lookingglassself - 795 posts
Dreaming of Dior 🕊
With all respect and love, @snapcaseband. Very excited that you are playing again. Pls come to Utah.
“When I stopped focussing on what everyone else was telling me to wear and instead focussed on what I loved to wear, and finding those timeless pieces within my own wardrobe, I became much happier with not only how I looked but also how I felt. When fashion is in harmony with you, those things line up so beautifully.”
The Looking Glass Self is a concept that explains how we tend to view ourselves through the eyes’ of others. Check out episode 3 to learn more about how we are influenced by how our significant others see us. #psychology #relationships #lookingglass #lookingglassself #socialpsychology #socialscience #goals #goaldiggerz #goaldiggerzpodcast #podcast #season2
Finally...a new comic🎊
I’m busy applying for a graphic design internship lately and feel that I need a break from the endless writing of motivation letters.
So here I am, back to the comic world💃🏻
#comics #webcomics #comicartist #comicart #feministcomics #queercomics #instaartist #procreate #procreateart #whoareyou #identification #selfidentity #mirror #mirrorimage #lookingglassself
Introducing the Editor’s Diary. In this blog, you’ll find amateur illustrations by yours truly and anecdotes of how I ended up here…
I had quit my full time job and was studying a postgraduate degree when I decided on a whim to pursue makeup artistry... I learned that you really can do whatever you want as long as you trust your own abilities, do your homework, stay open-minded and be willing to take a few risks. You don’t have to be bound by anyone’s preconceptions—not even your own.
In my first post, I wrote about my existential crisis, the vocational monoculture I grew up with, and the Modern Goddess: a woman who lives a life of her own design. Have a read and leave me a comment if you can relate 👑 Link in bio.
Il Se' riflesso: dallo specchio allo schermo. #LookingGlassSelf
“It’s important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story.”
– Iyania Ivanzant
Blog coming soon ✨
Jungle Bungalow vibes with @risewithrissa 🌱.
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Audio on 👂🏾...Every year in Sociology I ask students to complete the looking glass self vs. the self-concept project. “The looking glass self" was created by sociologist Charles Horton Cooley to describe how we think we appear to others while the self-concept is a reflection of how we see ourselves. This student knocked it out the park with their innovation!! .
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“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.”
– Marcel Proust 👀
Photo by the legendary André Kertész
“Sharing my stories came to me pretty late in life, but the day I got the hang of it, I began to understand the incredible power of letting your guard down, even with people you barely know. Because when you open yourself, people will magically open up to you.”
– Garance Doré
Joker - Steps
“I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.” This concept of the looking glass self was developed by Sociologist Charles Cooley and can teach us a lot about our identity and how, without realising it, we often see ourselves through the eyes of others. As we can’t read other people’s minds we often make up stories in our heads about their perceptions of us and adopt that as a true narrative. But that’s not healthy because it can hold us back. Living in our own shadow. Living our life in a way that we think others would approve of. I’m sure we’ve all done it. Gone to an event because you feel like you should or others would expect it of you. Staying silent when you want to speak up, saying something you don’t actually believe. Portraying yourself in a certain light on social media. The older I get the less tolerance I have for that kind of stuff. Life is too short to be anyone but who you really want to be... in my case, according to a lovely London bus driver, a lady from Moscow. 🎬tip: @jasonlsilva Shots of Awe: Are we who we think we are? https://youtu.be/z7g3IdyOjMU
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“Every time you push a boundary or do something that makes you scared, you are growing and learning. I’ve done a lot of that recently, and I feel like so much of a stronger person because of it.”
– Christie Tyler aka @nycbambi
“If you're too much in control, you feel too secure in your shoes, and where's the emotion to keep going in life? To keep that spark going, you have to feel like an outsider.”
– Mariacarla Boscono photographed by Peter Lindbergh
“The reason I decided to stop working with Victoria’s Secret was I didn’t feel it was an image that was truly reflective of who I am and the kind of message I want to send to young women around the world about what it means to be beautiful. I think that was a pivotal moment in me stepping into my power as a feminist, being able to make my own choices and my own narrative, whether through the companies I choose to work with, or through the image I put out to the world.”
– Karlie Kloss 👏
Even when your world might seem backwards it's still beautiful.
Photography: Juan Medrano
Location: Banff National Park
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Snapcase / lookinglasself / 1993
Alone, all by myself in fear of failure
Unable to see who I am, who's my savior
And I don't know why, why I've come here
To the place of condemnation, my existence remains unclear
But I have broken through, through whats enslaved me
Abolish your guilt wall, realization allowed me to be free
And my self confidence has taught me virtues
Your power was my weakness. My weakness was your power
Me...Do they need me? You...Do I need you? .
Man I love early 90’s hardcore and Snapcase are amongst my favourites, I was lucky enough to see them every time they played the U.K. and they never failed to deliver anything but a great time 🙂 The best thing about shows back then was the lack of windmills and karate kicks 😂 As for WMH day, I think everyone has 💩 to deal with and some of us cope better than others, regardless of that, just try to be nice to people, it may make someone’s day and it might make you a better person 🤔
# #nowspinning #vinyl #vinylcollector #vinyligclub #spintheblackcircle #33rpm #33rpmclub #record #recordcollector @snapcaseband #snapcase #lookingglassself #hardcore @victoryrecords
“I think we all have something to contribute. Finding your voice is the way to make the most authentic mark on the world. I would implore you to share your own stories.”
– Christy Turlington
Some 90s inspiration for your Monday 💫
“A vocabulary of truth and simplicity will be of service throughout your life.”
– Winston Churchill
“Don't be too self-conscious. You have a few wrinkles, you're obviously not a young woman any more – so what? You can't worry about it because it's impossible to hide.”
– Ines de la Fressange in a #powersuit 💣
Living life on her own terms 🖤 #girlbosses
Monday musings: If you have an unconventional dream or a wild idea – own it. Some people will disapprove, others might laugh, but the only person you need to convince is yourself. Commit to yourself and follow through 💫 📷 @sezane
Missing sweater weather already. Winter, please come back 🖤 @sabinasocol
“Kindness, even when people may not deserve it—perhaps especially when people may not deserve it—is the hardest and most important thing any of us can do to improve society and improve ourselves.”
– Dr Susan Carland @bazaaraustralia
One incredible woman 🕊
“Even though you are the centre of your experience, that doesn’t mean there aren’t other experiences that don’t centre you.”
@constancewu on growing up with two cultures ✨
“Always keep them surprised. If they think you’ll wear heels, wear flats. If they expect flats, wear heels.”
– Isabel Marant
Applicable to all areas of life 👠✨
“I wanted to be an independent woman, a woman who could pay for her bills, a woman who could run her own life – I became that woman.”
– Diane von Furstenberg
An iconic @dvf quote to get us through hump day. To all my boss babes out there, we got this! 🙌
When I embarked on a solo trip to Europe in 2017, I arrived in Paris exactly 2 years to the day of the November attacks.
During my wanders, I saw a woman carrying a canvas bag from the lingerie store, Etam. It was emblazoned with the following manifesto: “We are French. We believe in being sexy, independent, fashionable, optimistic”. It was a charmingly accurate representation of French liberté. I was incredibly moved by the resilience of the French people in the face of tragedy.
Looking back on my life, I realised that every experience has made me who I am today. Every heartbreak, disappointment, frustration and mistake has only driven me closer to my truth.
When I quit my uninspiring corporate job, I had no idea what was in store for me. And in retrospect, if I had known how hard it would be, I probably wouldn’t have quit! But I’m so glad that I did because it gave me the impetus to create something that is uniquely my own. Watch this space ✨
“Be like the flower who even gives its fragrance to the hand that crushes it.”
– Imam Ali
“He who does not grasp the thorn should never crave the rose.”
– Anne Brontë
You tell ‘em, girl!
Live what you create, love what you create ⭐️
“I suppose at one time in my life I might have had any number of stories, but now there is no other. This is the only story I will ever be able to tell.”
Adrenal fatigue, chronic fatigue, compassion fatigue, burnout... whether or not the medical profession acknowledges the existence of these conditions, what we can conclude is that we’re a generation of tired people! That which doesn’t kill us often makes us very unwell. I wrote about how my pursuit of perfection made me sick (link in bio). What are your experiences with stress and fatigue?
Head to my stories to read about my personal journey and the motivation behind @etre_blank ✨
“Products of our environments” 👁🗨
Don’t let it be a downside, make it a defining point to yo true best self... 🙌🏾💯 Big ups @corn_fetus for the angle! 📸
#PitaTheProphet #KnowYourWorth #staytuned
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Powerful, intelligent, beautiful and compassionate. These words are not mutually exclusive.
“I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am.”
If you are like most people, you care very much about what other people think about you. According to research, 55% percent of people believe that their self-worth is often, or always tied to what others think about them 🎭.
This phenomenon is called the “Looking-Glass-Self.”
In many cases, we choose to associate ourselves with people whose opinions we value and respect—and we seek approval and validation from them. Their opinions become the basis for how we value ourselves, for our self-acceptance.
The problem is that if you base your self-concept on what you believe others think of you, then you will always be vulnerable. Your self-concept will have no true foundation. If the other person is having a good day and responds to you in a friendly, affirming manner, then you feel good 🙋💁. If not, you wonder what you did wrong 🙍🙆.
Can you relate? Stay tuned!
#lookingglassself #lookingglass #self #selfacceptance #relationships #communication #psychology #therapy #therapist #marriageandfamilytherapy #familytherapy #familytherapist #family #untangled #miamiflorida #mentalhealth #StephanieEssenfeld #MFT #TherapyUntangled
We tend to forget that everyone is instantly judging, categorizing, and responding to everyone else based upon countless of influences in their own mind that have nothing to do with us at all (mood, vulnerabilities, stressors, past experiences and more).
When we seek validation outside to measure our self-worth, then we try to project an image of ourselves based on what we think others want, but since we really don’t know what they want, what we are really doing is deciding what we think they want and then trying to project that image 🤯😰.
It’s a losing game.
Want a winning game? 😅🙏
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Surround yourself with positive people that truly want the best for you and watch your life transform. If you are not surrounded by good vibes, embody it! You will begin to attract like minded individuals. You never know what someone is going through, one compliment could save a life, one sentence could impact someone’s perception of theirself for the rest of their life, words matter. Be the light.
Days 41-50 // "Nothing of me is original. I am the combined effort of everyone I've ever known." - #ChuckPalahniuk
In the past 3 years, I’ve made #consciousness and self-awareness my personal mission by trying to decipher the patterns of how I stabilize my identity.
If you’ve heard of #Cooley’s “ #LookingGlassSelf” theory, you’re familiar with the concept that we come to ourselves through the interfacing and our interactions with the people in our lives. “I am not who you think I am. I am not who I think I am. I am who I think YOU think I am.” Jason Silva expands upon this beautifully- we emerge as a self by creating a mental model of the other person’s interior world, then furthermore- by creating a mental model of that person’s mental model modeling of us (mouthful!). So in essence, we create our identity by building these bridges with the kinds of people we connect with. We adjust our sense of ‘self’ depending on who we spend time with.
Lately, it seems like #JimRohn’s words – we are the average of the 5 people we spend most of our time with – keep popping up everywhere for me. I find myself paying attention to the people I spend my time with. I’m selective with who I choose to invite in my life. And the past few weeks have felt a bit chaotic with the intensity of connecting with so many people and all the activity with art. I've felt lost and #disconnected from my identity for days now. When those days become weeks and weeks become months...you end up at a place in life where you never saw on your maps. It’s time to seek out an oasis.
Few years ago, I discovered my love for the #mountains. I think they have a way of humbling you. For the past 3 years, every time I’ve felt overwhelmed with life’s impassioned unfoldings, I’ve seeked solitude through my hikes in the mountains in the gregarious environment to allow myself to move beyond my ‘self’ – to exceed myself. Feeling this need to disconnect (again), I’m headed to Aspen on Sunday. To watch my tetherings and anchors implode and lead me to a calmer journey when I return. #100DayPaintingByJVyas #The100DayProject #100daypaintingbyjennyvyas
Every single one of us struggles between the world we carry within ourselves and the world that we live in out there with others. Most of us are constantly trying to build a bridge to connect those two worlds through our work, art, experiences... Work that ends up being self-improving or self-destructive. Something I'm ruminating over these days- how do we transcend into a more dimensional sense of belonging to ourselves more than the outer world? How do we gently correct our sense of who we truly are from the self we've created for others based upon what we THINK they see in us? Because we all know, there's a vast difference between the two. #lookingglassself
“This collision between one’s image of oneself and what one actually is is always very painful and there are two things you can do about it, you can meet the collision head-on and try and become what you really are or you can retreat and try to remain what you thought you were, which is a fantasy, in which you will certainly perish.” — #JamesBaldwin #indentitypolitics #mirrormirror 🖤
Thought for the day courtesy of Charles Horton Cooley.
Who is Charles Horton Cooley? I had to google him. BTW: I never post a quote from someone without finding out who they are. Words are important, but who they come from is equally important.
Charles Horton Cooley was an American Sociologist. He is best known for this "looking glass self" theory. According to Wikipedia: "...the concept of the looking-glass self expresses the tendency for one to understand oneself through their own understanding of the perception which others may hold of them. This process is theorized to develop one's sense of identity. Therefore identity, or self, is the result of learning to see ourselves as others do."
Knowing a little something about Charles Horton Cooley really enriched this quote for me. Does it do the same for you?
#quote #quotestagram #inspirationalquote #quoteoftheday #artquote #artistquote #quotesonart #sayings #wordsmatter #speaktruth #charleshortoncooley #art #sociology #lookingglassself #beinganartist
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One of @nathanielshannon’s killer shots of Snapcase on Saturday night. Head over to his Instagram profile for more! #Repost @nathanielshannon with @get_repost
Snapcase - night 2 at @saintvitusbar - so sick. #snapcase #saintvitusbar #bandphotography #realbandphotography #blackandwhitephotography #stillscreaming #nathanielshannon #brooklynphotographer #newyorkphotographer #livemusicphotography #zombieperscription #victorystyle #progressionthroughunlearning #lookingglassself #supgirl #caboose #imuponbreak #canoncameras #vitusinstagram
Практикуем с Кэмбриджем концепцию зеркального я 😁
Ну настоящий профессор, а не конь! 🐴🎓
💬 Догадайтесь, что меж его ушей!
Practicing looking-glass self concept with Cambridge (Moscow, Russia).
He is PhD horse for sure! 🐴🎓😁
💬Guess what is in between his ears!
#cambridge_artofhorsemanship #artofhorsemanship #riding_artofhorsemanship #верхом_artofhorsemanship #верховаяезда #зеркальноея #lookingglassself #asseenthroughhorsesears ⠀