I went about the wrong way. I thought we could be civil about the divorce and just sign off on the things we wanted and would be willing to work around, but that immediately led to anger because I actually wanted to go through with the divorce. That led to a temper tantrum like you've never seen, tons of lies being spewed about me, utilities being shut off, bank cards canceled, phone shut off... The whole nine. Don't think that you can have an adult conversation with a narcissist when divorce is involved, no matter who wanted it to begin with. Just quietly do what you need to do, get some legal assistance, and slip away without the argument. You'll thank me later.