you.
It makes them feel powerful.

It’s called triangulation.
And make no mistake, it’s intentional.
After the lovebombing stage, narcissists no longer try to hide their infidelities.
In reality, they were cheating the whole time.

They just aren’t ready for you to know until the devaluation stage has begun.
That’s when they really focus on creating insecurities and jealousy in their partner.

By leaving messages on their phone for you to find. 
By telling outrageous lies.

And by dropping hints thinly veiled as dark humor.
Or they belittle you just to get an emotional response.

When you react, they claim to have only been joking.
Then they accuse you of being jealous, insecure, or overly sensitive.

It’s all a game to them.
Their strategy is to erode your self-esteem.

As for why you’ve barely spoken in two months, the likeliest reason is because he’s busy lovebombing another target.
He’s “ghosting” you while he draws in his latest conquest.
The intermittent contact is designed to keep you hanging on until he’s ready to come back.

If you’re just becoming aware of narcissists,  I should warn you.
It’s shocking what they do to the people who love them.

It’s painful to discover that the person you thought was your soulmate doesn’t really exist.
Narcissists lure you in and build you up.
Because the higher you rise, the harder you’ll fall.
AND THAT CONCLUDES TODAY’S LESSON.
What You Need To Know About Narcissists:  serenaprince375.blog
#serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #instagram #facebook #twitter #pinterest #flipboard #circusworthystunts #peskynarcissists #npdsurvivor #narcissist #narcopath #sociopath #psychopath #nocontact #lovefraud #narcissisticabuse #lovebombing #discard #narcissism #thriver #nealpatel #awareness #advocate #drewbrees #narc #npd #toxicrelationships
  • When You Confront A Narcissist On Their Infidelity (I Saw The Sexually Charged Texts), Does This Cause A Narcissistic Injury?
    Is This Why We’ve Barely Spoken In 2 Months?
    OK BOYS & GIRLS,
    THAT’S THE QUESTION FOR TODAY’S LESSON ON THOSE PESKY NARCISSISTS.
    My Answer:
    Not necessarily.
    The cold harsh truth is that narcissists enjoy the jealous emotions they provoke in you.
    It makes them feel powerful.

    It’s called triangulation.
    And make no mistake, it’s intentional.
    After the lovebombing stage, narcissists no longer try to hide their infidelities.
    In reality, they were cheating the whole time.

    They just aren’t ready for you to know until the devaluation stage has begun.
    That’s when they really focus on creating insecurities and jealousy in their partner.

    By leaving messages on their phone for you to find.
    By telling outrageous lies.

    And by dropping hints thinly veiled as dark humor.
    Or they belittle you just to get an emotional response.

    When you react, they claim to have only been joking.
    Then they accuse you of being jealous, insecure, or overly sensitive.

    It’s all a game to them.
    Their strategy is to erode your self-esteem.

    As for why you’ve barely spoken in two months, the likeliest reason is because he’s busy lovebombing another target.
    He’s “ghosting” you while he draws in his latest conquest.
    The intermittent contact is designed to keep you hanging on until he’s ready to come back.

    If you’re just becoming aware of narcissists, I should warn you.
    It’s shocking what they do to the people who love them.

    It’s painful to discover that the person you thought was your soulmate doesn’t really exist.
    Narcissists lure you in and build you up.
    Because the higher you rise, the harder you’ll fall.
    AND THAT CONCLUDES TODAY’S LESSON.
    What You Need To Know About Narcissists: serenaprince375.blog
    #serenaprince375 #saudiprince #bestpartner4ever❤️ #quora #instagram #facebook #twitter #pinterest #flipboard #circusworthystunts #peskynarcissists #npdsurvivor #narcissist #narcopath #sociopath #psychopath #nocontact #lovefraud #narcissisticabuse #lovebombing #discard #narcissism #thriver #nealpatel #awareness #advocate #drewbrees #narc #npd #toxicrelationships

  •  4  0  2 February, 2020
  • Hi everyone, I am sure you can most likely relate to this. I certainly can! It has been a total nightmare with the psychopaths family. Intense abuse that I never imagined would come from a simple “I do.” What was once love and happiness has turned cold and dark. I have seen the truth, the true dark colors of every single one of them. I have been treated as if I was a criminal for the simple fact I was left by the con artist that pretended to be a lawyer. He promised if I “stuck with him” and stuck out the hard times, we would make it together. And I did. I put up with endless abuse for over a decade and the only thing that came out of “sticking it out” was more abuse, secrets and lies. He forced me to be a SAHM, with threats that if I left the house in my car to get a job, he would take my keys away. And one time he did do that. I was outside the front yard crying holding my purse because I was trapped. Aside from that, I had an intense trauma bond with him. I did whatever he wanted, even if we argued about it. I eventually gave in. Most of the time our fights were about him not being honest with me. His family is worse than him, if you can believe that. They obviously taught him how to be a sociopath because maybe he wasn’t born a psychopath. I am rethinking it now. I don’t know how he survived his childhood with a family that treats me like I am the worst person on the planet because I care unconditionally for my children. They have gaslighted me more times than I can count. They have bullied me, manipulated me and caused more pain than my ex at this point; other than the physical abuse he inflicted on me. I truly believe his entire family are clinically psychopaths. It’s honestly not meant to be an insult. They 100 percent have no conscience. 
I am appalled and frightened and if a miracle doesn’t happen soon, I truly don’t know what will be. #psychopaths #familyaffiar #lies #criminal #traumabond #lovefraud #narcissist #sociopaths #abusesurvivor #gaslighting #manipulation #conartist #noconscience #delusional #traumarecovery #evil
  • Hi everyone, I am sure you can most likely relate to this. I certainly can! It has been a total nightmare with the psychopaths family. Intense abuse that I never imagined would come from a simple “I do.” What was once love and happiness has turned cold and dark. I have seen the truth, the true dark colors of every single one of them. I have been treated as if I was a criminal for the simple fact I was left by the con artist that pretended to be a lawyer. He promised if I “stuck with him” and stuck out the hard times, we would make it together. And I did. I put up with endless abuse for over a decade and the only thing that came out of “sticking it out” was more abuse, secrets and lies. He forced me to be a SAHM, with threats that if I left the house in my car to get a job, he would take my keys away. And one time he did do that. I was outside the front yard crying holding my purse because I was trapped. Aside from that, I had an intense trauma bond with him. I did whatever he wanted, even if we argued about it. I eventually gave in. Most of the time our fights were about him not being honest with me. His family is worse than him, if you can believe that. They obviously taught him how to be a sociopath because maybe he wasn’t born a psychopath. I am rethinking it now. I don’t know how he survived his childhood with a family that treats me like I am the worst person on the planet because I care unconditionally for my children. They have gaslighted me more times than I can count. They have bullied me, manipulated me and caused more pain than my ex at this point; other than the physical abuse he inflicted on me. I truly believe his entire family are clinically psychopaths. It’s honestly not meant to be an insult. They 100 percent have no conscience.
    I am appalled and frightened and if a miracle doesn’t happen soon, I truly don’t know what will be. #psychopaths #familyaffiar #lies #criminal #traumabond #lovefraud #narcissist #sociopaths #abusesurvivor #gaslighting #manipulation #conartist #noconscience #delusional #traumarecovery #evil

  •  46  4  2 February, 2020

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  • I fully know this now. But when I was a child I believed I was bad, guilty, and unwanted. I felt I had to prove how good I was because I was blamed for things I truly did not do. Maybe that’s why I always want to have proof of everything as an adult. I was scorned and made to feel unworthy and in turn I fell for a deeply disturbed mate. I hadn’t put two and two together at the point of meeting him. I was just so desperate for love and affection that I accepted what felt good and safe. Safety was a huge factor in falling in love with my abuser. He had a way of making me feel protected; something I never felt from my parents ever. 
The sense of safety with him was high in the first three years of dating. My self worth is extremely low and I was painfully shy at the time, so it’s no wonder I got caught in a trap. 
I say to myself today, if I only had the mindset I have today then I never would have given him the time of day. I wish I had the knowledge and insight back when I was twenty one, that I have now. Life takes us through the worst living nightmares and through that we learn but we cannot rewind. That’s the sad part; the most regretful part for me. 
#childhoodabuse #childhoodabusesurvivor #abusiverelationship #traumarecovery #writer #psychopathy #sociopathy #abuserecovery #traumabond #traumabonding #lovefraud #deception #manipulation #wenoflies #conartist #safety #illusions #psychopathfree #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #toxicpeople #sicklove #selfworth #blame #shame #narcissisticmother #whenloveisalie
  • I fully know this now. But when I was a child I believed I was bad, guilty, and unwanted. I felt I had to prove how good I was because I was blamed for things I truly did not do. Maybe that’s why I always want to have proof of everything as an adult. I was scorned and made to feel unworthy and in turn I fell for a deeply disturbed mate. I hadn’t put two and two together at the point of meeting him. I was just so desperate for love and affection that I accepted what felt good and safe. Safety was a huge factor in falling in love with my abuser. He had a way of making me feel protected; something I never felt from my parents ever.
    The sense of safety with him was high in the first three years of dating. My self worth is extremely low and I was painfully shy at the time, so it’s no wonder I got caught in a trap.
    I say to myself today, if I only had the mindset I have today then I never would have given him the time of day. I wish I had the knowledge and insight back when I was twenty one, that I have now. Life takes us through the worst living nightmares and through that we learn but we cannot rewind. That’s the sad part; the most regretful part for me.
    #childhoodabuse #childhoodabusesurvivor #abusiverelationship #traumarecovery #writer #psychopathy #sociopathy #abuserecovery #traumabond #traumabonding #lovefraud #deception #manipulation #wenoflies #conartist #safety #illusions #psychopathfree #narcissist #narcissisticabusesurvivor #toxicpeople #sicklove #selfworth #blame #shame #narcissisticmother #whenloveisalie

  •  495  14  13 February, 2020
  • “I’m sorry if I hurt you.”
“I’m sorry that hurt you.”
“I didn’t mean to.”
“You’re too sensitive.” “I was wrong. It wont happen again.”
“Everything hurts you. I just won’t touch you.”
_____
These were some of the phrases that started to get old. After many years nothing changed except my frustration for hearing the same lines again and again. I used to say what does sorry even mean? It’s a word that doesn’t erase any of the violent acts you did to me. I let his words be the bandaid. Because not long after he was sorry he was kissing me and I was falling right back in. I craved love and affection. I know that was no excuse to allow his abuse. But when he kissed me and touched me, the anger faded. Sometimes it took time because I was mad for a couple of days especially when I had an injury. I used to be so mad that I couldn’t look at him. And other times I fell into his arms and that soft spot I had for him wanted to be felt and my feelings pushed away the pain for a little while. He was my tragedy but also my clarity. He was the source of my pain but also the only one that could take the pain away and that is a curse. 🎭🚩
#tragedy #clarity #painisnotlove #traumabond #psychopathfree #sorrynotsorry #tellyourstory #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #lovesick #survivorswillbeheard #survivorsspeak #hesaid #iloveyou #ilied #sweetnothing #sicklove #sociopathy #psychopathy #stonewalling #gaslighting #lovefraud #fakelove #reallies #weboflies #abusesurvivor #themask #narcissisticabuse
  • “I’m sorry if I hurt you.”
    “I’m sorry that hurt you.”
    “I didn’t mean to.”
    “You’re too sensitive.” “I was wrong. It wont happen again.”
    “Everything hurts you. I just won’t touch you.”
    _____
    These were some of the phrases that started to get old. After many years nothing changed except my frustration for hearing the same lines again and again. I used to say what does sorry even mean? It’s a word that doesn’t erase any of the violent acts you did to me. I let his words be the bandaid. Because not long after he was sorry he was kissing me and I was falling right back in. I craved love and affection. I know that was no excuse to allow his abuse. But when he kissed me and touched me, the anger faded. Sometimes it took time because I was mad for a couple of days especially when I had an injury. I used to be so mad that I couldn’t look at him. And other times I fell into his arms and that soft spot I had for him wanted to be felt and my feelings pushed away the pain for a little while. He was my tragedy but also my clarity. He was the source of my pain but also the only one that could take the pain away and that is a curse. 🎭🚩
    #tragedy #clarity #painisnotlove #traumabond #psychopathfree #sorrynotsorry #tellyourstory #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #lovesick #survivorswillbeheard #survivorsspeak #hesaid #iloveyou #ilied #sweetnothing #sicklove #sociopathy #psychopathy #stonewalling #gaslighting #lovefraud #fakelove #reallies #weboflies #abusesurvivor #themask #narcissisticabuse

  •  427  5  14 July, 2019
  • We were hardly ever on the same team. He went against me and at the same time tried to convince me he was on my side. We have kids and that is mostly what we argued about. He undermined my rules, which were strict rules and told our kids they could eat chocolate whenever they wanted, have flashlights in their beds at night, rewarded them for bad behavior by buying them every toy at target, rewarded them for not cooperating... it made no logical sense. My kids have a hard time cooperating with me and it’s a massive struggle every day to get them both to listen to the smallest things. I like functionality and running a household with rules and time off ipads ect. When we lived together, he undermined all of that and treated me like a child in front of our kids. He ripped the ipad out of my hand to show his control to our kids. He belittled me in front of them and I felt like his older teen daughter getting reprimanded as if I was in the wrong. I was not allowed to be the parent when he felt the need to gain control. But when he went off to work, the rules changed, then he told me I was a great mother, with good rules and kids should have consequences if they don’t listen. Yeah, he said that when he was going to be gone for fourteen hours while leaving me to try and undo all his non parenting. I picked them up from school, did homework with them, prepared meals, took them to activities, struggled getting them to cooperate to take a shower, to eat dinner, I had to hear their arguing and crying about why dad said it’s okay to eat chocolate before dinner. I dealt with a lot and still do. Please choose your partner very wisely!!!! Babysit with your boyfriend before you consider marrying. Babysit a lot! See how you both handle life with kids. #goodadvice #parenting #sociopathy #psychopathy #narcissism #traumarecovery #cooperation #narcissisticabuse #betrayal #psychopathfree #lovefraud #gaslighting #traumainformed #traumabond #abusesurvivor
  • We were hardly ever on the same team. He went against me and at the same time tried to convince me he was on my side. We have kids and that is mostly what we argued about. He undermined my rules, which were strict rules and told our kids they could eat chocolate whenever they wanted, have flashlights in their beds at night, rewarded them for bad behavior by buying them every toy at target, rewarded them for not cooperating... it made no logical sense. My kids have a hard time cooperating with me and it’s a massive struggle every day to get them both to listen to the smallest things. I like functionality and running a household with rules and time off ipads ect. When we lived together, he undermined all of that and treated me like a child in front of our kids. He ripped the ipad out of my hand to show his control to our kids. He belittled me in front of them and I felt like his older teen daughter getting reprimanded as if I was in the wrong. I was not allowed to be the parent when he felt the need to gain control. But when he went off to work, the rules changed, then he told me I was a great mother, with good rules and kids should have consequences if they don’t listen. Yeah, he said that when he was going to be gone for fourteen hours while leaving me to try and undo all his non parenting. I picked them up from school, did homework with them, prepared meals, took them to activities, struggled getting them to cooperate to take a shower, to eat dinner, I had to hear their arguing and crying about why dad said it’s okay to eat chocolate before dinner. I dealt with a lot and still do. Please choose your partner very wisely!!!! Babysit with your boyfriend before you consider marrying. Babysit a lot! See how you both handle life with kids. #goodadvice #parenting #sociopathy #psychopathy #narcissism #traumarecovery #cooperation #narcissisticabuse #betrayal #psychopathfree #lovefraud #gaslighting #traumainformed #traumabond #abusesurvivor

  •  169  6  15 February, 2020
  • A psychopath is someone who takes whatever is offered. In romantic relationships, they act as parasites 🦠 
The way they treat you is with no real feelings, no sense of consciousness, just leeching. 
No matter how many chances they seem to get, they have the next supply on speed dial if there is a confrontation with the other one. 
They will NEVER commit. They will make you think you are the “only one” and even when you have evidence to the contrary they will make you feel crazy for thinking that. 
This happened to me. This is real. It was horrible, it was brutal and I ask myself why God allowed the devil to come to me. I cried a lot last night begging for answers. But there is no answer. Sometimes we have to sit in our sadness because it won’t go away. 
I betrayed myself over and over because I felt like there was no way out. I didn’t want to betray myself. But he took me over. 
Some think I am strong but I feel very weak. 
My weakness betrays me. “I LOVE YOU” betrayed me. He turned the meaning of it around. 
I love you became the insult, the fools phrase and whoever believed it, got burned. 
#psychopaths #abusiverelationship #psychopathy #traumarecovery #childhoodabuse #abuseawareness #weboflies #traumabond #betraylbond #lovefraud #parasites #humanparasites #liar #leech #pathological #narcissisticabuse #survivorstories #malignantnarcissist #supply #thedevil  #noremorse #noconscience #foolishheart
  • A psychopath is someone who takes whatever is offered. In romantic relationships, they act as parasites 🦠
    The way they treat you is with no real feelings, no sense of consciousness, just leeching.
    No matter how many chances they seem to get, they have the next supply on speed dial if there is a confrontation with the other one.
    They will NEVER commit. They will make you think you are the “only one” and even when you have evidence to the contrary they will make you feel crazy for thinking that.
    This happened to me. This is real. It was horrible, it was brutal and I ask myself why God allowed the devil to come to me. I cried a lot last night begging for answers. But there is no answer. Sometimes we have to sit in our sadness because it won’t go away.
    I betrayed myself over and over because I felt like there was no way out. I didn’t want to betray myself. But he took me over.
    Some think I am strong but I feel very weak.
    My weakness betrays me. “I LOVE YOU” betrayed me. He turned the meaning of it around.
    I love you became the insult, the fools phrase and whoever believed it, got burned.
    #psychopaths #abusiverelationship #psychopathy #traumarecovery #childhoodabuse #abuseawareness #weboflies #traumabond #betraylbond #lovefraud #parasites #humanparasites #liar #leech #pathological #narcissisticabuse #survivorstories #malignantnarcissist #supply #thedevil #noremorse #noconscience #foolishheart

  •  496  19  18 hours ago