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- SIGNS OF AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.
How do we know if we are in an unhealthy relationship? What are some of the signs to loom out for?
1. Isolation. If you are being forced, encouraged or manipulate to be isolated from your family and friend. This is a serious red flag. Healthy relationship encourage friendship and family as we are individuals and need support. We should be encouraging our partners to spend time with their fiends and family.
2. Guilting. Do you find that 99% of all your arguments end up with you apologising? Or are you made responsible for how your partner behaves (I wouldn’t have done that if you hadn’t said that) In a healthy relationship both individuals take responsibility for their actions, emotions, thoughts and words.
3. Controlling behaviour. Do you find that you have to ask permission to apply for the job, visit your friends, do that marathon? Do you find that you need to give up your privacy for your partner? If you answered yes to any of these, then control is very much apart of the relationship. In healthy relationship control is never there. Instead there is freedom to be and pursue after your dreams. There is mutual respect, and consideration but never a child like submission or obedience to the other one. Healthy relationships contain boundaries, and equality.
If your looking for help in understanding these signs more, or if you realise your relationship is toxic, then please, I invite you to join our Facebook group HEALING THEOUGH NARCISSISM.
If you would like to have one on one chat and discuss this further, then please don’t hesitate to PM me.
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- Sometimes I struggle with allowing the narc to lie about me, but when I look at the big picture and my life without him directly apart of it I’m reminded that no amount of lies will make me the person he wishes I was. I’ll never become him. I have a beautiful life and an amazing future ahead of me. I won’t allow the narcissist to manipulate me back into arguing. There’s nothing to argue about, he is him and I am me and I cannot save him. And you cannot change or save your narc either, but you can save yourself! .................................................................... #protectwomen #narcissisticabuse #selflove #womenempowerment #powerfulwomen #momsarestrong #sisterhood #healing
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📙What is Narcissism?
✏️When we think of narcissism, we may think of Narcissus; the greek mythological figure who fell in love with his reflection in a body of water [subsequently falling into the water + drowning...]. Or typically we'll recall someone who is cocky, manipulative + selfish
✏️Narcissism [often spoken about as Narcissistic Personality Disorder] involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behaviour, a lack of empathy + consideration for other people, with an excessive need for admiration
✏️This way of thinking + acting surfaces in all areas of their life: work, friendships, family and relationships. But what does this look like in a parent?
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💭Narcissistic Traits in a Parent
In the above graphic, we'll see just some traits associated with a Narcissistic Parent
⚡️Parentifying us [treating us as a parent/older adult] at a young age
⚡️Becoming possessive of us
⚡️Highly critical of other relationships we form
⚡️Setting unrealistic standards
⚡️Making decisions for us because they ‘know us best’
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🌿Acknowledging the narcissistic behaviours of a parent isn't done to blame + shame them, nor is it done to victimize ourselves. It's a means of validating our past, our present; the pain we experienced + the impact its had on our sense of self, + our relationships✨
[Part 2 Tomorrow]
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- I was asked why I stayed so long with the narcissist. Why did I not get out sooner if he was so abusive. The thing is, they don’t start out abusing you. In fact they do the complete opposite. He basically swept me off my feet. He was so charming and he wanted all the same things I wanted for the future. He was “the one”. What I didn’t realize was he was wearing a mask. This is not who he really was. This is how he hooked me. The abuse is a gradual process. Mine would put me down or say something so hurtful then call me a baby and say he was joking or “learn to take a joke” then punish me for a week or so by not speaking to me. Then after I apologized to him he would act like nothing happened and then everything would go back to normal for a while. So what I learned was to stop acting like anything he said or did bothered me because it was soul crushing to get a week of silent treatment. The thing is, you can only take so much criticism and hurtful behavior until it you just explode. When I started standing up to him things got worse. Instead of just the silent treatment I got hit or choked and the silent treatment always followed. I would apologize and the cycle would always start over. Why was I with him for 18 years? Because I was abused and conditioned to believe that I needed my abuser. #narcissiticabuserecovery #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #npd #npdsurvivor #npdawareness #emotionalabuse #toxicrelationships
- 🙋♀️🙋♂️For years, I carried the shame of several people on my shoulders.
Then one day, I had a conversation with an aunt of mine. Her story is not mine to tell, but I will share this detail. Even though the abuse happened to her many years ago, she told me that she’s too ashamed to tell her story.
Hearing her story was part of the reason I started We Are HER. We can’t have survivors in their sixties carrying around the shame of someone else for an entire lifetime.
It’s not ok.
It’s not fair.
There are still moments when I feel ashamed of my story. But I’ve decided to stop carrying around that burden. My abusers are the only people who should be held accountable for their actions. -I am not to blame.
-Their upbringing is not to blame (though it can certainly provide context for their behavior).
-And their shame is not mine.
Society has told us for centuries that there is shame in being a survivor. And to that, I say #NoMore.
Go talk to a therapist. Go write out your story. Do something today that makes you feel empowered and helps you share and heal in a healthy way.
What are some ways you’ve decided to unload the shame you’ve been internalizing?
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