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  • Day 25 
#motherhoodmeditationjourney 
Breathe 
Today, continue the practice of day 24, Notice. Continue to shift from thinking to feeling how the stressors manifest in the body. 
Today, as you Notice, then focus on Breath. Breathe deeply into the discomfort of the body. With intention slow the breath, lengthen the breath. If your day and the particular instance allow, communicate with your child or your people that you need to take “a break”, remove yourself from the situation and find a comfortable standing or seated position. Here, use your breath to settle the body, settle the mind, and find a moment of peace for yourself.  Throughout your day, practice this as many times as needed and you are able. In these moments honor yourself, care for yourself, and be intentional about it.
  • Day 25
    #motherhoodmeditationjourney
    Breathe
    Today, continue the practice of day 24, Notice. Continue to shift from thinking to feeling how the stressors manifest in the body.
    Today, as you Notice, then focus on Breath. Breathe deeply into the discomfort of the body. With intention slow the breath, lengthen the breath. If your day and the particular instance allow, communicate with your child or your people that you need to take “a break”, remove yourself from the situation and find a comfortable standing or seated position. Here, use your breath to settle the body, settle the mind, and find a moment of peace for yourself. Throughout your day, practice this as many times as needed and you are able. In these moments honor yourself, care for yourself, and be intentional about it.
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  • #Repost @healthynewmomsmaryland (@get_repost)
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Repost • @theperfectmom 💗

Have you ever noticed that when your baby is born, naturally, much of the focus is on the new baby? How is baby doing? How is she sleeping? Is she latching? Etc. •
I think we need to take a step back and ask the more important question: “Mama, are YOU okay?” How are YOU doing? Are you sleeping? Are you eating? •

And we as moms need to give ourselves permission to say, “I’m not okay. I’m not myself.” •

#MyWishForMoms is that they are asked simple questions and that they would give themselves permission to be able to honestly answer.
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 My Wish For Moms is that they would see a Doctor sooner and make the necessary changes to step out of the season their in. 
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My Wish For Moms is that they would be reminded that they aren’t alone. Motherhood is an undeniable journey of love and truth, pure exhaustion and challenging moments, joys and tears. I want you to know that you are supported in all our differences and similarities. 
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My Wish For Moms is that they would not walk through the struggles, the hard days, the exhaustion, and the agony of anxiety and depression alone. 
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My Wish For Moms is that they know that their postpartum journey doesn’t define them as a Mom and that it is okay to not be okay. There is no shame in your journey, Mama. 
#healthynewmoms #maternalmentalhealthmatters #breakthestigma
  • #Repost @healthynewmomsmaryland (@get_repost)
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    Repost • @theperfectmom 💗

    Have you ever noticed that when your baby is born, naturally, much of the focus is on the new baby? How is baby doing? How is she sleeping? Is she latching? Etc. •
    I think we need to take a step back and ask the more important question: “Mama, are YOU okay?” How are YOU doing? Are you sleeping? Are you eating? •

    And we as moms need to give ourselves permission to say, “I’m not okay. I’m not myself.” •

    #MyWishForMoms is that they are asked simple questions and that they would give themselves permission to be able to honestly answer.
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    My Wish For Moms is that they would see a Doctor sooner and make the necessary changes to step out of the season their in.
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    My Wish For Moms is that they would be reminded that they aren’t alone. Motherhood is an undeniable journey of love and truth, pure exhaustion and challenging moments, joys and tears. I want you to know that you are supported in all our differences and similarities.
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    My Wish For Moms is that they would not walk through the struggles, the hard days, the exhaustion, and the agony of anxiety and depression alone.
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    My Wish For Moms is that they know that their postpartum journey doesn’t define them as a Mom and that it is okay to not be okay. There is no shame in your journey, Mama.
    #healthynewmoms #maternalmentalhealthmatters #breakthestigma
  •  50  1  6 hours ago

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  • Mama Glow- MATERNAL MENTAL HEALTH MONTH 
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As many of you may know, May is Maternal Mental Health Month and so much of our work at Mama Glow is dedicated to supporting women along the motherhood continuum and that includes mental health. We are so honored to join @AHNToday and @chrissyteigen to help raise awareness around an initiative to reduce the stigma of postpartum depression and anxiety. We seek to encourage an open dialogue around around perinatal mood disorders and continue supporting moms who may be suffering.
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It’s important for all of us to know that postpartum depression and anxiety are real and they are treatable medical conditions that can affect anyone- including fathers! 
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AHN Women developed MyWishforMoms.org – an educational resource for moms and families to learn about maternal mental health and how to get help should they or a loved one need it. 
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In the U.S., 1 in 7 women experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety and of that number, only 15% of women are receiving treatment each year. #MyWishForMoms is that each new mother have access to mental health support during the prenatal period so that the risks for postpartum depression decrease. 
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#MyWishForMoms is that doula access is democratized so every woman who desires to have a prenatal and postpartum doula can afford one. When it comes to motherhood it takes a village, let’s all make sure we are getting support to the moms who really need it. 
What’s your wish for moms? Share using the Hashtag #MyWishForMoms
  • Mama Glow- MATERNAL MENTAL HEALTH MONTH
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    As many of you may know, May is Maternal Mental Health Month and so much of our work at Mama Glow is dedicated to supporting women along the motherhood continuum and that includes mental health. We are so honored to join @AHNToday and @chrissyteigen to help raise awareness around an initiative to reduce the stigma of postpartum depression and anxiety. We seek to encourage an open dialogue around around perinatal mood disorders and continue supporting moms who may be suffering.
    _
    It’s important for all of us to know that postpartum depression and anxiety are real and they are treatable medical conditions that can affect anyone- including fathers!
    _
    AHN Women developed MyWishforMoms.org – an educational resource for moms and families to learn about maternal mental health and how to get help should they or a loved one need it.
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    In the U.S., 1 in 7 women experiencing postpartum depression and anxiety and of that number, only 15% of women are receiving treatment each year. #MyWishForMoms is that each new mother have access to mental health support during the prenatal period so that the risks for postpartum depression decrease.
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    #MyWishForMoms is that doula access is democratized so every woman who desires to have a prenatal and postpartum doula can afford one. When it comes to motherhood it takes a village, let’s all make sure we are getting support to the moms who really need it.
    What’s your wish for moms? Share using the Hashtag #MyWishForMoms
  •  68  1  11 hours ago

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  • Postpartum depression can be a difficult experience for everyone involved. Most people expect the arrival of a child to be exciting and joyful, and postpartum depression can be the opposite. It’s important to know that postpartum depression is no one’s fault, but you can play a big role in a loved one’s recovery.
Here are some tips on supporting a loved one who experiences postpartum depression:
~Make sure your own expectations of your loved one’s experiences and day-to-day abilities are realistic.
~Remember that every parent and child is unique and it’s not useful to compare two people or two families.
~Understand that people who experience postpartum depression may want to spend a lot of time alone. This can hurt, but try to remember that it isn’t about you. They are simply trying to cope with an illness.
~Offer help with daily responsibilities. It’s hard enough at the best of times to find time for daily chores when there’s a new baby. ~Often, offers of help from friends and neighbours are strong in the first month or two, but may be needed just as much, or more, in later months.
~Help with child care (including overnight help for feedings), or help finding a child care provider. A short break or a chance to get back into interests can make a big difference in anyone’s well-being. It can also create more opportunities for sleep.
~Managing postpartum depression can take a lot of hard work. Recognize a loved one’s efforts regardless of the outcome.
~Talk to your doctor or public health nurse, or accompany your loved one on appointments, if you’re concerned.
Seek support for yourself, if needed.
-CMHA
#postpartum #mywishformoms #postpartumdepression #motherhood #lrhf
  • Postpartum depression can be a difficult experience for everyone involved. Most people expect the arrival of a child to be exciting and joyful, and postpartum depression can be the opposite. It’s important to know that postpartum depression is no one’s fault, but you can play a big role in a loved one’s recovery.
    Here are some tips on supporting a loved one who experiences postpartum depression:
    ~Make sure your own expectations of your loved one’s experiences and day-to-day abilities are realistic.
    ~Remember that every parent and child is unique and it’s not useful to compare two people or two families.
    ~Understand that people who experience postpartum depression may want to spend a lot of time alone. This can hurt, but try to remember that it isn’t about you. They are simply trying to cope with an illness.
    ~Offer help with daily responsibilities. It’s hard enough at the best of times to find time for daily chores when there’s a new baby. ~Often, offers of help from friends and neighbours are strong in the first month or two, but may be needed just as much, or more, in later months.
    ~Help with child care (including overnight help for feedings), or help finding a child care provider. A short break or a chance to get back into interests can make a big difference in anyone’s well-being. It can also create more opportunities for sleep.
    ~Managing postpartum depression can take a lot of hard work. Recognize a loved one’s efforts regardless of the outcome.
    ~Talk to your doctor or public health nurse, or accompany your loved one on appointments, if you’re concerned.
    Seek support for yourself, if needed.
    -CMHA
    #postpartum #mywishformoms #postpartumdepression #motherhood #lrhf
  •  36  0  16 hours ago

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  • #1in5 thank you @bulletproofbecks for sharing your postpartum experience and spot on wisdom with the world! 💙
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#mywishformoms 
To any new mothers reading this, just know it's ok for you to reach out to me if you want to talk. This motherhood gig comes with so much joy and at the same time so many growing pains.

Boy did I underestimate the intensity of the postpartum period! I was so focused on keeping a healthy pregnancy and preparing for birth that I barely gave any consideration to my postpartum recovery. Sure, I thought about my physical needs for the first few weeks after Leo was born. As for the mental challenges that come with being a new mother... not a single thought. 
This has been the most joyous time of my life yet I have been totally blindsided by sadness and sometimes rage. I've been telling myself that this feeling is wrong and I shouldn't feel it but it's there, and of course! I've had to let go of my independence, my need for instant solutions to problems, my pre-pregnant body, and my career has taken a longer hiatus than expected. A fellow mama recently reminded me to give myself permission to grieve. Get it out! Say goodbye to the woman I once was and the life I had before. She brought you this far and has made way for the woman I am becoming. Give this process grace. We deserve it. This isn't easy so why make it harder than it already is.

I'm here to pass on that postpartum wisdom that was shared with me. Feel the feels. Allow yourself to grieve the woman you were before and give grace to the woman, the mother, that you are now. 
Seriously mama, I feel you. I'm here for you. We have so much to learn from each other. Let's do this together!
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#wisdom #grieve #grace #pdd #ppa #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety 
#postpartumhealthalliance #postpartum #PMADS #awearness #resouces #realmotherhood #noshame #yourenotalone #motherhood #newbaby #support #maternalmentalhealth #sandiego
  • #1in5 thank you @bulletproofbecks for sharing your postpartum experience and spot on wisdom with the world! 💙
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    #mywishformoms
    To any new mothers reading this, just know it's ok for you to reach out to me if you want to talk. This motherhood gig comes with so much joy and at the same time so many growing pains.

    Boy did I underestimate the intensity of the postpartum period! I was so focused on keeping a healthy pregnancy and preparing for birth that I barely gave any consideration to my postpartum recovery. Sure, I thought about my physical needs for the first few weeks after Leo was born. As for the mental challenges that come with being a new mother... not a single thought.
    This has been the most joyous time of my life yet I have been totally blindsided by sadness and sometimes rage. I've been telling myself that this feeling is wrong and I shouldn't feel it but it's there, and of course! I've had to let go of my independence, my need for instant solutions to problems, my pre-pregnant body, and my career has taken a longer hiatus than expected. A fellow mama recently reminded me to give myself permission to grieve. Get it out! Say goodbye to the woman I once was and the life I had before. She brought you this far and has made way for the woman I am becoming. Give this process grace. We deserve it. This isn't easy so why make it harder than it already is.

    I'm here to pass on that postpartum wisdom that was shared with me. Feel the feels. Allow yourself to grieve the woman you were before and give grace to the woman, the mother, that you are now.
    Seriously mama, I feel you. I'm here for you. We have so much to learn from each other. Let's do this together!
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    #wisdom #grieve #grace #pdd #ppa #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety
    #postpartumhealthalliance #postpartum #PMADS #awearness #resouces #realmotherhood #noshame #yourenotalone #motherhood #newbaby #support #maternalmentalhealth #sandiego
  •  61  3  17 hours ago
  • I don't remember people telling Nick and I how tough it would be the first year as parents. It almost seemed like a big secret nobody wanted to share until we were officially part of the "Parent Hood". Because as soon as that precious baby hit our arms,  I swear the flood gates opened up! "Get ready for exhaustion." "You will never sleep again." "Your life as you knew it is over."
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While I appreciated the sentiments, it also felt like a lot, a little too late. So in the spirit of helping others, I decided to put together a quick post with the top 10 things I believe every soon-to-be parent should know before baby arrives. Read it and share it here 👉🏼 melb.co/Top10BeforeBaby {link in bio} and tag any new or soon-to-be parents you know in the comments below.
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I feel like there is so much more I could say, but I also want to hear from you. What questions do you have? Or if you’re a parent already is there anything you would you add? One thing’s for sure, this parenting thing ain’t for the faint of heart 😅 #meetmel #meetmiles #milestones #boymom #oneyearold #mywishformoms
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📷 @carmichaelgardengroup
  • I don't remember people telling Nick and I how tough it would be the first year as parents. It almost seemed like a big secret nobody wanted to share until we were officially part of the "Parent Hood". Because as soon as that precious baby hit our arms, I swear the flood gates opened up! "Get ready for exhaustion." "You will never sleep again." "Your life as you knew it is over."
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    While I appreciated the sentiments, it also felt like a lot, a little too late. So in the spirit of helping others, I decided to put together a quick post with the top 10 things I believe every soon-to-be parent should know before baby arrives. Read it and share it here 👉🏼 melb.co/Top10BeforeBaby {link in bio} and tag any new or soon-to-be parents you know in the comments below.
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    I feel like there is so much more I could say, but I also want to hear from you. What questions do you have? Or if you’re a parent already is there anything you would you add? One thing’s for sure, this parenting thing ain’t for the faint of heart 😅 #meetmel #meetmiles #milestones #boymom #oneyearold #mywishformoms
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    📷 @carmichaelgardengroup
  •  158  41  18 hours ago
  • Y'all overwhelmed me with your kindness in response to sharing my PPD story yesterday. I can't thank you enough for reading my blog post and sharing your encouraging words and your stories 💚 so much thanks // 3 months ago hope was not real to me. From my journal: "I feel like hope isn't a thing to have or believe in. Hope is not real. I've hoped for too much that my hope hasn't helped." Though impossible to find, it was always there, somewhere. And it always will be. For everyone. And I know someone out there in the #ppd deepness doesn't believe me right now, and I get it, I wouldn't have believed me 3 months ago either. Just know that I see you and I'm here and sending love love love love and also cookies if you dm me your address. #maternalmentalhealth #mywishformoms
  • Y'all overwhelmed me with your kindness in response to sharing my PPD story yesterday. I can't thank you enough for reading my blog post and sharing your encouraging words and your stories 💚 so much thanks // 3 months ago hope was not real to me. From my journal: "I feel like hope isn't a thing to have or believe in. Hope is not real. I've hoped for too much that my hope hasn't helped." Though impossible to find, it was always there, somewhere. And it always will be. For everyone. And I know someone out there in the #ppd deepness doesn't believe me right now, and I get it, I wouldn't have believed me 3 months ago either. Just know that I see you and I'm here and sending love love love love and also cookies if you dm me your address. #maternalmentalhealth #mywishformoms
  •  33  2  19 hours ago
  • CozyKin was created while our founders were researching postpartum depression and found a majority of parents cited that the need for quality and reliable childcare was a major stressor. May is #maternalmentalhealthmonth and we want Moms (and Dads) to know we're on a mission to help by trailblazing a new generation of early childhood education while also supporting parents so they can juggle all the demands of having a new little one. #mywishformoms
  • CozyKin was created while our founders were researching postpartum depression and found a majority of parents cited that the need for quality and reliable childcare was a major stressor. May is #maternalmentalhealthmonth and we want Moms (and Dads) to know we're on a mission to help by trailblazing a new generation of early childhood education while also supporting parents so they can juggle all the demands of having a new little one. #mywishformoms
  •  27  1  21 hours ago
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  • Day 24 
#motherhoodmeditationjourney 
Notice 
Today, notice what type of responses sound in the body, when you are being triggered,  challenged, or under pressure with your children. Notice the thoughts that pop up, first, allow them to pass, and then start with the breath and then the body. What’s going on in the body in these moments? Do these reactions remind you of any other times in your life? A certain event in your past? 
Journal about the experience of shifting from thinking about the stress to feeling the stress. 
Everyone: use any triggering moment throughout the day to tune into the body.
  • Day 24
    #motherhoodmeditationjourney
    Notice
    Today, notice what type of responses sound in the body, when you are being triggered, challenged, or under pressure with your children. Notice the thoughts that pop up, first, allow them to pass, and then start with the breath and then the body. What’s going on in the body in these moments? Do these reactions remind you of any other times in your life? A certain event in your past?
    Journal about the experience of shifting from thinking about the stress to feeling the stress.
    Everyone: use any triggering moment throughout the day to tune into the body.
  •  29  1  24 May, 2019
  • Take a peek into my work lunchbox! I pack the same haul of nutritious goodness every single workday. The people I work with (who are amazing humans—separate post) would most likely be able to guess what’s on my menu on any given day. We work with the sickest of babies and the workday can sometimes be demanding and unpredictable and I always feel like I’m a better caregiver and coworker when my brain and body are functioning optimally on nutritiously dense snacks(Don’t get me wrong, we love when patients bring us treats, too 🍩🤣). For breakfast, overnight oats are my staple and so easy to prepare the night before to grab on the way out the door. Recipe can be tweaked a million ways but I do equal parts (1/3 cup) old-fashioned rolled oats & unsweetened almond milk, 1 tsp. pure maple syrup, 1 small scoop of peanut or @justins almond butter. Mix and leave in fridge overnight. In the morning, I throw in a spoonful of sliced almonds & a scoop of fresh blueberries and out the door I go! Yum. So filling and satisfying for those busy clinic mornings. For lunch, I always make a salad topped with avocado and then I have a banana and @rxbar vanilla almond butter on top (like dessert 🤤). This @lacolombecoffee is a staple in my everyday favorites! It is cold pressed espresso (3 shots) and frothed milk. Delicious with a strong boost of caffeine without all the added crap that makes you crash. I buy at @traderjoes , target or Amazon. Last but not least... water. I usually take lemon juice or sliced cucumbers and @nuunhydration electrolyte tablets to spruce it up and I challenge myself to drink 3 liters per day. I notice a huge change in my energy levels if I don’t drink water throughout the day. In the late afternoon or if I miss lunch, the @perfectbar are super filling and delicious. Packed full or superfoods and taste like a candy bar 😬. There ya have it! What are your favorite work day snacks/meals?! Maybe someday I’ll be wild and try something new? 🤷🏻‍♀️
  • Take a peek into my work lunchbox! I pack the same haul of nutritious goodness every single workday. The people I work with (who are amazing humans—separate post) would most likely be able to guess what’s on my menu on any given day. We work with the sickest of babies and the workday can sometimes be demanding and unpredictable and I always feel like I’m a better caregiver and coworker when my brain and body are functioning optimally on nutritiously dense snacks(Don’t get me wrong, we love when patients bring us treats, too 🍩🤣). For breakfast, overnight oats are my staple and so easy to prepare the night before to grab on the way out the door. Recipe can be tweaked a million ways but I do equal parts (1/3 cup) old-fashioned rolled oats & unsweetened almond milk, 1 tsp. pure maple syrup, 1 small scoop of peanut or @justins almond butter. Mix and leave in fridge overnight. In the morning, I throw in a spoonful of sliced almonds & a scoop of fresh blueberries and out the door I go! Yum. So filling and satisfying for those busy clinic mornings. For lunch, I always make a salad topped with avocado and then I have a banana and @rxbar vanilla almond butter on top (like dessert 🤤). This @lacolombecoffee is a staple in my everyday favorites! It is cold pressed espresso (3 shots) and frothed milk. Delicious with a strong boost of caffeine without all the added crap that makes you crash. I buy at @traderjoes , target or Amazon. Last but not least... water. I usually take lemon juice or sliced cucumbers and @nuunhydration electrolyte tablets to spruce it up and I challenge myself to drink 3 liters per day. I notice a huge change in my energy levels if I don’t drink water throughout the day. In the late afternoon or if I miss lunch, the @perfectbar are super filling and delicious. Packed full or superfoods and taste like a candy bar 😬. There ya have it! What are your favorite work day snacks/meals?! Maybe someday I’ll be wild and try something new? 🤷🏻‍♀️
  •  57  4  24 May, 2019
  • I gave you my time.

I gave you my body.

I gave you my sleep.

I gave you my prayers, my tears, my nights, and my days. 
There were moments where I felt like I gave you all of me.

Moments when I wondered if there was more of me left to give to you. 
And in those moments when I felt like I had nothing left to give, I was reminded what you give to me. ☀️ .
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You give me a new perspective, a better way to see the world.

You give me a new look at time. 
You teach me that time is precious and each moment counts.

You give me a new body.

One that is strong and powerful and flawed all at once.

You give me a new faith, one that knows I can’t do this life on my own strength.

You give me a new name.

Mama.

This name that gives life new meaning.

You give me a new version of myself.

A version that is more compassionate, caring and hopeful then the one before.

So even when I give you my body, time, sleep, days and my nights, I know that it is worth it.

That motherhood is meaningful.

That these little moments matter. 
That motherhood is full of seasons of giving and moments of receiving. 
That even though this is one of the hardest things I have ever done, it is also the best thing I have ever done. 
God gave me to you, and you to me, and for that I will always be thankful. .
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☀️What’s something you’ve learned about your self as a parent??☀️
  • I gave you my time.

    I gave you my body.

    I gave you my sleep.

    I gave you my prayers, my tears, my nights, and my days.
    There were moments where I felt like I gave you all of me.

    Moments when I wondered if there was more of me left to give to you.
    And in those moments when I felt like I had nothing left to give, I was reminded what you give to me. ☀️ .
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    You give me a new perspective, a better way to see the world.

    You give me a new look at time.
    You teach me that time is precious and each moment counts.

    You give me a new body.

    One that is strong and powerful and flawed all at once.

    You give me a new faith, one that knows I can’t do this life on my own strength.

    You give me a new name.

    Mama.

    This name that gives life new meaning.

    You give me a new version of myself.

    A version that is more compassionate, caring and hopeful then the one before.

    So even when I give you my body, time, sleep, days and my nights, I know that it is worth it.

    That motherhood is meaningful.

    That these little moments matter.
    That motherhood is full of seasons of giving and moments of receiving.
    That even though this is one of the hardest things I have ever done, it is also the best thing I have ever done.
    God gave me to you, and you to me, and for that I will always be thankful. .
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    ☀️What’s something you’ve learned about your self as a parent??☀️
  •  614  21  24 May, 2019
  • This past week has been a real struggle for me emotional wise. I know I’m not the only mom that feels like they’re not doing enough. Today I just don’t want to hold Melody and that’s all she wants! Today I don’t want to take the dogs for a walk! Today I don’t want to do anything but sleep! This is one of those days that just happen out of nowhere! Yes, I’m 8 months postpartum but I’m still recovering! Postpartum depression does NOT have an expiration date! #mywishformoms
  • This past week has been a real struggle for me emotional wise. I know I’m not the only mom that feels like they’re not doing enough. Today I just don’t want to hold Melody and that’s all she wants! Today I don’t want to take the dogs for a walk! Today I don’t want to do anything but sleep! This is one of those days that just happen out of nowhere! Yes, I’m 8 months postpartum but I’m still recovering! Postpartum depression does NOT have an expiration date! #mywishformoms
  •  57  6  23 May, 2019
  • In light of mental health month, I am sharing my vulnerable journey with postpartum depression on the blog. This was a very difficult time in my life, yet I am beyond thankful to be healthy on the other side. Let’s empower women to speak up and get rid of the stereotype. Link in bio #mothergood
  • In light of mental health month, I am sharing my vulnerable journey with postpartum depression on the blog. This was a very difficult time in my life, yet I am beyond thankful to be healthy on the other side. Let’s empower women to speak up and get rid of the stereotype. Link in bio #mothergood
  •  181  20  23 May, 2019
  • The event I’m organizing is one that is very close to my heart. It’s also a lengthy post and very personal so, bare with me. Having suffered from severe postpartum depression with both my children, I know the dark place that some moms find themselves in oh too well.  The first time I was faced with this illness, I didn’t know what was happening. I only “knew” that I should be grateful and happy for the beautiful baby I was gifted. But all I was feeling, was being completely overwhelmed, scared, lonely, sad and so, so, so guilty for feeling all those “inappropriate” feelings. It took 6 months of turmoil until I could take the necessary steps. The guidance came from my sister who through many lengthy phone conversations (she lives abroad) coached me to a state of mind that allowed me to admit to myself that I needed help and that it’s ok to ask for it. I did, and things got better. 
The shame and the guilt I was feeling is not something anyone should have to go through. It is ok not to be ok! The conversation about prenatal and postpartum depression is an essential one that everyone should be part of if we want to change the status quo. Knowing that “oh, my sister felt similarly; my neighbor had a hard time, too; my friend, my yoga instructor, my dentist, my cousin, the lady at the checkout counter; “they all have similar feelings - that will make it so much easier for the scared, sad, lonely, overwhelmed new mom to speak up and ask for help.
#MyWishForMoms is that we’ll get to a point where we can speak about having postpartum depression and anxiety the same way we talk about having the flue. It happens, and it’s ok. Things will get better! 
My Mama & Me mini session event is my way of keeping the dialog going, making it a subject to talk about and raising funds for an organization whose work is vital in providing mental health screening and services for those who might need them.  Join us; let’s break the silence!
  • The event I’m organizing is one that is very close to my heart. It’s also a lengthy post and very personal so, bare with me. Having suffered from severe postpartum depression with both my children, I know the dark place that some moms find themselves in oh too well.  The first time I was faced with this illness, I didn’t know what was happening. I only “knew” that I should be grateful and happy for the beautiful baby I was gifted. But all I was feeling, was being completely overwhelmed, scared, lonely, sad and so, so, so guilty for feeling all those “inappropriate” feelings. It took 6 months of turmoil until I could take the necessary steps. The guidance came from my sister who through many lengthy phone conversations (she lives abroad) coached me to a state of mind that allowed me to admit to myself that I needed help and that it’s ok to ask for it. I did, and things got better.
    The shame and the guilt I was feeling is not something anyone should have to go through. It is ok not to be ok! The conversation about prenatal and postpartum depression is an essential one that everyone should be part of if we want to change the status quo. Knowing that “oh, my sister felt similarly; my neighbor had a hard time, too; my friend, my yoga instructor, my dentist, my cousin, the lady at the checkout counter; “they all have similar feelings - that will make it so much easier for the scared, sad, lonely, overwhelmed new mom to speak up and ask for help.
    #MyWishForMoms is that we’ll get to a point where we can speak about having postpartum depression and anxiety the same way we talk about having the flue. It happens, and it’s ok. Things will get better!
    My Mama & Me mini session event is my way of keeping the dialog going, making it a subject to talk about and raising funds for an organization whose work is vital in providing mental health screening and services for those who might need them.  Join us; let’s break the silence!
  •  32  6  23 May, 2019
  • Find local classes in your area to learn about what to expect during  pregnancy, birth, and everything else that comes after with MommyHelper. Link in bio.
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  •  8  1  23 May, 2019
  • Repost • @theperfectmom 💗

Have you ever noticed that when your baby is born, naturally, much of the focus is on the new baby? How is baby doing? How is she sleeping? Is she latching? Etc. •
I think we need to take a step back and ask the more important question: “Mama, are YOU okay?” How are YOU doing? Are you sleeping? Are you eating? •

And we as moms need to give ourselves permission to say, “I’m not okay. I’m not myself.” •

#MyWishForMoms is that they are asked simple questions and that they would give themselves permission to be able to honestly answer. #MyWishForMoms is that they would see a Doctor sooner and make the necessary changes to step out of the season their in. #MyWishForMoms is that they would be reminded that they aren’t alone. Motherhood is an undeniable journey of love and truth, pure exhaustion and challenging moments, joys and tears. I want you to know that you are supported in all our differences and similarities. #MyWishForMoms is that they would not walk through the struggles, the hard days, the exhaustion, and the agony of anxiety and depression alone. #MyWishForMoms is that they know that their postpartum journey doesn’t define them as a Mom and that it is okay to not be okay. There is no shame in your journey, Mama. 
#healthynewmoms #maternalmentalhealthmatters #perinatalmoodandanxietydisorders #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety #motherhood #momlife #newmom #newbaby #postpartumsupport #breakthestigma
  • Repost • @theperfectmom 💗

    Have you ever noticed that when your baby is born, naturally, much of the focus is on the new baby? How is baby doing? How is she sleeping? Is she latching? Etc. •
    I think we need to take a step back and ask the more important question: “Mama, are YOU okay?” How are YOU doing? Are you sleeping? Are you eating? •

    And we as moms need to give ourselves permission to say, “I’m not okay. I’m not myself.” •

    #MyWishForMoms is that they are asked simple questions and that they would give themselves permission to be able to honestly answer. #MyWishForMoms is that they would see a Doctor sooner and make the necessary changes to step out of the season their in. #MyWishForMoms is that they would be reminded that they aren’t alone. Motherhood is an undeniable journey of love and truth, pure exhaustion and challenging moments, joys and tears. I want you to know that you are supported in all our differences and similarities. #MyWishForMoms is that they would not walk through the struggles, the hard days, the exhaustion, and the agony of anxiety and depression alone. #MyWishForMoms is that they know that their postpartum journey doesn’t define them as a Mom and that it is okay to not be okay. There is no shame in your journey, Mama.
    #healthynewmoms #maternalmentalhealthmatters #perinatalmoodandanxietydisorders #postpartumdepression #postpartumanxiety #motherhood #momlife #newmom #newbaby #postpartumsupport #breakthestigma
  •  171  8  23 May, 2019
  • Life after bringing home a baby is blurry for a while. You forget what day of the week it is, your schedule is all over the place, you’re exhausted. And you expected this to happen. Everyone talks about what a whirlwind the first few weeks are. Everyone warns you about the lack of sleep and the inevitable dark circles under your eyes.

What you maybe don’t expect is the toll this round-the-clock routine and huge life change could have on you emotionally. At least, I didn’t expect it.

With baby #2 due in just over a month, I’ve been reflecting a lot on my first few weeks with Ethan. The overwhelming anxiety I felt took me by surprise. Which is why this time I'm arming myself with an emergency self-care kit — with a few items + action steps to help me cope in a healthy way and feel like myself gain should PPA or PPD sneak back in.

See what's in my kit! Tap @anotherroot, the link is in my bio.

#takingbackpostpartum #postpartumanxiety #postpartumdepression #ppa #ppd #realmoms #momssupportingmoms #reallife #boymom #momlife #mywishformoms #mamasgetreal
  • Life after bringing home a baby is blurry for a while. You forget what day of the week it is, your schedule is all over the place, you’re exhausted. And you expected this to happen. Everyone talks about what a whirlwind the first few weeks are. Everyone warns you about the lack of sleep and the inevitable dark circles under your eyes.

    What you maybe don’t expect is the toll this round-the-clock routine and huge life change could have on you emotionally. At least, I didn’t expect it.

    With baby #2 due in just over a month, I’ve been reflecting a lot on my first few weeks with Ethan. The overwhelming anxiety I felt took me by surprise. Which is why this time I'm arming myself with an emergency self-care kit — with a few items + action steps to help me cope in a healthy way and feel like myself gain should PPA or PPD sneak back in.

    See what's in my kit! Tap @anotherroot, the link is in my bio.

    #takingbackpostpartum #postpartumanxiety #postpartumdepression #ppa #ppd #realmoms #momssupportingmoms #reallife #boymom #momlife #mywishformoms #mamasgetreal
  •  43  2  23 May, 2019
  • An issue I’ve had {and still deal with} is postpartum depression, depression in general and anxiety. This is by NO means easy to overcome! I’m still learning EVERY day! I will continue to give myself permission to have bad days! Those happen but that doesn’t mean it’s over! I’ve been through some crazy emotions including suicidal thoughts! Yes! Hard for me to admit but I have! If you ever feel that way, speak up! .
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I’ve lost people to this and I feel like it’s just not talked about enough! I praise your strength! You have it! I promise! I somehow found strength after dealing with SEVERAL tragedies! Yes! Several! Very close together! You can get through this! Speak up! Please! Reach out to someone! Even me! I may be no one to you but if I can help one person that would be amazing. Even if reading this post helps you, that’s great too! Love you all! 😘✌️
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#speakup #suicideprevention #lovelife #beafighter #believeinyourinnerbadass #unleashyourinnerbadass #suicideawareness #mentalhealthawareness #mywishformoms #tiredasamother #busymomlife #strongmoms
  • An issue I’ve had {and still deal with} is postpartum depression, depression in general and anxiety. This is by NO means easy to overcome! I’m still learning EVERY day! I will continue to give myself permission to have bad days! Those happen but that doesn’t mean it’s over! I’ve been through some crazy emotions including suicidal thoughts! Yes! Hard for me to admit but I have! If you ever feel that way, speak up! .
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    I’ve lost people to this and I feel like it’s just not talked about enough! I praise your strength! You have it! I promise! I somehow found strength after dealing with SEVERAL tragedies! Yes! Several! Very close together! You can get through this! Speak up! Please! Reach out to someone! Even me! I may be no one to you but if I can help one person that would be amazing. Even if reading this post helps you, that’s great too! Love you all! 😘✌️
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    #speakup #suicideprevention #lovelife #beafighter #believeinyourinnerbadass #unleashyourinnerbadass #suicideawareness #mentalhealthawareness #mywishformoms #tiredasamother #busymomlife #strongmoms
  •  12  0  23 May, 2019
  • #tbt #maternalmentalhealth #mentalhealthawarenessmonth I didn't want to let the month pass without sharing my experience - this post is from my personal acct on Dec 22 '18, days before Christmas and 2 weeks after I had Rebyl. I escaped to the beach, my happy place, to try and gather myself from the overwhelming feeling of being a new mom
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I was in recovery from an emergency c-section, after I was diagnosed with HELLP syndrome the morning I went into labor. I was taking placenta pills in hopes they would help regulate my hormones post labor. I had postpartum carpel tunnel and struggled in pain to pick up, hold and feed my baby, or do anything else with my hands. And then, there was everything that is nursing
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Ron and my parents, doctors and friends were all super incredibly supportive and said I was doing great as a new mom. But I didn't feel that way
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There were so many emotions - thankful that my dreams of being a mom came true, confused about why I was randomly upset, afraid that I couldn't control my crying, and mad bc how dare I be sad about what I wanted for so long. I was all over the place. I cried the entire time on the beach this night and prayed nonstop
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Between my faith, my family, friends & #tiumom crew, talking to doctors, self-care (sometimes forced, like this pictured escape) and eventual exercise, I carried on - 1 minute, hr, and day at a time
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#mywishformoms is to know that you are not alone and there is help. The flood of hormones are normal, all the physical and emotional changes are real. You don't have to navigate it all alone. #momstrong has never meant more, and I am beyond grateful for the army of women that stuck with me through the new mom highs and lows. #endthestigma and speak up for your mental health. I/we are here to support you, and yes, you are doing an amazing job! Xoxo - K 💋
  • #tbt #maternalmentalhealth #mentalhealthawarenessmonth I didn't want to let the month pass without sharing my experience - this post is from my personal acct on Dec 22 '18, days before Christmas and 2 weeks after I had Rebyl. I escaped to the beach, my happy place, to try and gather myself from the overwhelming feeling of being a new mom
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    I was in recovery from an emergency c-section, after I was diagnosed with HELLP syndrome the morning I went into labor. I was taking placenta pills in hopes they would help regulate my hormones post labor. I had postpartum carpel tunnel and struggled in pain to pick up, hold and feed my baby, or do anything else with my hands. And then, there was everything that is nursing
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    Ron and my parents, doctors and friends were all super incredibly supportive and said I was doing great as a new mom. But I didn't feel that way
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    There were so many emotions - thankful that my dreams of being a mom came true, confused about why I was randomly upset, afraid that I couldn't control my crying, and mad bc how dare I be sad about what I wanted for so long. I was all over the place. I cried the entire time on the beach this night and prayed nonstop
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    Between my faith, my family, friends & #tiumom crew, talking to doctors, self-care (sometimes forced, like this pictured escape) and eventual exercise, I carried on - 1 minute, hr, and day at a time
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    #mywishformoms is to know that you are not alone and there is help. The flood of hormones are normal, all the physical and emotional changes are real. You don't have to navigate it all alone. #momstrong has never meant more, and I am beyond grateful for the army of women that stuck with me through the new mom highs and lows. #endthestigma and speak up for your mental health. I/we are here to support you, and yes, you are doing an amazing job! Xoxo - K 💋
  •  74  29  23 May, 2019
  • Day 23 #motherhoodmeditationjourney

Opportunity

Today I encourage you to examine the opportunities that may lie in your resistances to your children and life. 
Look back especially at day 10, 11, and 14. What is being triggered in you by your children with notable frequency or pattern? (We will continue coming back to this for the next few days.) I encourage you to examine the opportunity for your own growth right there. 
Today, try and determine what it would look like to adopt a shift in being that might not be so responsive, or triggered. 
Close your eyes, think back to a moment where you’ve been triggered. Imagine the version of you who has the response that supports your vision of the mother you aspire. What does this version of you do? How does she respond? What new traits do you have? What must you grow in yourself to sit with these triggers, or your children’s different behaviors or their own things. For example, what might you have to become to accept your child’s disability completely? Compassion? Patience? What might you have to grow in yourself to accept your child’s explosive and often confrontational spirit? Love? What in you will be enhanced to best handle the boisterous toddler who wants to play with you after you’ve worked all day? Presence? 
And then ask yourself: might my own children’s unique essences be an opportunity for my own growth? 
Everyone: replace the triggers associated with children and reflect the same on the challenging aspects or tragedies in your life and how and what they bring up in you similarly.
  • Day 23 #motherhoodmeditationjourney

    Opportunity

    Today I encourage you to examine the opportunities that may lie in your resistances to your children and life.
    Look back especially at day 10, 11, and 14. What is being triggered in you by your children with notable frequency or pattern? (We will continue coming back to this for the next few days.) I encourage you to examine the opportunity for your own growth right there.
    Today, try and determine what it would look like to adopt a shift in being that might not be so responsive, or triggered.
    Close your eyes, think back to a moment where you’ve been triggered. Imagine the version of you who has the response that supports your vision of the mother you aspire. What does this version of you do? How does she respond? What new traits do you have? What must you grow in yourself to sit with these triggers, or your children’s different behaviors or their own things. For example, what might you have to become to accept your child’s disability completely? Compassion? Patience? What might you have to grow in yourself to accept your child’s explosive and often confrontational spirit? Love? What in you will be enhanced to best handle the boisterous toddler who wants to play with you after you’ve worked all day? Presence?
    And then ask yourself: might my own children’s unique essences be an opportunity for my own growth?
    Everyone: replace the triggers associated with children and reflect the same on the challenging aspects or tragedies in your life and how and what they bring up in you similarly.
  •  17  5  23 May, 2019
  • In life making transformations isn’t always about the physical changes. More often than not the biggest and most valuable changes come from within. In nursing school I learned just how tough life can be. I learned the value of not letting a negative mindset lead me in the wrong direction. All the hardships that I faced then became the pillar I lean on today.  Good days and bad days will always be part of life. Anyone who says they only have good days is lying to you. Of course I am a total believer that you can always find good in the bad. In fact, most of the best lessons I have learned were the result of some very BIG mistakes and some VERY unfortunate events.  Depression and anxiety are normal feelings associated with life. I haven’t met a person who has not felt or known one of these emotions. MOST will however choose not to name them or embrace them because of the stigma. I believe Mental Health is of utmost importance and it means taking the time to really understand and become intimate with your thoughts and emotions.  As a nurse I have seen how deeply rooted these emotions can get and how when we do not know how to address them or how to respond to them we can get swallowed up by them. Coping is a skill. A skill that needs constant exercise and acknowledgement. It is much like showing up to workout or eat healthy. You have to work at it and you have to find your BEST skills to reset your mental state.  I have always had some anxiety. I worry constantly about all the bad things that could happen. When I leave it unchecked it is crippling. Becoming a Mom has tested my coping skills. I have had to refocus on the things that I know will comfort me and remind me that CONTROL is not mine to have.  In the last year I have been a little out of touch with my faith. I have not allowed it to carry me. My new struggles made me realize that it isn't my job to do it ALONE. Instead I must allow myself to be guided and surrounded.  There is no ONE way to master coping. There is no ONE answer. Learning to listen and nurture your mind is a process. It is journey that will allow you to become free from those things that cripple you.
#mywishformoms
  • In life making transformations isn’t always about the physical changes. More often than not the biggest and most valuable changes come from within. In nursing school I learned just how tough life can be. I learned the value of not letting a negative mindset lead me in the wrong direction. All the hardships that I faced then became the pillar I lean on today. Good days and bad days will always be part of life. Anyone who says they only have good days is lying to you. Of course I am a total believer that you can always find good in the bad. In fact, most of the best lessons I have learned were the result of some very BIG mistakes and some VERY unfortunate events. Depression and anxiety are normal feelings associated with life. I haven’t met a person who has not felt or known one of these emotions. MOST will however choose not to name them or embrace them because of the stigma. I believe Mental Health is of utmost importance and it means taking the time to really understand and become intimate with your thoughts and emotions. As a nurse I have seen how deeply rooted these emotions can get and how when we do not know how to address them or how to respond to them we can get swallowed up by them. Coping is a skill. A skill that needs constant exercise and acknowledgement. It is much like showing up to workout or eat healthy. You have to work at it and you have to find your BEST skills to reset your mental state. I have always had some anxiety. I worry constantly about all the bad things that could happen. When I leave it unchecked it is crippling. Becoming a Mom has tested my coping skills. I have had to refocus on the things that I know will comfort me and remind me that CONTROL is not mine to have. In the last year I have been a little out of touch with my faith. I have not allowed it to carry me. My new struggles made me realize that it isn't my job to do it ALONE. Instead I must allow myself to be guided and surrounded. There is no ONE way to master coping. There is no ONE answer. Learning to listen and nurture your mind is a process. It is journey that will allow you to become free from those things that cripple you.
    #mywishformoms
  •  28  1  23 May, 2019
  • The outpouring of love, support & encouragement has been overwhelming in a great way!  I know I haven’t gotten back to every person who has reached out ... I want to say Thank you for the kind words, the stories reminding me I’m not alone, the offers to just come and hold a hand or take the kids off my hands for a bit. You are all amazing! You are all appreciated. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. 💙
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• {sign from @hobbylobby}
  • The outpouring of love, support & encouragement has been overwhelming in a great way! I know I haven’t gotten back to every person who has reached out ... I want to say Thank you for the kind words, the stories reminding me I’m not alone, the offers to just come and hold a hand or take the kids off my hands for a bit. You are all amazing! You are all appreciated. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. 💙

    • {sign from @hobbylobby}
  •  40  5  23 May, 2019
  • Ladies— May is mental health awareness month. So let’s talk. As if life weren’t already tough enough at times, add in roller coaster hormones, a tiny life that is completely dependent on you, living on an amount of sleep that is barely humanly possible, and love it or hate it—a new, stretched out mom bod that aches and does weird things for months after birth that no one tells you about. Don’t get me wrong, I loved being pregnant. And God-willing, I’ll choose to do it again. But childbirth and the post-partum period are brutal! The physical issues are for another day. Postpartum anxiety and depression are real. And lonely. And sad. And scary. I hate even admitting it, but after the birth of both of boys, I experienced MONTHS as a shell of myself. Elated about being a mom and happy on the outside, but would cry in the middle of the night, would  catastrophize things in my life to the point I would convince myself horrible things were going to happen, and was just a nervous wreck about not being there to see them grow up. It seems so weird to even put into words now and is slightly unexplainable after the fact. At my postpartum checkups, no one asked me these questions. Physically, I was healing, so that seemed sufficient. I assumed this was normal “new mommy” fear, and I coped the best I could. I felt selfish for feeling this way and hid my feelings because I was so consumed by fear and it sounded crazy when I tried to put it into words. Mommas— I could write a novel about postpartum anxiety and if just ONE mom benefits from this small excerpt and seeks help, it will be worth sharing.  Postpartum mental health is not talked about enough. Let’s open up the conversation and empower the mommas around us! I’m here for you 💙
  • Ladies— May is mental health awareness month. So let’s talk. As if life weren’t already tough enough at times, add in roller coaster hormones, a tiny life that is completely dependent on you, living on an amount of sleep that is barely humanly possible, and love it or hate it—a new, stretched out mom bod that aches and does weird things for months after birth that no one tells you about. Don’t get me wrong, I loved being pregnant. And God-willing, I’ll choose to do it again. But childbirth and the post-partum period are brutal! The physical issues are for another day. Postpartum anxiety and depression are real. And lonely. And sad. And scary. I hate even admitting it, but after the birth of both of boys, I experienced MONTHS as a shell of myself. Elated about being a mom and happy on the outside, but would cry in the middle of the night, would catastrophize things in my life to the point I would convince myself horrible things were going to happen, and was just a nervous wreck about not being there to see them grow up. It seems so weird to even put into words now and is slightly unexplainable after the fact. At my postpartum checkups, no one asked me these questions. Physically, I was healing, so that seemed sufficient. I assumed this was normal “new mommy” fear, and I coped the best I could. I felt selfish for feeling this way and hid my feelings because I was so consumed by fear and it sounded crazy when I tried to put it into words. Mommas— I could write a novel about postpartum anxiety and if just ONE mom benefits from this small excerpt and seeks help, it will be worth sharing. Postpartum mental health is not talked about enough. Let’s open up the conversation and empower the mommas around us! I’m here for you 💙
  •  190  31  23 May, 2019
  • Quiet Night Inspiration Post #12: I thought that maybe I had reached the end of the "quiet night inspiration series" but the gifts of depth keep coming so I'm going to keep going. On Saturday I'm going to be a part of a very special show organized by @michellehartneyart called "Mother Load." The evening will feature art inspired by diverse issues surrounding reproduction. There will be visual art, dance, poetry and music- all powerful expressions of art bringing forth activism, awareness and healing. I'm honored to play a few songs from Quiet Night. The record has been out for a little over a month and sharing how much the work has helped to heal wounds from childhood and shame surrounding my experience as a mother has been transformative. Up until recently I have stopped short of divulging an important detail because admitting and accepting it still brought up shame and fear. But because of displaying my vulnerability so openly through this project I am no longer afraid of the fact that I was suicidal during my struggle with postpartum depression. As recently as two weeks ago I denied it, saying "it never got that bad." And indeed, my mind never went into detail about how it might happen but I repeatedly thought to myself, "it would be better for everyone if I just went away. If I were gone and out of the picture everyone would be happier and able to move on with their lives." If I had not gotten treatment I believe these thoughts would have grown and developed further. I have kept this to myself because it was an emblem of the deep shame and guilt I felt for not being able to take care of myself or my child in those first two months. But now those thoughts have lost their power. Without really being aware of it I am continually accepting and forgiving myself on a deeper layer through my creative practice. That seems so obviously possible but it's never been so evident in my life. Thank you for listening, talking, reading and giving me the space to understand myself more fully. I'm looking at you @culturalrepro @selinatrepp @jordandmartins @christylemaster @shellz_bellez @chewbaccasbaby @marzenaabrahamik @nyssacare @mialilyclarke
  • Quiet Night Inspiration Post #12: I thought that maybe I had reached the end of the "quiet night inspiration series" but the gifts of depth keep coming so I'm going to keep going. On Saturday I'm going to be a part of a very special show organized by @michellehartneyart called "Mother Load." The evening will feature art inspired by diverse issues surrounding reproduction. There will be visual art, dance, poetry and music- all powerful expressions of art bringing forth activism, awareness and healing. I'm honored to play a few songs from Quiet Night. The record has been out for a little over a month and sharing how much the work has helped to heal wounds from childhood and shame surrounding my experience as a mother has been transformative. Up until recently I have stopped short of divulging an important detail because admitting and accepting it still brought up shame and fear. But because of displaying my vulnerability so openly through this project I am no longer afraid of the fact that I was suicidal during my struggle with postpartum depression. As recently as two weeks ago I denied it, saying "it never got that bad." And indeed, my mind never went into detail about how it might happen but I repeatedly thought to myself, "it would be better for everyone if I just went away. If I were gone and out of the picture everyone would be happier and able to move on with their lives." If I had not gotten treatment I believe these thoughts would have grown and developed further. I have kept this to myself because it was an emblem of the deep shame and guilt I felt for not being able to take care of myself or my child in those first two months. But now those thoughts have lost their power. Without really being aware of it I am continually accepting and forgiving myself on a deeper layer through my creative practice. That seems so obviously possible but it's never been so evident in my life. Thank you for listening, talking, reading and giving me the space to understand myself more fully. I'm looking at you @culturalrepro @selinatrepp @jordandmartins @christylemaster @shellz_bellez @chewbaccasbaby @marzenaabrahamik @nyssacare @mialilyclarke
  •  94  13  22 May, 2019
  • #Repost from our founder, @pmhadvocate with @make_repost
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Four years ago I woke up and God told me that I would need the prayers of many to share my story. Then, my mind proceeded to spiral out of control and I was about to face the toughest battle of my life. I was suicidal, delusional, paranoid and literally thought Jesus was returning so vividly. Either that, or I was about to die but there were certain tasks that needed to be completed first. I spent two weeks in a locked psych unit with a 24/7 sitter to maintain my safety and the safety of others. Wes could only visit me for 30 minutes at a time , 3 times a day. Sometimes I didn’t recognize him. All I wanted was to be home. It was scary. I was 45 minutes away from UNC and spent two weeks in what I thought was hell on earth. I had no discharge meeting to discuss safety or transitioning home. I finally went home and couldn’t drive, work, be with my kids by myself or be by myself. Everyday went to 3 hours of intensive outpatient therapy. But, eventually I got fed up, angry and tired of it. I tried to jump out of Wesley’s truck. Then got evaluated at the psych unit and sent home with instructions for Wes to remove the gun in the house and hide the knives. I guess that’s a safe plan? I always listened to professionals and the treatment plan (even though at times they didn’t think so and had Wes watch me swallow all my meds and even had one in dissolvable form). I couldn’t remember most of my inpatient stay and I consider that a blessing. The road to recovery was tough. It didn’t take me long to realize that this was not a story to keep to myself.... God graciously brought me through a tough battle and I survived postpartum psychosis, my children survived. I started to share my story and it has been therapeutic. It’s incredible the women (and men) that speak up to share theirs too. 👉🏻Finished in comments

#everymomeverytime #useyourmomvoice #withoutmom #cherishedmom #itstimetosupportmoms #mywishformoms #postpartumpsychosis #speakup
  • #Repost from our founder, @pmhadvocate with @make_repost
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    Four years ago I woke up and God told me that I would need the prayers of many to share my story. Then, my mind proceeded to spiral out of control and I was about to face the toughest battle of my life. I was suicidal, delusional, paranoid and literally thought Jesus was returning so vividly. Either that, or I was about to die but there were certain tasks that needed to be completed first. I spent two weeks in a locked psych unit with a 24/7 sitter to maintain my safety and the safety of others. Wes could only visit me for 30 minutes at a time , 3 times a day. Sometimes I didn’t recognize him. All I wanted was to be home. It was scary. I was 45 minutes away from UNC and spent two weeks in what I thought was hell on earth. I had no discharge meeting to discuss safety or transitioning home. I finally went home and couldn’t drive, work, be with my kids by myself or be by myself. Everyday went to 3 hours of intensive outpatient therapy. But, eventually I got fed up, angry and tired of it. I tried to jump out of Wesley’s truck. Then got evaluated at the psych unit and sent home with instructions for Wes to remove the gun in the house and hide the knives. I guess that’s a safe plan? I always listened to professionals and the treatment plan (even though at times they didn’t think so and had Wes watch me swallow all my meds and even had one in dissolvable form). I couldn’t remember most of my inpatient stay and I consider that a blessing. The road to recovery was tough. It didn’t take me long to realize that this was not a story to keep to myself.... God graciously brought me through a tough battle and I survived postpartum psychosis, my children survived. I started to share my story and it has been therapeutic. It’s incredible the women (and men) that speak up to share theirs too. 👉🏻Finished in comments

    #everymomeverytime #useyourmomvoice #withoutmom #cherishedmom #itstimetosupportmoms #mywishformoms #postpartumpsychosis #speakup
  •  13  2  22 May, 2019
  • Four years ago I woke up and God told me that I would need the prayers of many to share my story. Then, my mind proceeded to spiral out of control and I was about to face the toughest battle of my life. I was suicidal, delusional, paranoid and literally thought Jesus was returning so vividly. Either that, or I was about to die but there were certain tasks that needed to be completed first. I spent two weeks in a locked psych unit with a 24/7 sitter to maintain my safety and the safety of others. Wes could only visit me for 30 minutes at a time , 3 times a day. Sometimes I didn’t recognize him. All I wanted was to be home. It was scary. I was 45 minutes away from UNC and spent two weeks in what I thought was hell on earth. I had no discharge meeting to discuss safety or transitioning home. I finally went home and couldn’t drive, work, be with my kids by myself or be by myself. Everyday went to 3 hours of intensive outpatient therapy. But, eventually I got fed up, angry and tired of it. I tried to jump out of Wesley’s truck. Then got evaluated at the psych unit and sent home with instructions for Wes to remove the gun in the house and hide the knives. I guess that’s a safe plan? I always listened to professionals and the treatment plan (even though at times they didn’t think so and had Wes watch me swallow all my meds and even had one in dissolvable form). I couldn’t remember most of my inpatient stay and I consider that a blessing. The road to recovery was tough. It didn’t take me long to realize that this was not a story to keep to myself.... God graciously brought me through a tough battle and I survived postpartum psychosis, my children survived. I started to share my story and it has been therapeutic. It’s incredible the women (and men) that speak up to share theirs too. 👉🏻Finished in comments

#everymomeverytime #useyourmomvoice #withoutmom #cherishedmom #itstimetosupportmoms #mywishformoms #postpartumpsychosis #speakup
  • Four years ago I woke up and God told me that I would need the prayers of many to share my story. Then, my mind proceeded to spiral out of control and I was about to face the toughest battle of my life. I was suicidal, delusional, paranoid and literally thought Jesus was returning so vividly. Either that, or I was about to die but there were certain tasks that needed to be completed first. I spent two weeks in a locked psych unit with a 24/7 sitter to maintain my safety and the safety of others. Wes could only visit me for 30 minutes at a time , 3 times a day. Sometimes I didn’t recognize him. All I wanted was to be home. It was scary. I was 45 minutes away from UNC and spent two weeks in what I thought was hell on earth. I had no discharge meeting to discuss safety or transitioning home. I finally went home and couldn’t drive, work, be with my kids by myself or be by myself. Everyday went to 3 hours of intensive outpatient therapy. But, eventually I got fed up, angry and tired of it. I tried to jump out of Wesley’s truck. Then got evaluated at the psych unit and sent home with instructions for Wes to remove the gun in the house and hide the knives. I guess that’s a safe plan? I always listened to professionals and the treatment plan (even though at times they didn’t think so and had Wes watch me swallow all my meds and even had one in dissolvable form). I couldn’t remember most of my inpatient stay and I consider that a blessing. The road to recovery was tough. It didn’t take me long to realize that this was not a story to keep to myself.... God graciously brought me through a tough battle and I survived postpartum psychosis, my children survived. I started to share my story and it has been therapeutic. It’s incredible the women (and men) that speak up to share theirs too. 👉🏻Finished in comments

    #everymomeverytime #useyourmomvoice #withoutmom #cherishedmom #itstimetosupportmoms #mywishformoms #postpartumpsychosis #speakup
  •  22  4  22 May, 2019
  • Hold him a little longer, rock him a little more, read him another story, let him sleep on your shoulder, rejoice in his happy smile, he is only a little boy for such a little time✨ // Mi chivito hermoso me trae loca, de amor, de cansancio, loca de loca, loca de todo!🤪 que fácil es disfrutarlos mientras duermen no? Y los extrañas tanto, y los ves y piensas en que ya quieres que despierte, y luego despierta y dices “chiiiiingada, ósea no ya ya, en un rato más!” 😂😅 les pasa? A mi si! Seguido! Siempre que despierta digo “chiiiingada, y no aproveche para ir al baño, ni comer, ni bañarme, pues que madres hicee?!” 🤦🏻‍♀️😅😂 pero no puedo mentir, también lo disfruto mucho despierto, entre gritos, regaños y juegos, nos disfrutamos mucho. 🎉🤹🏻‍♀️🎪🎨 Que piensan ustedes cuando los ven dormidos? LAS LEO ❤️
  • Hold him a little longer, rock him a little more, read him another story, let him sleep on your shoulder, rejoice in his happy smile, he is only a little boy for such a little time✨ // Mi chivito hermoso me trae loca, de amor, de cansancio, loca de loca, loca de todo!🤪 que fácil es disfrutarlos mientras duermen no? Y los extrañas tanto, y los ves y piensas en que ya quieres que despierte, y luego despierta y dices “chiiiiingada, ósea no ya ya, en un rato más!” 😂😅 les pasa? A mi si! Seguido! Siempre que despierta digo “chiiiingada, y no aproveche para ir al baño, ni comer, ni bañarme, pues que madres hicee?!” 🤦🏻‍♀️😅😂 pero no puedo mentir, también lo disfruto mucho despierto, entre gritos, regaños y juegos, nos disfrutamos mucho. 🎉🤹🏻‍♀️🎪🎨 Que piensan ustedes cuando los ven dormidos? LAS LEO ❤️
  •  147  12  22 May, 2019
  • 🗣Fact: Black moms suffer from postpartum depression, which affects more women than breast cancer annually — almost twice as many.
🗣Fact: Most moms don't get the treatment and support they need to not only survive but also thrive.
That's why we're teaming up with @ahntoday #MyWishForMoms campaign to break the silence! #partner #linkinbio #ppd #postpartum
  • 🗣Fact: Black moms suffer from postpartum depression, which affects more women than breast cancer annually — almost twice as many.
    🗣Fact: Most moms don't get the treatment and support they need to not only survive but also thrive.
    That's why we're teaming up with @ahntoday #MyWishForMoms campaign to break the silence! #partner #linkinbio #ppd #postpartum
  •  12  4  22 May, 2019
  • It’s Maternal Mental Health Month and @chrissyteigen has asked moms to join her in shedding light on post partum depression & anxiety. Today marks 13 weeks since I’ve had my baby in my arms. It’s the shortest relationship I’ve had thus far but I can truly say it has been the most satisfying. Throughout my pregnancy I suffered with anxiety because I kept thinking of all the mothers who died during childbirth while I was pregnant & I didn’t want to be one of those statistics. I also had to have an emergency c section which I, in no way, envisioned would have to happen so I wasn’t prepared for the after effects. The pain, the way my body looked, the way I felt all added to me feeling very detached from my baby & even myself. In the first few weeks I couldn’t lift my baby or hold him for long periods, I had problems with breastfeeding & my baby was even hospitalized for a lung infection. I cannot tell you how traumatizing those first 8 weeks were. I cried every night & during the day I lived in fear that something was going to happen to my baby. Thank God for my mom & husband who stayed by my side every step of the way. It’s been 13 weeks & I still have not looked at my scar, I just can’t, and I still can’t shake the fear. But some women are going through more than I did. And I want to tell you mommas that it’s ok. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry or detached. Our body & hormones have changed & are changing so much but it’s a process & it will take time. Get help if you need to, talk, write, sing, dance - do whatever you need to do to help yourself & to learn to love yourself again. Here I am with my little baby lump & I’m still not recovered, I still struggle to calm my emotions, I’m still not used to seeing my body in it’s post partum state, I’m still trying to balance work, husband, baby & me time, but for me, seeing my baby’s smile makes it all worth it. Don’t compare yourself to anyone & know that your journey is unique & you’re not alone in this fight. Stay strong, keep motivated & know that you can do this mama! And yes, my little prince is peeing on me while we try to look cute in this pic & I won’t have it any other way! #MyWishforMoms
  • It’s Maternal Mental Health Month and @chrissyteigen has asked moms to join her in shedding light on post partum depression & anxiety. Today marks 13 weeks since I’ve had my baby in my arms. It’s the shortest relationship I’ve had thus far but I can truly say it has been the most satisfying. Throughout my pregnancy I suffered with anxiety because I kept thinking of all the mothers who died during childbirth while I was pregnant & I didn’t want to be one of those statistics. I also had to have an emergency c section which I, in no way, envisioned would have to happen so I wasn’t prepared for the after effects. The pain, the way my body looked, the way I felt all added to me feeling very detached from my baby & even myself. In the first few weeks I couldn’t lift my baby or hold him for long periods, I had problems with breastfeeding & my baby was even hospitalized for a lung infection. I cannot tell you how traumatizing those first 8 weeks were. I cried every night & during the day I lived in fear that something was going to happen to my baby. Thank God for my mom & husband who stayed by my side every step of the way. It’s been 13 weeks & I still have not looked at my scar, I just can’t, and I still can’t shake the fear. But some women are going through more than I did. And I want to tell you mommas that it’s ok. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry or detached. Our body & hormones have changed & are changing so much but it’s a process & it will take time. Get help if you need to, talk, write, sing, dance - do whatever you need to do to help yourself & to learn to love yourself again. Here I am with my little baby lump & I’m still not recovered, I still struggle to calm my emotions, I’m still not used to seeing my body in it’s post partum state, I’m still trying to balance work, husband, baby & me time, but for me, seeing my baby’s smile makes it all worth it. Don’t compare yourself to anyone & know that your journey is unique & you’re not alone in this fight. Stay strong, keep motivated & know that you can do this mama! And yes, my little prince is peeing on me while we try to look cute in this pic & I won’t have it any other way! #MyWishforMoms
  •  184  9  22 May, 2019
  • Day 22 #motherhoodmeditationjourney 
Surrender 
Today, your true beginning, where I ask you to completely relax into who you are. Surrender to all the things. All the things you’ve brought to your awareness over the past few days. Realize they are not to be resisted or ignored. Realize there is peace and an important knowing to be had if you can sit with their existence. Realize our most neurotic tendencies too, have a piece of our story, and it’s importance to listen there too.

Also, surrender to all the other things, the absolutely breathtaking and beautiful things. Surrender to you, all of you, just for today. Let your mantra be: I surrender to every bit of me. Say something like this all day, to the best moments and to the worst moments. Use it to answer the most frustrating moments. Answer all of today, all of you, with surrender. 
With surrender and release, we begin again. Today is just a practice. So when you become stuck or frustrated, because you may, just notice, have patience, use your breath to settle yourself, say your mantra or phrase and then begin again. 
@jessica_motherbeing
  • Day 22 #motherhoodmeditationjourney
    Surrender
    Today, your true beginning, where I ask you to completely relax into who you are. Surrender to all the things. All the things you’ve brought to your awareness over the past few days. Realize they are not to be resisted or ignored. Realize there is peace and an important knowing to be had if you can sit with their existence. Realize our most neurotic tendencies too, have a piece of our story, and it’s importance to listen there too.

    Also, surrender to all the other things, the absolutely breathtaking and beautiful things. Surrender to you, all of you, just for today. Let your mantra be: I surrender to every bit of me. Say something like this all day, to the best moments and to the worst moments. Use it to answer the most frustrating moments. Answer all of today, all of you, with surrender.
    With surrender and release, we begin again. Today is just a practice. So when you become stuck or frustrated, because you may, just notice, have patience, use your breath to settle yourself, say your mantra or phrase and then begin again.
    @jessica_motherbeing
  •  34  3  22 May, 2019
  • 4 months ago, you came into my life and completely rocked it.  I have never felt so much fear in my life seeing you in pain, already thinking of the worst things while only being allowed to hold you and be with you for a few hours. Instead of feeling my heart become whole the moment you came into the world, I felt my heart break. It’s never what we expect it to be and we never know what is going to happen, may it be good or bad, may we pray for things to go a certain way..sometimes the initial moment of meeting our baby isn’t what we hoped for, but God am I thankful she got through it. My first few hours, days, weeks, even months of motherhood were so hard.. i was in constant feelings of fear, and guilt, and uneasiness but Jaiden is the strongest human being i have ever known, & that strength helped ME get through it. I will never forget,  I was in the hospital, crying my eyes out realizing i would have to go home to an empty crib & a nurse came to me and told me to read Psalms 91 : “The Lord says if someone trusts me, I will save them. I will protect my followers who call to me for help. When my followers call to me, I will answer them. I will be with them when they are in trouble. I will rescue them and honor them. I will give my followers a long life and show them my power to save.” I read this over and over again when I feel afraid.. you never really feel fear until someone else’s life is in your hands. When you become a parent it is a completely different feeling, and i can’t even explain how thankful i am for every single breathe she takes. ** to all you mamas & papas out there, you all are so effing amazing, you created a life & you choose to live for it every single day. you choose to show strength for that baby even when you feel weak, you choose to laugh & hug & kiss them even when you’re upset, you choose to get up even when you feel defeated.. if no one is appreciating you today, I want to tell you.. YOU ARE DOING SO GOOD & I KNOW YOURE DOING EVERYTHING YOU CAN & THAT BABY OF YOURS.. THEY LOVE YOU SO MUCH.
  • 4 months ago, you came into my life and completely rocked it. I have never felt so much fear in my life seeing you in pain, already thinking of the worst things while only being allowed to hold you and be with you for a few hours. Instead of feeling my heart become whole the moment you came into the world, I felt my heart break. It’s never what we expect it to be and we never know what is going to happen, may it be good or bad, may we pray for things to go a certain way..sometimes the initial moment of meeting our baby isn’t what we hoped for, but God am I thankful she got through it. My first few hours, days, weeks, even months of motherhood were so hard.. i was in constant feelings of fear, and guilt, and uneasiness but Jaiden is the strongest human being i have ever known, & that strength helped ME get through it. I will never forget, I was in the hospital, crying my eyes out realizing i would have to go home to an empty crib & a nurse came to me and told me to read Psalms 91 : “The Lord says if someone trusts me, I will save them. I will protect my followers who call to me for help. When my followers call to me, I will answer them. I will be with them when they are in trouble. I will rescue them and honor them. I will give my followers a long life and show them my power to save.” I read this over and over again when I feel afraid.. you never really feel fear until someone else’s life is in your hands. When you become a parent it is a completely different feeling, and i can’t even explain how thankful i am for every single breathe she takes. ** to all you mamas & papas out there, you all are so effing amazing, you created a life & you choose to live for it every single day. you choose to show strength for that baby even when you feel weak, you choose to laugh & hug & kiss them even when you’re upset, you choose to get up even when you feel defeated.. if no one is appreciating you today, I want to tell you.. YOU ARE DOING SO GOOD & I KNOW YOURE DOING EVERYTHING YOU CAN & THAT BABY OF YOURS.. THEY LOVE YOU SO MUCH.
  •  70  5  22 May, 2019

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  • I don't remember people telling Nick and I how tough it would be the first year as parents. It almost seemed like a big secret nobody wanted to share until we were officially part of the "Parent Hood". Because as soon as that precious baby hit our arms,  I swear the flood gates opened up! "Get ready for exhaustion." "You will never sleep again." "Your life as you knew it is over."
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  • I don't remember people telling Nick and I how tough it would be the first year as parents. It almost seemed like a big secret nobody wanted to share until we were officially part of the "Parent Hood". Because as soon as that precious baby hit our arms, I swear the flood gates opened up! "Get ready for exhaustion." "You will never sleep again." "Your life as you knew it is over."
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    While I appreciated the sentiments, it also felt like a lot, a little too late. So in the spirit of helping others, I decided to put together a quick post with the top 10 things I believe every soon-to-be parent should know before baby arrives. Read it and share it here 👉🏼 melb.co/Top10BeforeBaby {link in bio} and tag any new or soon-to-be parents you know in the comments below.
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    I feel like there is so much more I could say, but I also want to hear from you. What questions do you have? Or if you’re a parent already is there anything you would you add? One thing’s for sure, this parenting thing ain’t for the faint of heart 😅 #meetmel #meetmiles #milestones #boymom #oneyearold #mywishformoms
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  • This is what it felt like having my baby. It wasn’t love at first sight. After my epidural and my first spinal block failed, I had a second spinal block before the c-section  which made me numb from my head to my toes, to the point where I was unable to turn my head to see my son for the first time. During the last 40 mins of surgery I was nauseous and disoriented and crying and reaching out for him but couldn’t see or touch him. My husband got to hold him, watch him get his first bath while I was laying in another room where a nurse repeatedly pushed onto my incision area asking “does this hurt?” I was told to stand up and walk 12 hours after having major abdominal surgery. When my sister in law came to take photos of the baby I was so disgusted by my appearance that I refused to be in one single photo. It was like I wasn’t even there. A week later I hemorrhaged and was in the ER for 9 hours with my 8 day old baby and then a subsequent 24 hour stay where my husband refused to leave me and also refused to give the baby to someone else. He took care of two completely helpless human beings in the hospital by himself. During this hospital stay I was unable to breastfeed due to the pain, which triggered my body to stop producing milk completely. My husband continued taking care of us both for weeks while I recovered, I couldn’t breastfeed my child, I would pump & cry for hours and couldn’t make enough for one feeding. I couldn’t bend over to change a diaper or pick him up out of his crib when he was crying.  People would come to the house to see the baby and I would stay in bed because I didn’t want to see anyone. I felt like everyone was bonding with my baby but me. What I want other moms to know is that it feels the worst when you think it’s only happening to you, and you think you have to pretend you’re fine. Just hearing another mom say she’s been there makes it feel better. Even a stranger. Thank you @chrissyteigen and everyone else for speaking up don’t ever be ashamed,  you’re not alone 🤜🏼🤛🏼 #mywishformoms #maternalmentalhealth #postpartumdepression #maternalmentalhealthweek 
#maternalmentalhealthawareness #csection #csectionrecovery #csectionawarenessmonth
  • This is what it felt like having my baby. It wasn’t love at first sight. After my epidural and my first spinal block failed, I had a second spinal block before the c-section which made me numb from my head to my toes, to the point where I was unable to turn my head to see my son for the first time. During the last 40 mins of surgery I was nauseous and disoriented and crying and reaching out for him but couldn’t see or touch him. My husband got to hold him, watch him get his first bath while I was laying in another room where a nurse repeatedly pushed onto my incision area asking “does this hurt?” I was told to stand up and walk 12 hours after having major abdominal surgery. When my sister in law came to take photos of the baby I was so disgusted by my appearance that I refused to be in one single photo. It was like I wasn’t even there. A week later I hemorrhaged and was in the ER for 9 hours with my 8 day old baby and then a subsequent 24 hour stay where my husband refused to leave me and also refused to give the baby to someone else. He took care of two completely helpless human beings in the hospital by himself. During this hospital stay I was unable to breastfeed due to the pain, which triggered my body to stop producing milk completely. My husband continued taking care of us both for weeks while I recovered, I couldn’t breastfeed my child, I would pump & cry for hours and couldn’t make enough for one feeding. I couldn’t bend over to change a diaper or pick him up out of his crib when he was crying. People would come to the house to see the baby and I would stay in bed because I didn’t want to see anyone. I felt like everyone was bonding with my baby but me. What I want other moms to know is that it feels the worst when you think it’s only happening to you, and you think you have to pretend you’re fine. Just hearing another mom say she’s been there makes it feel better. Even a stranger. Thank you @chrissyteigen and everyone else for speaking up don’t ever be ashamed, you’re not alone 🤜🏼🤛🏼 #mywishformoms #maternalmentalhealth #postpartumdepression #maternalmentalhealthweek
    #maternalmentalhealthawareness #csection #csectionrecovery #csectionawarenessmonth
  •  332  45  2 May, 2019

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  • I gave you my time.

I gave you my body.

I gave you my sleep.

I gave you my prayers, my tears, my nights, and my days. 
There were moments where I felt like I gave you all of me.

Moments when I wondered if there was more of me left to give to you. 
And in those moments when I felt like I had nothing left to give, I was reminded what you give to me. ☀️ .
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You give me a new perspective, a better way to see the world.

You give me a new look at time. 
You teach me that time is precious and each moment counts.

You give me a new body.

One that is strong and powerful and flawed all at once.

You give me a new faith, one that knows I can’t do this life on my own strength.

You give me a new name.

Mama.

This name that gives life new meaning.

You give me a new version of myself.

A version that is more compassionate, caring and hopeful then the one before.

So even when I give you my body, time, sleep, days and my nights, I know that it is worth it.

That motherhood is meaningful.

That these little moments matter. 
That motherhood is full of seasons of giving and moments of receiving. 
That even though this is one of the hardest things I have ever done, it is also the best thing I have ever done. 
God gave me to you, and you to me, and for that I will always be thankful. .
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☀️What’s something you’ve learned about your self as a parent??☀️
  • I gave you my time.

    I gave you my body.

    I gave you my sleep.

    I gave you my prayers, my tears, my nights, and my days.
    There were moments where I felt like I gave you all of me.

    Moments when I wondered if there was more of me left to give to you.
    And in those moments when I felt like I had nothing left to give, I was reminded what you give to me. ☀️ .
    .
    You give me a new perspective, a better way to see the world.

    You give me a new look at time.
    You teach me that time is precious and each moment counts.

    You give me a new body.

    One that is strong and powerful and flawed all at once.

    You give me a new faith, one that knows I can’t do this life on my own strength.

    You give me a new name.

    Mama.

    This name that gives life new meaning.

    You give me a new version of myself.

    A version that is more compassionate, caring and hopeful then the one before.

    So even when I give you my body, time, sleep, days and my nights, I know that it is worth it.

    That motherhood is meaningful.

    That these little moments matter.
    That motherhood is full of seasons of giving and moments of receiving.
    That even though this is one of the hardest things I have ever done, it is also the best thing I have ever done.
    God gave me to you, and you to me, and for that I will always be thankful. .
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    ☀️What’s something you’ve learned about your self as a parent??☀️
  •  614  21  24 May, 2019
  • This week is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week. As someone who suffers from prenatal depression and someone who has suffered from postpartum depression and anxiety in the past I wanted to share some things if you may be suffering too. 
#mywishformoms is to know these things
1. You are NOT failing. Being depressed or anxious after having your baby and still finding it in you to go on each day is a success.
2. Meds or no meds- you’re still a good mom
3. Some days (and sometimes what seems like eternity) you will feel guilty for being depressed or anxious when the world tells you to be over the moon for your baby. Your guilt does NOT define you. You are amazing and being a mom is the hardest job in the world. 
4. Don’t be afraid to reach out. Tell your spouse, a friend, a family member or if you have none of the above reach out to someone on social media you know (or don’t know) that gets what you’re going through. Trust me, we all have to stand together. 
5. It’s okay to love yourself, your new body. It’s also okay for that to be a process too. We change, our bodies change our minds change and it’s okay if you don’t love it right away. Part of this journey is learning how to love ourselves. 
I will never forget feelings of guilt, feelings of failure, depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation and everything that came with my experience of postpartum depression. I go through it now, only as prenatal. With 25 days left I am trying to have a positive outlook on tackling my postpartum depression if it arises and working through it and with myself.

Momma, I know not all of the days will be bright. But they will all be worth it. I promise you that. What you’re doing matters. ❤️
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#maternalmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealthweek #maternalhealth #maternalmhmatters #maternalmentalhealthawareness #maternalmentalhealthawarenessweek #mentalhealth #motherhoodintheraw #motherhoodunfiltered #maternalmentalhealthmatters #postpartumdepression #postpartumbody #postpartumanxiety #postpartumhealth #postpartummentalhealth #overcomingdepression #overcominganxiety #mentalhealthrecovery #momsirl #joyinthejourney #throwback
  • This week is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week. As someone who suffers from prenatal depression and someone who has suffered from postpartum depression and anxiety in the past I wanted to share some things if you may be suffering too.
    #mywishformoms is to know these things
    1. You are NOT failing. Being depressed or anxious after having your baby and still finding it in you to go on each day is a success.
    2. Meds or no meds- you’re still a good mom
    3. Some days (and sometimes what seems like eternity) you will feel guilty for being depressed or anxious when the world tells you to be over the moon for your baby. Your guilt does NOT define you. You are amazing and being a mom is the hardest job in the world.
    4. Don’t be afraid to reach out. Tell your spouse, a friend, a family member or if you have none of the above reach out to someone on social media you know (or don’t know) that gets what you’re going through. Trust me, we all have to stand together.
    5. It’s okay to love yourself, your new body. It’s also okay for that to be a process too. We change, our bodies change our minds change and it’s okay if you don’t love it right away. Part of this journey is learning how to love ourselves.
    I will never forget feelings of guilt, feelings of failure, depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation and everything that came with my experience of postpartum depression. I go through it now, only as prenatal. With 25 days left I am trying to have a positive outlook on tackling my postpartum depression if it arises and working through it and with myself.

    Momma, I know not all of the days will be bright. But they will all be worth it. I promise you that. What you’re doing matters. ❤️
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    #maternalmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealthweek #maternalhealth #maternalmhmatters #maternalmentalhealthawareness #maternalmentalhealthawarenessweek #mentalhealth #motherhoodintheraw #motherhoodunfiltered #maternalmentalhealthmatters #postpartumdepression #postpartumbody #postpartumanxiety #postpartumhealth #postpartummentalhealth #overcomingdepression #overcominganxiety #mentalhealthrecovery #momsirl #joyinthejourney #throwback
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